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AIBU to hate DH wolf-whistling at me?

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Bupcake · 10/07/2026 21:51

With the warmer weather, I’ve been wearing more in the way of short skirts and low-cut tops than usual. Nothing racy, just typical hot weather clothing. Every time I come into the room wearing something a bit “skimpy”, DH wolf-whistles at me. I HATE it and have told him so; he tries not to do it so much but sometimes “forgets”.

However, he thinks it’s weird that I don’t like it - his view is that we’re married and it’s good that he finds me sexy. I just find it all a bit cringeworthy and don’t like feeling that that’s how he’s looking at me.

Leaving aside the fact that he hasn’t stopped doing it (though doesn’t do it anywhere near as much as he used to), is it weird that I dislike it?

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Younginside · 10/07/2026 22:24

I like to be appreciated but this would annoy me too - the fact that he's not respected your request for him to stop is the problem here

Bupcake · 10/07/2026 22:21

beeautifullif3 · 10/07/2026 22:11

🤦‍♀️

Why the face palm?

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ImpatientlyWaitingForSummer · 10/07/2026 22:20

I wouldn’t have a problem with it at all but that’s completely irrelevant, if you’ve asked him to stop he should stop. It’s not “weird” that you dislike it, you don’t have to justify feeling a particular way about it

beeautifullif3 · 10/07/2026 22:11

🤦‍♀️

Wallabyone · 10/07/2026 22:09

If you don’t like, you don’t like it, and that should be respected. I personally would hate it from any other man, but wouldn’t mind it from my husband. I would find it extremely annoying though, if he carried on doing something I hated.

Meridiantime · 10/07/2026 22:04

YANBU. My husband doesn’t wolf whistle but the staring and comments I hate too. I too am self conscious and hate it. He stops if I tell him to but he doesn’t understand why I hate it.

Bonkers1966 · 10/07/2026 22:03

Fascinated by this. I have hit watch.

Bupcake · 10/07/2026 22:01

I think his argument is that he thinks I should appreciate that he still finds me sexy, but I’m quite self-conscious and find it uncomfortable to feel that he’s “eyeing me up” like that all the time when I’m just trying to relax at home. But he says that’s weird.

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Notsurenotsurenotsure · 10/07/2026 21:56

The only thing that really matters is that you don't like it, have asked him to stop, and he hasn't.

Personally it wouldn't bother me at all, it's my husband showing he thinks I'm fit. He can like my body as well as my mind 😂