AIBU to find a lawyer for my nephew whose pregnant girlfriend says she doesn't want him on the birth certificate?

No, her nephew wants to exercise his rights as this childs father to be named on his childs birth certificate which the mother, in a hissy fit of selfishness after a barney they Both had, wants to deny him that right.

That’s not what’s happening here though. Of course that would be different. Unless the woman in Ops post was shagging around, there’s morning to suggest he’s not the father. But she’s threatening not to put him on the birth certificate just because she’s angry at him.

At 35 years old I am sure he can make his own enquiries into his rights.

He doesn't need his Aunty getting involved.

OP do you even know why she has kicked him out? He is 35 I would leave them to it.

Regardless, unless he has been physically violent I think threatening not to put DH on a birth certificate is morally wrong. I can see why he would be distressed. However….struggling to consider he is innocent if she’s kicked him out and threatened this.

I take it you wouldn’t be incensed though if your heavily pregnant daughter was using her unborn child as a weapon and a threat? You’d also be the first to be outraged if said daughter wasn’t getting child support also.

As others have said, be wary of getting too involved. We don’t know what exactly is meant by a ‘turbulent relationship’ and for all you know he isn’t exactly innocent in it all. Or maybe he is and ‘I’ll keep your name off the birth certificate’ is just a means of controlling and manipulating him. If you want to give him any advice, it would be to not give that threat any power. If she says it, he should ignore her or say ok, that’s up to you and leave it at that. Then be prepared to fight it after the birth, if that’s what she decides to do.
As others have said, a lot could happen between now and then.
If that is what happens, then he can look at getting legal advice. He can apply for parental rights, which I imagine would involved a DNA test. I don’t think much can be done right now except try to work on the relationship or discuss what co parenting might look like if they split.
I feel sorry for both these kids.

I wonder what you class as a “stormy relationship “ what has caused this “almighty bust up” ? If she doesn’t want him on the birth certificate there is a reason. If there is any type of domestic abuse going on then he needs to leave now. What sort of man argues in this way with a pregnant woman? Don’t tell me how lovely your nephew is, many abusers are lovely to everyone else. The fact is you don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors. And you only hear your nephews version which will be far from the truth. Also don’t forget there is a child already growing up in the midst of this, aren’t you worried about them? Don’t get drawn into your nephews drama and don’t believe everything he says. They do not sound suited as a couple and should probably part ways.

Of course they are arguing more she is pregnant. I think follow the advice here .

I think you need a hobby!

Not if she’s married. A husband automatically has parental rights, even if he’s not the biological father of the child.

Men can easily source a paternity test afterwards if they are really committed to fatherhood. But you’d be surprised how many don’t.

And let’s not forget those that are on the cert, and walk away anyway.

Thats male privilege. Recognise it?

@RoseField1 Naming a father on a birth certificate who isn't the biological father is likely more common than we realize - maybe not as common nowadays with DNA testing, but definitely in the past! I know someone IRL who did a DNA test to trace her family history and discovered that her grandfather wasn't her Mum's Dad!

Anyway, the OP needs to keep her nose out and if necessary, her nephew will seek legal advice after the baby's born.

I would imagine that going down the legal route now is the fastest way to make sure the relationship is over for good.

So what would happen, theoretically, if a random man rocked up and said that he is the father of any random pregnant woman's baby? She should be forced to put him on?

These MRA types want it all ways. Imagine if women could put men on the birth certificate before birth and then the baby wasn't his? Or if men could get on the birth certificate without the woman's agreement and again it wasn't his? There would be outrage. But perfectly normal checks and balances, with the man either needing to be married to the mother or attending the appointment in person are 'female privilege'

She shouldn’t be allowed to not add him just because she doesn’t like him at that point. If he’s the father, he should be on the birth certificate.

I agree to keep out.

direct him to Google where he can find he information he needs.

What’s going to get tricky is he’ll be in a position whereby he’ll be paying and fighting for access to a child to prove to the court he wants PR.
She’s going to be in matin whereby she may have only 1 of the siblings 50% of the time and only receive maintenance for 1 of them.

So it would really be best for them to cool off, him to be supportive (which I know is hard if she’s being difficult) and for him to maintain a good co parenting relationship with her with their current shared child until the new baby is here.

If he starts playing “law” o er good dad it’ll do him no favours.

Maybe he’s not the father.

Yes that's fine. A man can go to court if he wants it. What is the other alternative? Any man can demand he is put on any birth certificate with no proof of paternity?

This.

He a grown man and it’s up to him to sort this out.

but what is he doing about his existing toddler? Has he requested shared care 50/50? Where is he living? He needs to crack on with getting himself set up to co parent 50% of the time of two children….
Who says that's not what he is trying to do. Why the assumption that he doesn't care about his children?

Biology dictates that only the mother is the legal parent of any baby born outside of marriage
This is not about the mother has so many posters seem to think here. It's about the child. And the child has the right to both parents. It is despicable that a mother uses biology as an excuse to force the father to take legal actions to get the same rights as her.

Biologically, men are physically stronger. Should that give them the right to use their strength to their advantage and deny women what they legally entitled to.

It's really worrying how the growth in women entitlement in the name is women is punishing children even before they are born. Poor kids to be.

as PP said he can apply for PR through the court and if she refuses to confirm he’s the father they can court order a dna test.

but what is he doing about his existing toddler? Has he requested shared care 50/50? Where is he living? He needs to crack on with getting himself set up to co parent 50% of the time of two children….

😂
Men can always choose not to impregnate women they aren't married to. And of course men can absent themselves from the lives of any child they create whether they are on the birth certificate or not.
Biology dictates that only the mother is the legal parent of any baby born outside of marriage. That's not privilege, it's just reality. Biology hugely privileges men, so that's where the male privilege lies.

Marriage would have protected him here
Another stupid comment. He doesn't need marriage to be 'protected'. For a start, there is matter of protection.

The courts will absolutely give him rights to be a father to the child. Equal rights to that of the mother. Marriage or not.

It's not a disease pregnancy