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AIBU to feel guilty after matching my husband’s birthday present budget?

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Iliveforglitter · 10/07/2026 07:15

Me and DH have birthdays a few days apart, I had my 30th and he had his 33rd last week.

I got him a new travel mug, his broke a few weeks ago and he has never left for work without a cup of coffee in hand so he’s been taking an actual mug in the car. I also got him some clothes for our upcoming holiday as he’s not got many shorts.

The night of his birthday he told me he thought is brought him a new game that he wanted, the game is £80.

it did cross my mind a while back, so I feel a bit guilty now.. but I specifically didn’t spend that much because he brought me an £15 throw (one I had looked at to go in our lounge) for my 30th. he asked me for ideas ages ago, he spoke about potentially organising a trip to Florence for a weekend. and I’ve been directly saying “if you want an idea for my birthday I would love a..”

So I just feel I was trying to be equal, but now I feel guilty that he’s disappointed.. AIBU and should I just buy the game? 😫

OP posts:
theculture · 10/07/2026 07:19

Don’t buy the game!

GimmieABreakOr3 · 10/07/2026 07:18

He bought you a £15 throw for your 30th birthday………….?

VanquishedColston · 10/07/2026 07:18

When he said about the game, could you not have told him you thought about it but you thought you were doing smaller gifts this year since he gave you that throw (!!) for your 30th(!!!!!!)?

Why would he expect anything more than what he got you a few days earlier ? Already sounds like you spent more than he did.

PomPomSugar · 10/07/2026 07:17

Don’t buy the game. Is he feeling guilty at your present? No. So match the energy.