Would this put you off sex with your husband ?

Horrible and all too familiar. My ex was a sulky, nasty sex pest too. Do you want to stay with him? Have you any long term plans, OP?

Feeling pressure to have sex would put me off.
Being with someone who didn't want to have sex with me would be pretty awful too. For them to hate it so much they're clenching their teeth and screaming in their head would be horrendous, that would really put me off.
I think you should be considering divorce, this isn't right for either of you.

Vile. Absolutely guaranteed to switch off sex drive is unwanted sex.

The idea of continuing this would sicken anyone

He is manipulative, coercive and sexually abusive. LTB. Please.

I thought you were going to say once or twice a month. He’s whining about a few times a week? Also I would feel put off if he said the only thing he cared about was that I have sex with him. Like that was all I was good for.

Hes deeply coercive around sex.

Hes happy to put his dick into you and use your body to fuck even though he know you don't want to and that you don't like it.

Could you do that to someone OP? I couldn't do it to someone I didn't like, let alone someone I was supposed to love.

The only consent is enthusiastic consent. Please, please leave.

I don't even know where to begin with this. I don't think you're consenting to sex if the reason you're having it is to prevent someone's bad mood. That's coercion.

Okay you need to leave.
This is madness - imagine a friend told you that this is how they "get through" having sex with their husband.

You'd tell them to leave and not to put themselves through this anymore.

This is horrific. Sex should be something that's mutually enjoyable, not something you clench your teeth and scream through. Not being dramatic but are you okay? Do you want to be in this marriage?

Why do t you want it…is it just him or is it something else?

Do you value life? Do you see it as a gift? If you can say yes to both of those questions what he hell are you doing wasting yours with this man?

You don't want sex with him. Discuss a sexless marriage then when he says no, file for divorce. Other wise accept being raped pretty regularly. ☹️

Life's too short to stay shackled to a sex-pest.

You are having sex with him regularly - once or twice per week. That IS regularly.

What frequency is he expecting exactly? Twice per day?!

Jeez, he needs to get a grip. The moods at you saying no is not cool, it's coercive and would put me off sex, I couldn't even have sex twice per week with a moody sex pest sulker like that. I'd be permanently turned off.

If the sex was better, you'd want it more.

Gross.

How could he possibly think such behaviour would make you more keen to have sex with him?! I can’t imagine a bigger turn off (i.e. “never want you to touch me again” territory) and would be issuing divorce papers.

You state you are already only doing it to “keep the peace”, so without anything resembling enthusiasm, and he’s pressuring you into it with nagging/ emotional blackmail. Mind boggling that he’d think that would create sexual desire from you, so the only reasonable conclusion is that he doesn’t care whether you want it, he just wants you to do it regardless. You should ask yourself what kind of man could enjoy sex with someone he knows didn’t want to participate in it. Grim.

Why are you still in this relationship? You need to end it; he’s made it crystal clear that he has no respect for you.

This is why im so pleased i chose single life.
My ex was a sex pesting pig, i told him to fuck off thank god we didnt live together.

He doesn't care what you do as long as you meet his needs. The pressure is unforgivable. He doesnt care what you want or how you feel about it. You are just an orifice to him. I would find him repulsive.

Twice a week is a perfectly reasonable level of sex. ‘Lack of sex’ isn’t stopping him doing anything. He himself is the only reason he hasn’t given up smoking etc.

There are a lot of concerning things going on in your relationship, very much including that you’re having sex you don’t want. ‘Lack of sex’ is not the problem in your relationship.

I think I would probably have counselling, but it sounds like honest communication might well end the relationship tbh.

I feel bad on my other half as we have sex about once a month. Mine doesn’t beg though, or make me feel shitty about it. I’ve been through a lot this year. We tend to focus on other areas of our relationship though. Intimacy is important to us but it’s not the main focus.

This would absolutely put me off and him using it as a bargaining tool if we have more sex I’ll pack in smoking etc really he sounds pathetic if I was you I would tell him that his comments and pathetic behaviour is actually turning you off hope you sort things out OP and I’m sorry your going through this please don’t allow him to pressure you in to anything.

He sounds bloody awful @wouldthis . I would never want to have sex with him either. You definitely shouldn’t be having sex you don’t want. You’d have a much nicer life without him.

It’s fine that you don’t want sex but has something changed in your relationship recently or have you always had such a mismatched libido?