AIBU to worry DH is out of touch for future parenting?

Absolute nonsense

Your children will grow up with your values though. It sounds like he’s got decent friends and a few hobbies so your children will see that as normal. You model a healthy life. A stable home life, communication, hobbies.
I used to use a site called parent wise for films which gave a summary and suggested age suitable for.

Agree with this. I think you’re being very… rigid about this. What’s your husband like as a father? Is he involved? Does he listen to the kids when they talk about their interests? Does he do stuff with them, teach them things? Can they go to him with worries? Because honestly, as the mum of a young adult, a teenager and a toddler, in my experience, the better you know your children, what they’re interested in, who their friends are etc, the better chance you have of protecting them and keeping them safe. It’s not always easy to get the balance right and god knows, I’ve fucked things up myself, but I feel confident that I have done my best to listen to my kids and also to arm them with information about things as and when they’ve needed it.

It's there now, clearly Mumsnet decided Steve Buscemi is acceptable after all

This. But also they will (assuming you're built a good relationship) tell you about their world.
I know a lot about many things simply by talking to my teens!

Your DC have two parents. You sound like staying up with current trends is important to you, why do you need your DH to do so as well? I'm sure he brings his own skills to parenting which will evolve as the DC grow up. Children don't need parents who are carbon copies of each other.

Op, I totally see what you are saying but there is nothing new under the sun. I am in my 40s now but my dad was always completely out of touch. If you asked him about pop music he would say Michael Jackson. I remember as a teenager asking him if he liked modern music (because he only ever listen to classical) and he told me that he had once had an LP of The Seekers when he was young. My mum told me that she managed to persuade him to go dancing in the 80s and he didn't know what to do. Mum told him to pretend he was boxing in time to the music 😄. My dad never ever had a clue about anything that was ever going on in the culture and seemed to find everything really confusing.

Anyway, despite all of this, my dad had (has) a very astute understanding of human nature. Ever single problem I have ever had, he was able to relate to it and is actually a very wise person. He never knew anything about anything related to the culture but I was brought up with all of skills needed to navigate the generational issues which I faced. Peer pressure, loyalty, discernment, 'if its too good to be true...' etc etc. I made it through the noughties in one piece, and my dad was never once plugged into the zeitgeist.

So do not worry. Let your husband be the kind of person and parent that he is. He can plug into what is relevant when the time is right and just trust that he will connect with what he needs to. Just because he isnt plugged in doesn't mean he will be naive or negligent. Think about who he is and what he does bring to the table. It could well be enough.

There's a difference between not being aware (which tbh, I don't really understand either) and being wilfully ignorant - the latter, with a refusal to be inquisitive about the world which affects/or may affect your children, is often accompanied by checking out of parenting too. So keep an eye on that one. (And I bet he has heard of Bonnie Blue really).

That’s not how it works. It works by talking to them, being engaged and interested in their worlds and talking to them. That’s how you keep “up to date”. Is he an involved , active, interested father? If yes, he’s already there. If not, no amount of siiix seeeven reading will fix that.

OP, were your first parents up on 'trends' when you were growing up? Mine certainly weren't. I think not having a working knowledge of the darkest corners of the internet is probably ideal in very many ways.

All teenagers think their parents know nothing about their generation's world and they are largely right. I think you protect your kids by bringing them up to think critically, value fairness and find many things in life they enjoy. Confident, well adjusted and happy kids seem significantly less vulnerable to the many things you are worried about.

I think this is such a good point. Youth culture is such because it belongs to the young. We don’t need to understand it in the way that our parents didn’t need to understand our culture when we were teens. As soon as parents understand it, it stops being cool.

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You assume your way is better than his that to me makes me think you coming across like you have swallowed a parenting book treats it like a competition

@DealForTheKids everything will have changed again by the time your kids need keeping an eye on.

You’re expressing this fantastically well. I’m completely plugged in to it all. DH doesn’t have a bloody clue. The teens roll their eyes about him being so out of touch and find it a little frustrating that his cultural framework is so limited. But on the other hand they appreciate that he knows plenty about other things and is a loving parent in other ways. But when the political talk starts at the table and we get into Bin Face or whatever the day’s news holds, DH flees for safety,