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AIBU to find a lawyer for my nephew whose pregnant girlfriend says she doesn't want him on the birth certificate?

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Hillfarmer · 11/07/2026 10:44

My lovely 35-year old nephew is in a very stormy relationship. He and his GF already have one DC of 18 months. She is pregnant again, due August - we could debate the rights and wrongs of that until the cows come home - but we are where we are. They have just had an almighty bust-up, she's kicked him out of the house and now telling him she won't have him on the birth certificate.

He is a devoted Dad and would be devastated not to have parental rights from the get-go, but what can he do? Are there any family lawyers on here who know whether he can force her hand in some wayl? Are there any legal means he can use before the baby is born - say, get an injunction?

He is named on the birth cerficate of his first DC and of course wants to be named on the second one's birth cert. If he's not on it, I understand that it will be much more of a fight to get access etc.

Any advice welcome!

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Onlywayisrainham · 11/07/2026 10:54

I appreciate what your nephew really wants is peace of mind. But right now, there is no point in legal action, he has no parental rights as there is no child. Who knows what will happen between the couple over the course of the pregnancy? Maybe they work things out. I suggest the best thing your nephew can do is just be supportive - financially, emotionally, whatever.

After the birth he can obtain parental responsibility either by being on the birth certificate or through a court order.

luckylavender · 11/07/2026 10:53

He’s 35. Step away.

chipsandpeas · 11/07/2026 10:53

so your lovely nephew wants to pretty much bully a heavily pregnant woman with legal action...... yeah hes lovely

Nofeckingway · 11/07/2026 10:52

I think you will find that it is her perogative to not name him on the cert . The only proof would be a paternity test after the birth .

DrSBarnett · 11/07/2026 10:51

Parents don't have rights, they have responsibilities, and he will have an easier time dealing with everything if he's aware of that. I would give things some time and not go full pelt at it immediately.

MrSchubertWhiskers · 11/07/2026 10:48

I think all parties should let emotions cool before rushing into further action. People say things in the heat of the moment, just give them a bit of time & space to calm down a bit.