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Bathroom request at bedtime

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thecrazyone111 · 11/07/2026 22:26

My partner goes to the toilet at night just before our daughter goes to brush her teeth. My daughter says there’s a smell in the loo so she wants a few minutes before going to brush her teeth. I’ve request my partner to use the second loo which is literally 5 meters away so our daughters bedtime routine will go smoother. My partner says this request is excessive. Who is being unreasonable?

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mindutopia · 11/07/2026 22:31

Perfectly reasonable request, I think. I wouldn’t go have a shit in the middle of my kids (or Dh!) getting ready for bed. It’s a bit rude if there is another perfectly available loo. Is your partner her dad or not?

Bubbleybees · 11/07/2026 22:31

I'm with your daughter. When we only had one bathroom there wasn't any choice, but have moved to a house with multiple thrones and now the best practice is you don't make smells in the one with the toothbrushes. Not always possible, but more often than not.

FlyingWithBabyLongHaul · 11/07/2026 22:29

You are not being unreasonable. I can't believe a Dad wouldn't do one simple, easy ask to make his daughter's daily routine a little easier / more pleasant. Selfish. Is he a deadbeat dad in other respects, or is it just this one thing?

If he won't do this, is it an option for you daughter to brush her teeth in the other bathroom?

Pineapplewhip · 11/07/2026 22:28

I think your DD needs to be less of a princess and just get on with it.

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