No party bag for DS

My children pre high school age very much knew that family were important and part of the deal. I don’t want children who think it’s all about them. Would not have crossed my mind to
not give a younger child a party bag, in fact I would have made one especially for his age

Yeah, I think this is too harsh.

I also hate party bags, I hate all the tat.

But kids love them. I would never throw a party and not give out party bags at the end (ideally without plastic tat), and my kids would also be really upset if they didn’t receive a party bag when all the other kids did.

You speak like someone who’s never seen a line of 4 and 7 year olds line up at the end of a party to say “thank you for having me” and receive their party bag. Of course they would be upset not to get one, and if it’s your kids that would be difficult to witness.

@girlmummy25i sympathise, but it’s done now. Just need to try and forget about it and move on. Hopefully your little ones are ok.

And
"When things go wrong, it's not an innocent mistake. Someone has done something awful to you intentionally."

Fuming ??? Whats the history here ??
fuming and storming off is waaaay ott

they miscounted as you were family maybe didn't add you to the same whstapp group
honest mistake or do you suppose it was on purpose ?

I just want to point out that breast milk or formula is a baby's food main source until the age of 12 months.

Kids absolutely buzz for party bags, I used to be absolutely sweating at my kids party at the awful thought of not having enough, I always had tonnes extra to make sure everyone got one and if a wee sibling was wandering about when they were handed out they got one too (yes OTT but seeing them looking at everyone opening theirs crushes me) but that's generally how I found other mums too, plenty to give it to any kids. To be honest I genuinely hate them- bags of total tat and sugar that you throw away but for whatever reason they are so important to children. I often do books and/or sweetie cones. I swear I'd have opened my purse and given your kids a tenner each or ransacked the kitchen to put something together for them, I couldn't bear the thought of their wee faces. My sister in law gave one to my 14 year old daughter at our nieces 3rd birthday recently as she didn't want her to feel left out. Maybe we are all big softies but I would have done the same

Yes. I can honestly say I wouldn’t and didn’t feel bad. In the greater scheme of things this really doesn’t matter. I am old now, my DC are in their 20s and 30s. Life is short enough, don’t waste any time on this. You have wasted today already.

Please delete this and raise your own thread

She probably thought he wouldn’t be bothered about a party bag. Bad mistake on her part but you seem unreasonably angry about it. Back story with SIL maybe?

Probably that's what happened, but still upsetting for the OP's children.

You need to start your own thread. This one is about missing party bags! And you’re not going to get compensation for them tossing breastmilk! They were operating according to their safety guidelines. They couldn’t test the milk to check whether it was milk because it was frozen. The safety of everyone on the flight is more important than milk for a baby past the age of weaning. I get that it’s frustrating when it takes such an effort to pump, but that’s life. They couldn’t be sure it was safe.

Well you just explain it. "The party bags got muddled and we're family so we take a step back. I'll get you an ice cream on the way home." Sorted.

If the party bags were in a muddle, sounds like a case of "family hold back"

I do think you are being rather unreasonable over a few sweets. Mistakes happen.

This is where you teach your kids life isn’t always fair and you try and equip them to handle unfair or disappointing situations, or how to self advocate… Although it sounds like that ship has sailed (and then sunk!)

You didn't have to make the 1 year old a party bag, he was 1 he wouldn't care a jot.

The OPs children would have been easily placated with the knowledge they didn't need a party bag because they were getting extra time with their cousins and presumably could then have longer on the bouncy castle once everyone had gone.

For a party at nursery, I once had to make up party bags for several children aged three and four and one child aged one. I gave the one-year-old a different party bag from the others which contained a sensory ball, another small toy suitable for his age and some chocolate buttons. It wasn't difficult!

She should have done something for every child who was there, bar babies. You don’t leave a three year old out, you just adapt the contents.

And I would have got my DC out of there asap and expect DH to explain to his DP why we were leaving.

This. Surely every host makes sure there are enough plus maybe a spare?

That was really poor of her. As OP says, if they were being given out at the door it wouldn’t have been so obvious, but to give them out while the kids are all still there and have one it two children holding nothing is bloody awful. I wouldn’t normally kick off in a situation like that, but I would have pointedly and loudly asked, SIL, where are my DCs’ party bags?

So you’d rather him be given a bag of unsuitable, potentially dangerous items, instead of distracting and diverting him like a normal parent?

She had obviously made up party bags for 10 year old girls and not thought to do one for the toddler cousin. Probably didn't expect them to be opened at the house either. So it's been a mistake rather than a deliberate insult. It would have been a good opportunity to distract your DC and promise them a treat on the way home.

Oh purleese ...

"Who's taking a 3yo to a 10yo birthday party in the first place?"
It's family, fgs. 🤦‍♀️Neither here, nor there.

It kind of is relevant, since OP is losing her shit over a missing party bag. He was there because he's family. At a pre-teen's party. It's too much to be 'so angry'.

You were fuming?
So angry, you left.

Are you always this dramatic?
I suggest you get a grip.