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Do mums overpack and overthink compared with dads taking toddlers out?

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ItsBritanyBitchh · 10/07/2026 10:28

Not really an Aibu but I keep thinking about it and its making me laugh / smile.

My mum takes DD1 on a Wednesday while we work. Anyway, my mum went on holiday and I hadn't realised until a few weeks before that we would have to take time to look after DD. So I took Wednesday last week off work, DP took Wednesday just passed off.

Anyway, we have glorious weather and I was working from home. Late afternoon I said i was taking our dog out as it was cooler and I was quiet in work. I only took her to the local park for a v.quick walk and so she could splash about in the stream.

Ten minutes into my walk I had a text from DP asking where I was and that he and DD were going to meet me. I hadn't seen it straight aeay and then I saw them both in the park.

And omg. DD was wearing green strippy dress, christmas bandana/bib (we use these sometimes but never out in public!), blue sunhat, yellow socks, black shoes and pink sunglasses (okay. She only had one pair). I couldn't stop laughing. Every item was a different colour and didnt match at all. Apparently he doesnt know where certain clothes lives so rummaged through DD nursery bag for stuff (the manky stuff!!).

I also couldn't help but laugh that the only thing he had on him was keys and his phone. I know park only 5 mins from house but he didnt pack anything.. no water. No wipes, nothing. He didnt even have a pram, or trike, he just carried her. When I questioned how mad that was he was surprised "well, the rest is just faff! If I needed anything id go home or pop to shop!". It got me thinking, have men got it right? Do we create work for ourselves or do u also think this is bonkers!!!

Light hearted post 🩷
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OP posts:
ItsBritanyBitchh · 10/07/2026 10:36

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 10/07/2026 10:34

A park 5 minutes from the house, I wouldn't pack anything either.

DD isnt walk so I would have taken pram or trike, wipes and some water! It was hot lol

OP posts:
Sartre · 10/07/2026 10:35

Haven’t you seen the Bluey episode where dad takes them to the pool and forgets basically everything so they can’t do anything till mum turns up with the gear? Basically that. Some dads are useless.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 10/07/2026 10:34

A park 5 minutes from the house, I wouldn't pack anything either.

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