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To feel dismissed by this Dr. DD PMS

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GoonDDyougotthis · 12/07/2026 07:34

DD15.5 has been experiencing lots of ups and downs since last year: low moods, anxiety, insecurity, sleep disturbances, changes in appetite, irritability. She sees a Therapist.

I have been tracking her for the last few months and I realised they are linked to her period, and I am convinced she is suffering from PMS. Her period started at 12 but it took about 2 years to become more regular,

I took her to the Dr last week and all she said is to keep track of it; and analyse /think why she is having those feelings/feeling this way, reasons why she is feeling low, anxious and discuss with therapist. 😒 Maybe sleep better and eat better before her period. Coming from a female Dr, think her response is ridiculous. I asked her if she could take evening primrose or calcium and she said there is no evidence that It can help.

I shall see another dr.

Any advice from PMS sufferers out there. Any apps she can use to track period; Anything she can do/take to improve. We started well teen her and omega in the meantime and I am keeping an eye, also I lavender oil in her pulse to help with sleep.

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RandomMess · 12/07/2026 07:54

How bad is it, PMDD level or nowhere near as extreme?

GoonDDyougotthis · 12/07/2026 07:54

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 12/07/2026 07:52

What did the Dr think when you mentioned trying the contraceptive pill if you didn’t think therapy was helpful?

We didn’t mention contraceptive pill; was hoping the dr would mention it

I didn’t say therapy wasn’t helpful but I thought there are other things out there that can help with this.

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Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 12/07/2026 07:52

What did the Dr think when you mentioned trying the contraceptive pill if you didn’t think therapy was helpful?

GoonDDyougotthis · 12/07/2026 07:52

I have read other threads where gynaecologists have recommended calcium and evening primrose oil and it has made a difference. Just wanted to know if DD15 can take them. I guess we shall experiment ourselves.

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SuddenLightbulb · 12/07/2026 07:52

GoonDDyougotthis · 12/07/2026 07:49

Menopause was impacting me and I was feeling lots of anxiety. If I go to the dr and they tell me analyse why you are feeling so anxious? 😬 now I am taking menopace, omega 3, magnesium, and I feel better and don’t have to spend thousands on therapy.

But you’re not a teenage girl. The doctor is right.

GoonDDyougotthis · 12/07/2026 07:49

Menopause was impacting me and I was feeling lots of anxiety. If I go to the dr and they tell me analyse why you are feeling so anxious? 😬 now I am taking menopace, omega 3, magnesium, and I feel better and don’t have to spend thousands on therapy.

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parietal · 12/07/2026 07:49

The contraceptive pill might help. Vitamins and lifestyle changes dont have any solid evidence base which is why the doctors won’t recommend them.

your Dd needs to track her periods and learn to recognise her moods and how to manage them. There is no magic pill to fix this.

GoonDDyougotthis · 12/07/2026 07:46

Surely there are things out there that can help? Vitamins, contraceptive pills, lifestyle changes. If it is impacting your day to day life? It is not just impacting her one or two days before her period.

If you are suffering from menopause and is impacting your day you day life would you be happy with this response?

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Contraryjane · 12/07/2026 07:40

Another doctor will say the same thing.

Werhere · 12/07/2026 07:37

What did you want from the doc?