AIBU to be upset about having to pick a front door I don't like?

I have a pair of feline escape artists, so I get that keeping the cats safe has to be a big consideration. I think the new door looks a lovely style and in-keeping with your house

I don’t think this is really about the door. The adjustment of having to share a space with another person is massive. It’s the fact of the compromise you’re struggling with. It could have been any compromise that would have triggered this feeling. I guess you’ll have to see how the next few months go there will be plenty more adjustments and compromises to come from both of you. Healthy relationships mean compromises on both sides. (Not one person always comprising and the cost of the other, just to be clear).
At the end of the day you have to weigh up if you’re prepared to make them in order to live together or not.

I but did want one that was more in keeping with the Edwardian/Victorian house

I mean, the windows, satellite dish, burglar alarm, blinds etc aren't in keeping with the Edwardian/Victorian house either. It's a red brick terrace not a G1 listed period property with all original features except for this door. It's a nice house with a nice door that fits and functions, I really wouldn't sweat it too much and just get on and enjoy living in your new home.

The picture is really confusing, you talk about a storm porch and the recessed door

The door you have, is this the first door you open when leaving the house and then you're getting another door to go on the outside of the porch, at the same level as your neighbours door?

Does your cottage door open in toward the house or outwards?

@deeahgwitch raises an important point.

@Delara you say your boyfriend is contributing to the mortgage, but it’s your house. Have you made sure he will have no legal claim to it in the event of a split?

It’s a door, it’s looks nice and serves its purpose. Unless you spend hours stood outside your house admiring the door I don’t see how it’s an issue.

How did you get a sofa in?!

Let the cats pop outside when they want and reduce the door stress??

I like the door. It’s a lovely colour and matches next door. Even if you don’t like it when it’s fitted, I think you'll stop noticing and being bothered about it in no time. If however it really irks you, can’t you repaint it? On another note, you need to stop resenting DP choices in your home or your relationship won’t last.

We use a dog g8. There are a few different configurations. We made bespoke lengths for our two doors and attached to the hallway walls a little further back to create airlock systems.

It's advertised for dogs, but I don't see why it wouldn't work for cats.

https://www.dog-g8.com/products/dog-g8

I hope you learn to like your door as it's perfectly nice, but adding another possibility just in case.

Here for hints on how to stop the cat escaping.
We're cat sitting long term and whilst we have 'airlocks' front and back she's got to know when we're going out and is very good at getting into the porch/utility.

Surely you just keep the inner door closed so the cats can’t get into the porch? Is the porch original, or an add-on?

Sorry to be thick but what is an air lock door and how does it stop the cats getting out?

we got a door recently and it was astonishing how much they cost now. Wood doors bend and warp so a false economy.

I had to buy a similar door that I hate (and it was galling as it was so effing expensive as it had a tripped lock/internal frame thingy for security). Still don’t like it 10 years later, but I only notice it on entering and leaving, so I’m kind of resigned to it now.

Just remember you will likely only look at it/see it for a minute a day in total.

I dont really know what an air lock means in a residential property. They're in lots of units that Ive worked in at times.

You are an adult, no one forced you to rush the decision. Your partner may have put pressure on to make a decision but you could have pushed back. Yanbu to regret your decision but yabu for blaming him when you chose it!

You can get a bespoke door for much less than you were quoted. Shop around!

The door is fine, but I don't think the door is the problem.
It is your house but your partner seems to be making the decisions.
Review your relationship.

@Delara from reading your initial post, the problem isn't the door. It's the neglectful partner.
Had the cats escaped before he moved in?
Therein lies your answer.

@ReplacementBusDriver you think you’re getting a bespoke hand made door for less than £2k? you’re not

Um, just checking that you’ve been really clear about ownership of the house, if he’s contributing to the mortgage at a rate higher than a lodger would? Not trying to open up a financial discussion here, just checking you’ve thought it through.

I like the door, and I like the colour. Not totally sure on the little window, but we went for more glass for the light. That may not suit you though.

You have nice taste, you're feeling rushed so you're not sure, you feel like there may be the perfect option out there you're missing.

Is there a cancellation period on the order? If so, allow yourself another day or so to follow up on some of the suggestions here re reclamation yards etc, and if nothing appears you have your answer. If you must have a new door (What's an airlock in this circumstance btw?) then you have chosen a very nice looking one.

I would have chosen yellow for ours but it wasn't available, there is a buttercup yellow one near us that I always admire.

You think 2k is a lot for a front door?

Literally the only function of the door is to be secure. You will look at it for a few seconds once or twice a day. Does it really matter so much? If it does, then maybe there's something else behind that that's not about the door.

I think it’s nice tbh.