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Theyreeatingthedogs · 11/07/2026 12:55

I find them a bit meh. I'm happy for them to do their own thing if they leave me alone. I think this is overstepping. Do vegans not have pets? After all, keeping pets is just forcing animals to live and be controlled by humans.

BBC News - Darlington birds of prey event cancelled after vegan groups' concern - BBC News
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c6214l61604o?app-referrer=deep-link

A bird handler is holding a hawk on his gloved hand. A blurred crowd is stood behind him. The hawk has food clasped in its beak.

Darlington birds of prey event cancelled after vegan groups' concern

Hopetown Darlington stops the event, which had been planned for 31 July.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c6214l61604o?app-referrer=deep-link

OP posts:
Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 20:18

Werhere · 12/07/2026 20:08

I had no idea about the horror of the dairy industry a few years ago and I am happy now to be more informed and I can make more informed choices. We should all be educated about the meat and dairy industry.

but you cracked on eating meat and dairy?

Gosh - you are super aggressive aren’t you?
No I didn’t crack on. If you read my posts again I am eating a mostly plant based diet.

clearlyy · 12/07/2026 20:18

I have a vegan friend who has two rescue dogs. Doesn’t give a flying fuck if I eat meat. Just does her thing and I do mine. She knows I know about cruelty to animals but unfortunately being autistic and averse to most alternatives, I try my best by having only cruelty free products. She understands people do their best. She is literally the only vegan I’ve ever met who is reasonable. The rest? No. Not one bit.

redboxer321 · 12/07/2026 20:17

Werhere · 12/07/2026 20:16

Same people wittering on about school gate cliques, narcissists and NC with 90% of the people they seem to know

Seems like they'd be a good match

Werhere · 12/07/2026 20:16

redboxer321 · 12/07/2026 20:15

You should introduce the people in your life to some of the posters on here who are apparently surrounded by people who won't stop wittering on about how they don’t eat meat or dairy and how they feed their DC a vegan diet.

Same people wittering on about school gate cliques, narcissists and NC with 90% of the people they seem to know

redboxer321 · 12/07/2026 20:15

Werhere · 12/07/2026 20:09

Me too.

I do enjoy chicken though!

I just can’t get my head around how this issue seems to be so dominant in people’s lives on this thread. In RL, no one seems to give even one shiny shit either way

You should introduce the people in your life to some of the posters on here who are apparently surrounded by people who won't stop wittering on about how they don’t eat meat or dairy and how they feed their DC a vegan diet.

redboxer321 · 12/07/2026 20:10

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 12/07/2026 19:25

It’s like the old joke - how do you know if someone is a vegan? They’ll tell you

How very embarrassing for you, my love. You do know that you actually posted that and this is not some strange dream? I hope one day you will look back and cringe at what you've posted on this thread but somehow I doubt that will ever happen.

Werhere · 12/07/2026 20:09

ShetlandishMum · 12/07/2026 19:58

Same here.

Me too.

I do enjoy chicken though!

I just can’t get my head around how this issue seems to be so dominant in people’s lives on this thread. In RL, no one seems to give even one shiny shit either way

Werhere · 12/07/2026 20:08

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:52

Of course it doesn’t. I am not a vegan, but eat a mostly plant based diet. I believe even small changes people make can make a difference.

I had no idea about the horror of the dairy industry a few years ago and I am happy now to be more informed and I can make more informed choices. We should all be educated about the meat and dairy industry.

but you cracked on eating meat and dairy?

ShetlandishMum · 12/07/2026 19:58

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:52

Of course it doesn’t. I am not a vegan, but eat a mostly plant based diet. I believe even small changes people make can make a difference.

Same here.

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:52

Werhere · 12/07/2026 19:42

But that education falls flat presumably? Given you’re not a vegan

Of course it doesn’t. I am not a vegan, but eat a mostly plant based diet. I believe even small changes people make can make a difference.

Werhere · 12/07/2026 19:42

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:39

I am not a vegan, but I witness how people
react to vegans and often in quite aggressive ways.

A lot of people just react very emotionally to people being vegans and see it as a personal criticism against their own meat eating. Personally I am happy to listen and get educated. I had no idea about the horror of the dairy industry a few years ago and I am happy now to be more informed and I can make more informed choices. We should all be educated about the meat and dairy industry.

But that education falls flat presumably? Given you’re not a vegan

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:39

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 12/07/2026 19:32

Omg I literally said it’s a joke. You’re not doing a very good job of dispelling the myth that vegans are uptight.

As yes, as @ShetlandishMum said, some do. I had a work colleague like it. Any opportunity wittering on about how she doesn’t eat meat or dairy and how they’re bringing their daughter up vegan

I am not a vegan, but I witness how people
react to vegans and often in quite aggressive ways.

A lot of people just react very emotionally to people being vegans and see it as a personal criticism against their own meat eating. Personally I am happy to listen and get educated. I had no idea about the horror of the dairy industry a few years ago and I am happy now to be more informed and I can make more informed choices. We should all be educated about the meat and dairy industry.

