AIBU to think this is a bit much to ask for school run?

Classic Op…. Just teasing out the story as much as possible

The last 15 - 30 minutes are usually the most stressful and the point at which another child is most inconvenient.

All of this
Mornings are often stressful...so no.. and she should have sorted a proper arrangement before saying would change work hours.

If they’re saying from 6am then maybe not but for 15-30 mins I would say ok

You need to be sure your DH covers all scenarios because he may say no but the CF neighbours will say 'Oh lets just keep it like it is then' and you are still doing some pick ups and all the drop offs etc.

Make sure why DH says, that you dont want the added responsibility of another child. You have helped them out way more than need be. You have been a good neighbour but they are the kind of people that see generous people as an opportunity to ask for more.

I wouldn’t do it. Just tell them it’s to much for you.

Oh I see.

Is he going to say no to them?

So did your DH send a message? If so, what did he say? You are not being very clear about what happened next

No I wouldn’t do it.

When you have kids it’s your responsibility to figure out how to get them to school.

If she can’t drive then she can get the bus or get another job like the rest of the world.

The issue I would have is that the favours are increasing and there’s nothing stopping them from coming round 5 mins earlier each day, then 5 mins earlier than that until you’re giving them free childcare for hours every week.

And what if she goes back 5 days a week, it’ll be just ‘2 extra days’.

No I definitely wouldn’t do it and my excuse would be that you don’t want to commit because you’re looking for a new job that may require an earlier start etc

What do you mean they were unavailable?

You said they asked your husband-what did he say to them when they asked?

What message has he sent?

“She wanted to drop her off an hour before we left, at 7.30, so I said no”

Good grief: CF of the highest order! Everyone knows getting out of the door in the morning is always a bit fraught, and to have another kid just hanging around like that for an HOUR - it defies belief! My sister had a problem like this: gave a few lifts, other mother wanted it to be a regular thing and in the end, she had to say she was sorry, it just didn’t work for them because sometimes her DC wanted/needed to be in earlier; if they were running late, other kid was just hanging around, and she said she couldn’t then have any sort of conversation with her own DC in the car - so cut this off now, before it becomes a “thing”.

@Monty36 do you have kids?

I may have missed this, so apologies if I have but are you a SAHM?
There was a great thread a few years back where other school parents had assumed that OP would be looking after their kids for the summer holidays pretty much every week day because she was a SAHM. When that OP said no the other couple went a bit nuts, saying she said she’d help (she had said in passing she could maybe help out a bit). They both turned up at her door, saying she said she would help, they were stuck and she was at home anyway. Her husband gave them what for, said yes she is a SAHM because they had made the choice that he would work, and they sacrificed her career so she could stay home and look after their children, and nobody else’s children! It was a great thread.
Some people are so entitled and cheeky!

Yes, I remember that thread! The OP had mentioned in passing, that she could help out occasionally if they were stuck, and somehow this ended up as the OP being obliged to take someone’s children for the whole school holiday! It was nuts

If anyone could unearth that thread, please do post a link!

who asked your husband? The wife or husband?

I’m a bit confused. If her work is 15 min drive away, why are they dropping DD off an hour before school at 7.30? If she starts work at 8am, that’s enough time for her DH to drive her to work and take their DD to school afterwards.

Well this is spot on. Absolutely spot on.

Because it could work in her benefit but if she doesn't want to then she doesn't want to she's an adult she's quite capable of deciding what she wants to do

Childish. Capitals can convey emphasis, not just shouting, did you really not know that?

Weren't you suggesting the opposite? Asking her what would benefit her that she could get in exchange?

FFS.

I assume you are directing your comment in my direction.
I am not a take take take person. Nor am I a CF nor am I the neighbour.
If you want to discuss something someone has posted at least do it directly to the person concerned. Don’t hide behind someone else’s awful comment.

This would annoy me.

Its the attitude of give an inch, take a mile. Some people are simply "take take take". I had a neighbour like this. If you helped her out with a lift for a DC one time in an emergency, she'd take that as an opportunity to ask you to do that every week from now on. She never bought anything without asking if anyone could give her one free, but only ever sold things herself & never ever gave anything away or "paid it forward".

I would be really careful op. It will be 3 days now, then before you know it she will literally be 5 days pick up and collect & she will gradually stop helping you.