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AIBU to think my husband cannot police our adult daughter’s diet?

56 replies

Foghornhooter · 10/07/2026 21:41

DD is 21 and back from uni for summer. DD has a job for the summer and due back for final year Oct. DH and I are financially helping her with food, expenses and she pays no board while at home in the holidays.
DD eats a healthy diet and quite a few dried fruit snacks. Over the last couple of weeks her bowel movements have meant the bathroom has a terrible lingering pungent smell and the movements themselves have been a little difficult to move on (iyswim!).
Well, my DH has been demanding to know exactly what DD is eating as he thinks her diet is the reason why her bowel movements are the way they are. DD rightly stated that she’s an adult and can choose what she eats but DH disagreed and told her that for as long as we’re funding her through her studies then he has a right to know exactly what she’s eating. I disagreed and thought he was joking tbh, but he wasn’t and he got really angry at which point he got up and turned to me saying ‘fuck you’. He thinks we owe him an apology for laughing at him when actually we just thought the whole thing was ridiculous.

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Darragon · 10/07/2026 21:46

Hmm… 🤔

SkippitySkoppity · 10/07/2026 21:46

Is this a Friday night poo troll caper? 🤔

Arlanymor · 10/07/2026 21:46

He can't tell her what to eat. She can't leave the bathroom smelly or dirty.

And he shouldn't swear at anyone over it. He can have a proper conversation about wanting his home clean and tidy without being obnoxious, even if her emissions are, well, noxious!

lazyarse123 · 10/07/2026 21:45

That is grim. He has no rights over her bodily functions. You can have a conversation with her to see if her bowels have changed recently but if she's not worried end of conversation. Tell your dh from me to get to fuck.

AbzMoz · 10/07/2026 21:45

Is this behavior out of character, because it’s certainly absolutely absurd!
Wow

Decacaffeinatednow · 10/07/2026 21:44

WTF??