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 12/07/2026 19:32

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:27

Do they? Completely out of context start lecturing you about veganism? No they don’t unless you know some very strange people.

Omg I literally said it’s a joke. You’re not doing a very good job of dispelling the myth that vegans are uptight.

As yes, as @ShetlandishMum said, some do. I had a work colleague like it. Any opportunity wittering on about how she doesn’t eat meat or dairy and how they’re bringing their daughter up vegan

ShetlandishMum · 12/07/2026 19:28

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:27

Do they? Completely out of context start lecturing you about veganism? No they don’t unless you know some very strange people.

Oh yes some will.

Kamilaa · 12/07/2026 19:27

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 12/07/2026 19:25

It’s like the old joke - how do you know if someone is a vegan? They’ll tell you

Do they? Completely out of context start lecturing you about veganism? No they don’t unless you know some very strange people.

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 12/07/2026 19:25

WillThingsEverBeFergaliciousAgain · 12/07/2026 19:19

If they wanted to share the reality and be listened to they would do it in a different way. The way they go about it shows they are fuelling their own egos

It’s like the old joke - how do you know if someone is a vegan? They’ll tell you

WillThingsEverBeFergaliciousAgain · 12/07/2026 19:19

Melisand · 12/07/2026 19:16

I expect they’re sharing the reality of meat and daily farms to stand up for animal rights, not to fuel their own egos 🙄

If they wanted to share the reality and be listened to they would do it in a different way. The way they go about it shows they are fuelling their own egos

Melisand · 12/07/2026 19:16

WillThingsEverBeFergaliciousAgain · 12/07/2026 18:33

People can make decisions without all of the facts.

We do it all the time.

Theres a wealth of information easily accessible to everyone 24/7 so if someone is choosing not to get that information first, that's their right. It's not up to some random on the street to be issuing leaflets about rape and murder in order to fuel their own ego.

I expect they’re sharing the reality of meat and daily farms to stand up for animal rights, not to fuel their own egos 🙄

Werhere · 12/07/2026 19:16

KWaldron · 12/07/2026 19:12

Vegans have taken the time and trouble to find out what is done to living creatures before they end up on your plate. You're free to stay ignorant, but far from "meh" vegans have a conscience and live by that. They're admirable.

Are you a vegan?

KWaldron · 12/07/2026 19:12

Theyreeatingthedogs · 11/07/2026 12:55

I find them a bit meh. I'm happy for them to do their own thing if they leave me alone. I think this is overstepping. Do vegans not have pets? After all, keeping pets is just forcing animals to live and be controlled by humans.

BBC News - Darlington birds of prey event cancelled after vegan groups' concern - BBC News
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c6214l61604o?app-referrer=deep-link

Vegans have taken the time and trouble to find out what is done to living creatures before they end up on your plate. You're free to stay ignorant, but far from "meh" vegans have a conscience and live by that. They're admirable.

Werhere · 12/07/2026 19:06

BackToLurk · 12/07/2026 19:03

I raised my children as vegetarians. Both still vegetarian. One vegan.

Well, great.

I wasn’t asking you though 😕

Werhere · 12/07/2026 19:05

Gloriia · 12/07/2026 18:41

'A complete non-comparison. Smoking is unilaterally bad for you. I know some vegans like to claim that meat is bad for you too but it just isn’t the case '

It is bad for the animals though, suffering horrible deaths and people should see that suffering before they eat their burgers and pies. If they don't care, well that says mores about them but a lot of people have a total disconnect between the cute lambs and cows in the fields and how their body parts ends up on their plates.

Again with your burgers and pies

Why not use “chicken salad” and “chicken wraps” as your examples @Gloriia ?

redboxer321 · 12/07/2026 19:05

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 12/07/2026 19:02

No one is saying that - it was just an example of when vegans have been far less of a bore

It is exactly what you are saying. The fact that you can't see that says it all really.
By the way, I'd consider eating lionfish which are an invasive species in some parts of the world which gives me an idea about some MNers...

BackToLurk · 12/07/2026 19:03

Werhere · 12/07/2026 18:59

You really don’t want to elaborate on your own situation do you @Gloriia . Like whether you raised your own kids vegetarians , whether you made your disgust on meat eaters apparent to them, and whether they are still vegetarian.

So I’d be confident the answer is
Yes you raised them vegetarian
yes you made you disgust for meat eaters abundantly clear to your children

and no… they are not vegetarians as adults!

I raised my children as vegetarians. Both still vegetarian. One vegan.

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 12/07/2026 19:02

redboxer321 · 12/07/2026 18:53

Just to be clear @BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw if someone can't take the time to get my drink right - black would do if you don't have plant milk - I've got to consume a drink I don't like which is going to give me an upset stomach and make me fart?
People take you take the full-of-palm-oil biscuit 😡

No one is saying that - it was just an example of when vegans have been far less of a bore