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To leave DH family WhatsApp group?

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IslaWhitey · 12/07/2026 11:17

To leave DH’s family WhatsApp group?

Just to reduce my own admin / phone admin which is getting too much.

No specific drama or anything.

I would explain they can go via DH re future family arrangements, (and obviously contact me directly should they still wish to speak to me specifically)

DH is not on my family WhatsApp and I’m getting fed up with being the “organiser” for stuff with his side of the family. I’ve only tolerated it this long for DC benefit of seeing cousins.

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 12/07/2026 11:20

Its obvs going to ruffle some feathers if you leave the group. I'd be tempted to stay but @ your DH in the group everytime there's a task to be done. Makes it clear you aren't taking on the responsibility for it.

And tell your DH to step up with his family's demands.

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 12/07/2026 11:20

Just mute it and don’t check it!

NewNewForest · 12/07/2026 11:19

No this is a bad idea - you need to tell your husband he’s in charge of any admin coming out of the group and then mute the notifications but it’s not worth the fallout of taking yourself off.
add him to your family one to even it out though!

IslaWhitey · 12/07/2026 11:19

Tried muting it but I keep checking

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BudgetBuster · 12/07/2026 11:18

Why not just mute it and let your DH respond?
I think it'd look a bit rude leaving.

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 12/07/2026 11:18

I would just mute it and don't respond in it. Remind DH that he needs to be looking at the chat and responding