No party bag for DS

She probably just didn’t get enough and its “more polite” to upset family than the other little kids. If she was only getting the party bags this morning she was probably stressed and panic buying. Yeah its annoying but I wouldn’t have got overly angry about it tbh.

Were any of the other children family?

Of course you can feel bad but you don't make a huge fuss and leave earlier than expected. Mine is younger than your daughter and went to a cousins party earlier this year he didn't get a party bag and he didn't cry he was just pleased he got to see his cousin, eat cake and take home a balloon.

She hasn’t embarrassed herself. It’s ridiculous to invite the ops children and leave them out whilst giving everyone else one. They are children, they will be upset so better to leave with them. If you are doing party bags you do one for every invited child and make it appropriate for them eg allergy safe, age appropriate toys etc.

I think you could have handled it better not to ruin a birthday party - said to the children we are special we are family or similar ..distracted and kept the focus on their cousin..it's teaching them something to make a fuss about a gift.

I wouldn’t have invited you in the first place. No 10 year old girl really wants a 3 year old cousin gatecrashing their party. I suspect something happened here re communication. She was unreasonable to have invited yours and then not got them something. You were unreasonable to be fuming and kicking up a fuss. Her poor 10 year old daughter was probably very embarrassed by both of you tbh. This party was about her and has seemingly been overshadowed by some drama over party bags.

This @girlmummy25 And may be she thought family would be more ubderstanding. Of course kids are upset op but if you dont make a big deal out of it they will forget in a day or two. Frankly PBs are often just plastic junk and sweets that are hell to get rid of (cos kids want to keep them and one feels guilty throwing away unused or underused stuff) but useless to keep

I'm guessing she's done hurtful things before? It's not ok to leave your kids out, and up to the hosts to give out the bags and not just let people take extra.

Surely you'd get something age appropriate that wasn't a choke hazard for him? That's what most people would do rather than exclude a kid.

It sounds like she wanted your daughter there and felt obligated to invite your son. It's honestly not a huge deal and it was kind of her daughter to have her cousins at her party especially when one was so much younger.

I think you'd be best placed to thank her for the invitation and say you had a lovely time. To make such a fuss over this would be setting your children a terrible example.

Perhaps she was thinking that the DS being only 3yrs old was too young and the tat in a bag would have presented as choke hazards.

I'm sure a bit of cake was enough for the toddler.

Not a tight bitch as you so eloquently put it, just someone with the sense to realise that a party bag for a toddler is completely unnecessary.

What a tight bitch. Just can’t understand her thinking. Just don’t understand people that don’t treat kids all the same.

@girlmummy25 I’d not have thought he should be there! It’s babysitting! My DDs would not have wanted a 3 year old date crashing. What could he join in with? I’d just not mention it again.

why was a 3 year old at a 10 year olds party

Christ can just imagine how these kids are going to grow up with drama lama mum

That’s really nasty. She should have had at least 2 spare extra party bags for this scenario.

I've never understood the obsession some mothers have over party bags. I've never provided them at parties and don't like receiving the tat bag when we go to others.

YABU to get angry over this. Surely the children should be happy to have been to a lovely party, I'd be embarrassed if my children got upset over not getting a fucking party bag.

ETA You've also embarrassed yourself by leaving early instead of demonstrating gratitude that your in-laws hosted a party for your child. Hopefully they wont waste their efforts in future.

Edited it again to correct, that the party wasn't for your child, it was for the niece, but my point still stands, you still embarrassed yourself by walking out earlier than planned over fucking party bags. Get a grip.

He's three, the party was for a 19nyear old. I probably would have got a bag for him, but let's be honest, he wasn't really part of the party. It was for a group of 10 year old girls

Because he's 3.5, a slice of cake is enough.

It's a party bag, get a bloody grip

I always used to make up a few extra just in case. I definitely wouldn't have excluded any kids

I wouldn’t expect the bags to be appropriate really for ds considering the age difference.

Yabu to be angry about it and essentially storm our, they had a fun time with their relative celebrating, a bag they’d have forgotten about within hours is not a reason to cause a drama

It is unfortunate.
Try not to wind yourself up.
It's thoughtless of her.
I'll never understand it but young children just love those party bags.
I never did them.
I gave a packet of natural jellies instead.
Far easier and the children were happy.
I would have stopped on the way home and allowed him pick something out, and move on.
Its unlikely to be deliberate is it?