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AIBU to be upset about having to pick a front door I don't like?

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Delara · 11/07/2026 07:45

I got the keys to a new house in May, and my partner moved in last week. I'd been trying for over a month to get a new front door, having had around 5 fitters come to measure and then say they couldn't source a door that narrow.

My partner then moved in and pushed for me to get a new front door ASAP as he had accidentally let the cats out (we currently have a recessed door and need an airlock).

I ended up buying the only style of door I could find that could be produced so narrow, and it's a cotta,ge style front door that will be put on my Edwardian house. It's not been fitted yet but is in production so too late to change. I really wanted a traditional style door.

AIBU to be feeling resentful of the rush and having to compromise on the front door? I lived in a house with three years without an airlock and learned how to not let the cats out. We are both obviously stressed for the cats' safety, and I was planning to buy a door anyway for my partner's sake, but I am feeling resentful that this has pushed me into buying a door that doesn't suit the house.

Pic attached of what it will look like when fitted

I think I am being unreasonable and it's not my partner's fault the fitters couldn't find a door. But I'm struggling with the compromise.

AIBU to be upset about having to pick a front door I don't like?
OP posts:
Delara · 11/07/2026 08:16

ofcolitas · 11/07/2026 08:14

I wouldn't overthink it.

Somestime we have to pick the item we dislike the least, rather than the one we like the most.

That's true, the cottage style door with stripes may have been the only style available but at least I got to choose colour and the glass style.

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Delara · 11/07/2026 08:15

ByRoseBiscuit · 11/07/2026 08:13

It looks fine, and isn’t worth the angst!

Thank you, that's probably true. I guess I'm struggling with it not feeling right as I'm spending 2k on it, and that's the most I've ever spent on any house thing!

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ofcolitas · 11/07/2026 08:14

I wouldn't overthink it.

Somestime we have to pick the item we dislike the least, rather than the one we like the most.

Delara · 11/07/2026 08:14

Thanks for this, it's helping me sort my thoughts out a bit. I but did want one that was more in keeping with the Edwardian/Victorian house, but this was literally the only option the fitters could find in such a narrow width!

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ByRoseBiscuit · 11/07/2026 08:13

It looks fine, and isn’t worth the angst!

Whydoweedsgrowsofast · 11/07/2026 08:11

I am not sure from your post who you are blaming. There are a number of factors at play it seems and as far as I can see no one has been especially unreasonable just some things are unfortunate.

The fitters, ( you say you have had a few) can't find the door you want. Not their fault it may not exist.

Your partner, seems to have had a scare with one of the cats getting out and told you to get on with your plans. Not especially unreasonable, if you feel strongly that you need more time it is on you to explain that.

You felt pushed into making a decision that you aren't keen on and did to please them. However, there is no guarantee that with another year looking at doors you would have found this 'perfect' door.

The outcome is a perfectly normal door for the house. Which style did you want?