AIBU to wait until after a Barbados holiday to end it?

Assuming it's real, I guess she'll wait until he's put the entire wedding and honeymoon on his credit card (while complaining about his card debt), then divorce him as soon as they're home and think it's ok because it wasn't her idea to get married.

What if he proposes? 😱

If you were saying it was next month then I'd probably say yeah, but waiting till December and not contributing anything is really scummy. You can't complain he's terrible with money when you're happy to golddig a trip to Barbados.

This can't be real.

Are you really that shallow, grabby and immature at 39? It sounds like something a teenager would do on a smaller scale "I'll wait until after Valentines/Christmas/birthday to dump him so I get my present first".

This reads like you don't like that he's irresponsible with money unless it's to your benefit. So, you'll take advantage of that and then abandon him after you've had your fun. Did I read that correctly?

I think @DillyDillie hits the nail on the head!

It's women like you that give us all the shudders.... You're some piece of work lady...

LOL, no, don't do this, it's making you come across worse than him @Thewrathofsylviaplath ! So you're going to wait 5-6 months and stay with him even though you don't like him, go away with him, and then come back and dump him? This is actually hilarious! 😂

You're not going to do this, surely?!

😂😂😂
Your first post was almost believable. I'm afraid this one takes it over the edge.
Good try though.

If this is true you’re an awful person without a moral compass OP.

Dump him and get a PT job and save some money. By December, if you aren’t wasting time on him, you could have saved enough to afford your own solo holiday.

Ohhhh wow.
So you’ll rinse him even further when you’re there? Please let this thread be the reality check you need.

One can only hope he sees this post and you for what you are.

Jeez. No, you shouldn’t stick around for a free holiday for someone to add even more debt, with all the food you’re going to add to that 5k. You should be contributing to it if you’re going, just because someone else booked doesn’t mean they should whack all your food & drink on their credit card too. I’d be ashamed to drag out a relationship for a free holiday.

You acknowledge he has money issues but you’re happy to help him make those problems worse?
If you have decided the relationship
is not for you end it.
if you decide to stay and go you have 6 months to save some spending money.

Oh I am. There’s some sort of stunted emotional development going on with this particular demographic. It’s bizarre.
In five months he’s got the chance to meet the woman of his dreams and whisker away on a lovely holiday that they both deserve
If you don’t do that you end up with a string of exes that think and talk badly of you and that’s not a good thing when it comes to your new partner asking why you’ve got a scorched earth policy when it comes to relationships. And if the men don’t ask their mother sure as hell well when they meet you.

So he's in debt but as long as you get a holiday before you dump him, it's ok. Do you hear yourself? If you want to be forever judged, crack on. Orrrrr...pay your own damn way to fund this dream.

I'm not convinced you're 39

It isn't until December. Once he knows how you feel about him he has plenty of time to change your name on the bookings to someone else. Someone who wants to go on that holiday with him because they like him rather than because it is a free holiday.

Have a bit of self respect and end the relationship, book your own holiday and move on. Unless you really do think having sex with someone for six months in order to get a free holiday is anything less than whoring.

What a manipulative and nasty thing to do! He is in debt and you think it's right to allow him to be even more in debt to go on holiday with you when you are already planning to break up with him?

All this talk about men being abusive. In this instance, you are being emotionally abusive to even consider it.

I suppose morals aren't for everyone.

Start saving for your own holiday. Have some personal integrity.

You do come across as a bit of a freeloader OP! You’re moaning about the amount of debt your DP is in and yet you’re prepared to accept him booking an expensive holiday that you’ve dreamed of for years………and getting himself even further into debt!
Take a long hard look at yourself! IMO, he will be well rid of you actually.

You're disgusting if you think that's ok. Either go and pay all your expenses and try to work through it all with him and get him on the straight and narrow with money, or dump him now.

How much a shag will it work out if you go?

You know when posters come on here and describe crummy things that other women have done to them? You are that woman.

Life 101 is that you have to be able to look yourself in the mirror.

He needs to change his ways but nowhere near as much as you do.