AIBU to think this is a bit much to ask for school run?

’To be honest, that’s too much for me to commit to with a two year old. I don’t mind the odd reciprocal school run drop off, but not doing it more than half the week. Have you tried school breakfast club/childminder etc ’

I got into this bullshit with a school mum and I ended up feeling apologetic when I couldn’t take her (ungrateful child who didn’t want to carry his own bag and who got out all the toys I’d just tidied up when she dropped him at mine at 8am when I had a newborn and a toddler) son when mine was off school ill! I put a stop to it then and wished I’d never started as once you’ve agreed, you’re ’letting people down’ by backing out. Better to not agree in the first place.

Our next-door neighbours have a daughter in the same Reception class as my son.

We already help each other with school pick-ups occasionally, and I've been happy with that arrangement.

The mum is now increasing her working days to three days a week after maternity leave and has asked if, on those three mornings, they can leave their daughter with us before work so that I can take her to school with my son.

For a bit more context, the mum isn't unable to drive, but she doesn't drive. Her husband drives her to work, which is about 15 minutes away, and this is why they need someone else to take their daughter to school on those mornings.

They literally live next door and I'm obviously going to the same school anyway, so I know it might not sound like a huge extra task. I also have a two-year-old at home, though, and mornings with my own two children are already busy.

I think what has made me uncomfortable is that this isn't really an occasional favour or helping out in an emergency. It would be a regular three-day-a-week arrangement because of their change in working pattern. It feels a little like their childcare/school run responsibility is being transferred to us simply because we happen to live next door and our children attend the same school.

I also feel awkward saying no because we are literally next-door neighbours and I will inevitably see them at school drop-off on the days I've said I can't do it.

AIBU to think three mornings every week is quite a lot to ask of a neighbour? Or is this considered a fairly normal favour between families when the children go to the same school?

I literally do exactly this for my neighbour. I am going to school anyway. Makes no difference really if im walking with an extra child. And it's nice to help people out.

Add up - They wouldn't really be able to reciprocate with pick-ups as they have three children, and her husband looks after two little kids while she's at work.

3 kids bring in a fair chunk these days.

I'm surprised one person working 3 days a week can support a family of 5.

I literally do exactly this for my neighbour. I am going to school anyway. Makes no difference really if im walking with an extra child. And it's nice to help people out.

Our next-door neighbours have a daughter in the same Reception class as my son.

We already help each other with school pick-ups occasionally, and I've been happy with that arrangement.

The mum is now increasing her working days to three days a week after maternity leave and has asked if, on those three mornings, they can leave their daughter with us before work so that I can take her to school with my son.

For a bit more context, the mum isn't unable to drive, but she doesn't drive. Her husband drives her to work, which is about 15 minutes away, and this is why they need someone else to take their daughter to school on those mornings.

They literally live next door and I'm obviously going to the same school anyway, so I know it might not sound like a huge extra task. I also have a two-year-old at home, though, and mornings with my own two children are already busy.

I think what has made me uncomfortable is that this isn't really an occasional favour or helping out in an emergency. It would be a regular three-day-a-week arrangement because of their change in working pattern. It feels a little like their childcare/school run responsibility is being transferred to us simply because we happen to live next door and our children attend the same school.

I also feel awkward saying no because we are literally next-door neighbours and I will inevitably see them at school drop-off on the days I've said I can't do it.

AIBU to think three mornings every week is quite a lot to ask of a neighbour? Or is this considered a fairly normal favour between families when the children go to the same school?

She wanted to drop her off an hour before we left, at 7.30, so I said no. She then left her daughter with another neighbour, who drops her off at ours just before we leave. On other days, she used to drop her off about 30 minutes before we left.