AIBU to be upset about having to pick a front door I don't like?

If it cheers you up the door with the longer glass panels in are notorious for being a target for thieves apparently.
My sister had one and she was burgled, when the police came they said that front doors in that style make it very easy for people to smash the glass and just reach through to the handle/lock.
They recommend a more solid door with any glass being at the top so that if smashed it wasn’t close enough to the lock/handle fittings for people to reach through.
I think as others have said, it’s the colour of the door clashing with the bricks that draws the eye. If it was an off white/pale grey/cream you wouldn’t really notice it as much.

@Delara if he is paying to your mortgage he has a stake in your home . Do you know that?
Id rethink the living together for now u till you know him better and also when things can’t start from a more even ground .

I think the part you have to focus on, is that, by having a new door fitted, even if you don't like it much, is keeping your cats safe. Their safety is more important than the aesthetic of the front door. It may be that your boyfriend is terrified he's going to accidentally let them out again, is the reason why he's pushed for the door to be replaced. They aren't his cats, they're yours, so if he accidentally lets them out, regardless how careful he may be, and something were to happen to them, you'd be angry/devastated and he'd be mortified/blamed.

The resentment is a bit mispaced, I think. If this is literally the only option that exists then it's the one you'd have to get whether you made the order this week, next month or next year.

Could you be generally a bit stressed about them moving in/the change of dynamic and it's projecting onto the door situation.

Just 'Thanks' would have done.

I like it! But that's besides the point really.

Can you call the company and see if there is any chance of putting it on hold at least? So you can think it through?

I think the outer door is the new one?

Fwiw, I think you'll miss the storm porch more than you gain from the airlock.

The door is fine, but I agree with PP your disquiet is at the way he's moved in and is laying down the law about your house.

It's a nice door and in keeping with the house to my eyes.

This.

Why did you allow yourself to be pushed into a decision for something you are paying for, that is going on your house, that you also pay for?

It looks ok most important for me would be does it have a peephole so you can see who is at the door before opening it.

I know what the storm porch is! What Im saying is the door she has, which she isnt keen on, looks like its in the internal door, so it wont show from the street, looks like there is the second outer door to go on?

We had a similar predicament and in the end the company fabricating our windows suggested just making a UPVC door and frame.

It's a bit like the neighbour's door in your photo (just frosted glass in two top panes and a plain bottom panel) in a period-appropriate colour (Chartwell Green).

Immediate next door neighbour has an old uPVC door that's a bit ugly, but painted with pink pastel door paint they make quite a fetching pair.

I think we found one composite option we could have gone for, but it was just bloody ugly. The whole grain effect looked really cheap too so an unpatterned door has actually worked out for us. And was cheaper.

Advantage of dealing with a firm that actually fabricates themselves. Sorry this isn't helpful in hindsight.

If you're going to have an outer porch door fitted, I'd have said do that first and then go timber on your true front door. Sorry that isn't helpful in hindsight either.

Well, I like the look of the door and I would prioritise safety over all else - good locks and alarm system. Really, it looks good!

@likelysuspect , this image shows a storm porch.

I think it will grow on you. I quite like it

I also can't have a new front door due to being an awkward size. I've decided to have the door that's there (that I hate, 1970s style) painted a funky colour.

Hovering between purple and green at the moment.

It's when the front door is not flush with the front wall so there's a little space before it.
OP has had another door and door frame put in so that the new front door is flush with the front wall.
What was the front door is now a second front door.

I like the colour and think you’re overthinking it.

I wouldn't want to comment on what this might be saying about your partner moving in but plese think hard about whether its saying something. Its often in our lives that the problem is not the problem.

Honestly, once it's been there a couple of months I bet you won't give it a second thought.

The dynamic of your relationship though - that's a different matter. You will need to work on advocating for yourself and getting your own needs met, otherwise you'll likely end up resentful.

The prices people think you can get stuff for on this forum are a bit like the claims that something only takes 'five minutes' or 'it only takes an hour to get there' or 'I only take a backpack on a 2 week family holiday' or all the competitive claims of how quick or cheap something is

Completely deluded.

I wanted a wooden front door as like OP I am really really fussy about front doors, I think its important they are in line with the design of the house, however here in the South East the only companies doing that sort of thing are around 6k like you say. I went with a composite for 3k but the only other company doing composite doors was 4k so I got a 'bargain'. These are standard prices.

i voted yabu mainly because you’re being so ridiculous about some cats. I literally can’t think of anyone insisting they need airlocks because of cats, you could even be really daring and let them out to, you know, be cats?!

Have you had a quote for a door lately. 5-6k for a bespoke Victorian solid wood one, and that’s in the north of England. 2-3k for something off shelf

I understand how easy it is to become fixated on a detail like this. One day you'll wonder what you were so bothered about.

I think the door looks good on your house. I doubt anyone will ever notice it beyond being a pleasant entrance to your home.