My kids keep saying I have a fat tummy

PS the word “lean” in this thread is making me feel sick. No idea why. 🤢

They are 4 and 6! Don’t take it personally. My 7 year old loves to jiggle my wobbly tummy 🙄😆

You’re unreasonable to be offended by such small children. Children are completely unfiltered. They just wanted to know if you were pregnant; you’re clearly not fat at all.

My daughter once referred to my squishy belly. It didn’t occur to me to be offended.

So lie basically?

My child recently told me that they loved my tummy because it was big and comfy to lie on.

I have to laugh. To be fair I am bigger and dieting currently, but I didn’t need to hear it😂

glad there's still some common sense on here!

OP was not body shamed by a 4 and 6 year old for gods sake!!!!

@Hadit16

who cares? It’s not their body. If a woman wants to be lean she can be irrespective of what their child wants

When my son was very young, he preferred snuggling with his gran (my mum) as she was so wonderfully curvy and cosy. I was more a size 10/12, albeit I felt huge at the time, as I went up from a size 6/8 after pregnancy.

As I've said on here before on other threads, when I hit 40 I put on about 3 stone (I had no more children, it was just literally hitting 40), then lost it 2 years ago with the help of Orlistat, but have never, ever lost my overhang tummy (pannus) and I never will unless I have a tummy tuck, and I have better things to do than have one of those.

Can't imagine giving a shit about when my children point out my imperfections. They love me. I love me and I love my body. They're just commenting.
I think its best to just say I love my tummy the way it is because it grew you and it helps me eat yummy food. But just so you know, never comment on peoples bodies, it can be rude. Its family chat only in our house.
I think ideally youd love your body enough that a neutral kids comment shouldn't get to you.

Tell them it’s because of them . They grew inside you and stretched your tummy so they could get comfy and that is why!

I'm skinny but 3 kids in and sat on the sofa in a sports bra and shorts my 4 year old sat next to me and proceeded to grab my tummy rolls
"I like that you have play doh bits on you"
Felt a million dollars 🤣

Reading the very rude and abusive threads about Ariana Grande, for example, on MN it's only "rude" to comment on other people's body if they are the same size or bigger than yours. Anyone smaller is fair game, that's rather sad.

She did is reading hard for you?

Have they been watching Peppa Pig?
Lots of kids go through this phase of talking about fat tummies and asking if there’s a baby in there. They are simply imitating what they’ve seen on the cartoon. It’s mentioned at least ten times an episode 🙄
Also they know it usually gets a reaction and they are trying that out sometimes.
Try not to take it personally but I’m afraid you are going to have to develop a thick skin. The stuff kids come out with about appearances can be demoralising but they’re just kids.

So first of all - size 10 is not big! At all. It’s a normal size. Yes kids don’t lie but they don’t have perspective. My nephew once commented on his dad’s stomach and said something along the lines of it doesn’t look anything like his uncle (my husband). Neither are fat. The point is they don’t have perspective and if it’s different they will comment on it. I think you did the right thing by letting them know that you should not comment on people’s bodies and everybody is different. And as you said you should be proud of your body.

Brace yourself, they’ll likely say worse and not necessarily mean it in a horrible way. They said it, the thought was fleeting for them, but it’s stayed with you.

You clearly aren’t overweight and your bmi is fine, your DH has said you look fine! Take no notice, but I’d definitely instil in them not to comment on other people’s physical appearance because it’s rude and upsetting and they won’t like it when something gets said to them (which it will at some point).

Me and my sister once made a comment about our mum’s tummy. Our dad stepped straight in with “Your mother has had THREE babies” and it was made very clear that it wasn’t ok to make remarks like this. Even at the time it was very touching how much he cared and how he wasn’t going to let anything uncomplementary be said about our mum.

If DH doesn’t step in and defend I’d shut them down with “Yes that’s where you came from, it’s rude to make remarks about people’s tummies!” Don’t feel
upset, you have lovely kids. Well worth the price of a little round tummy!

@Turtlestarfish please see my apology posted above

Oh please don’t take it personally, OP. Small children are very blunt, and just say what they see. I got asked by a random 6 yo if I was pregnant a number of years ago- I was size 8 with a normally flat tummy but was a little bloated that day due to my af. She even gave my tummy a little pat as she asked me, followed by a suspicious look when I said no I wasn’t pregnant. I was a little taken aback and did wonder if I looked chunky around my middle but let it go quickly. However, I was not quite as relaxed about the pregnancy accusations when the guy fixing our fences accused me of being pregnant and then argued with me about it when I said no. He was adamant and kept telling me I needed to take a test because he could tell I was pregnant 🙄 I was 9 months postpartum and hadn’t had sex for at least 18 months.

I'd be more interested in figuring out why children thinking you're fat, bothers you so much? Even if you are, and it sounds like you're not, so what?

So on a thread where you can see how upset a woman is about being body shamed.. you decide to body shame other women?? 🤦‍♀️

This. They know babies come for tummies so they think any roundness means a baby is in there. I wouldn't over explain just tell them that's the shape of your tummy and change the subject.

They are just saying what they see, you said you have a pot belly, they won’t have meant anything by it. Just teach them that we don’t comment on people being fat as it can upset them.

@IronEverything @DeskGnome please see my apology posted above