AIBU to worry DH is out of touch for future parenting?

I think they are two different things : knowing about current trends and checking if something is appropriate.
Your DH might not be an expert on many things but he has a job as a parent to check the environment his kids live in. His methods don’t matter - he can check films by watching them himself or by googling about their content. Any approach will do. Doing nothing is not an option.

So what is happening in “youth culture”
now then?

You've no need to worry. Your already there. You recognise there will be dangers and pitfalls.
You'll workout what they are at the time.
You're already doing your job.

The thing is, teens can easily tell the difference between a parent who is tapping in to popular culture purely in order to be a better parent, and a parent who just likes pop culture. They can sniff out inauthenticity a mile off. If you're reading Reddit or Tumblr or (God forbid) 4chan or something just to see what you're up against, they will twig and they'll think it's cringe. Or whatever the 2034 slang is.

Just be your authentic self, let your DH be his, and be curious and engaged with whatever they bring you. They will hide stuff - that's the way of it - and it won't always help you or them if you find out about it.

If your husband is a good person, with the ability to support, show interest in and nurture a child and be a stable and stabilising presence, that is what matters.

I am entirely square but I’m a lot more sensible, knowledgeable and well-read than many people which helps a great deal when bringing up children. You learn what’s important to your children (while holding your head in your hands at the absolute tripe on TikTok…)

Your children might be interested in politics, not Bonnie Blue, there is no oddsing how kids turn out.

hate to tell you this but you won't understand their world when they are teens

@CypressGrove with respect to misogyny it would be great if the dad is aware of the influence on young people. Much better for the disgust of these influencers etc to come from a man

but I do worry that if he doesn’t know about trends and things to be aware of - like exploitation, county lines, trends in music and society - it’s going to impact on our parenting. I want to teach our children how to navigate the world they live in, how can I do that if he’s not aware of that world?

From your OP - why do you think both of you need to be aware of the world for you to teach them how to navigate it? Why isn't it sufficient for you to be aware of it?

I have much older children than you but I think I may have had a similar criticism. My DH is not well up on the latest expression of misogyny. He’s pretty oblivious too be honest. Sometimes I’ve felt a bit irritated by this. Other times I’ve thought I’d find that quite annoying if he was

However when the shit has hit the fan with difficult things that have affected our kids (15 & 19) I feel he’s handled it well. Don’t underestimate your partner because he’s not the same as you

I've got a 19 year old, soon to be 20. If there's one piece of advice I'd give, it's keep talking to them and make sure they know they can talk to you. There have been a lot of times in my DD's teenage years where she's come to me with problems that I would never ever in a million years have taken to my own parents and I think it's been hugely helpful to her to know I would never be judgmental but just try to help her. I don't think you need to worry too much about the details - if your kids are talking to you and telling you about their lives you'll work it out.

My husband works in the entertainment industry and I’ve just asked him if he knows who Bonnie blue is, absolutely no clue at all. He is a wonderful and engaged father though.

I’m very aware of current pop culture and trends but in no way do I relate that to my future ability to parent, especially as I’m sure that in 5 years the world will be very different and we’ll adapt our approach as required with our foundations of loving supportive parents who care about our children.

If your kids were teens i would get your perspective and agree (my dad was very old fashioned and very much not on a level with me- it did impact our relationship when i was older) but they are still so young! Deal with it when they are at least pre-teens if the need arises .

You are looking for problems. How dull to be expected to engage in conversations about miserable and anxiety inducing social issues which may never be relevant and spoil the present.

Why do you think both parents need to have the same approach? And why do you want people to tell you your approach is the better one?

You need to be thinking about social media, Andrew Tate (or equivalent) etc well before they are teens. Y5 and Y6 children can be influenced and seeing things they shouldn’t

I know. Madness

This is the first time I’ve ever heard that knowing who Bonnie Blue is makes you a better dad

Actually I think that’s the one I meant. It says parents say suitable for age 10 plus, kids say age 9 plus and flags language or themes etc.