I am wondering if I’m BU here as my husband says I am.
With the weather being so good yesterday I decided I’d do a bbq so I went and bought all the food, salads ect and prepped so that I could stick it on when my husband got home. He knew I was doing a bbq as I had checked with him. I even picked up a bottle of wine and made up a few different salads ect. Kids were excited too.
My husband got home from work about 18:30 and within minutes has to take an important work call to try fix something. This call went on for over an hour in the kitchen where I was trying to get sorted and I ended up having to feed the kids their food as it was getting late.
I understand some things happen ect but it’s becoming a more regular occurrence with him. A few weeks ago we were leaving to watch our DDs perform in a show and he had his laptop with him as he had offered to do on-call for someone. The other morning he took a call at 6am and proceeded to try solve the issue whilst I was trying to sleep instead of going downstairs. Another time I booked an expensive restaurent for his birthday and whilst we were waiting at the bar he left for another 40 minutes to take a call.
He claims he’s a manager and it’s expected of him. I work too but my job mainly finishes when I finish.
I wasn’t happy yesterday and told him this and also highlighted how on Mondays he goes to the gym and Tuesday he manages to go for a long run after work and somehow those days never get affected by work calls or he will call them back afterwards. It then became a huge argument where he said I brought down the mood of the whole bbq instead of just enjoying it.
I also highlighted to him how he can plan things with his friends for example he’s out this weekend for a night out, and then he’s away in two weeks for a night away but not once has he booked any time off whilst the kids are on their summer holidays to do something with them despite talking last month of doing a beach day or taking our oldest ds and his friends to play golf.
Maybe it is the norm but I think what got me yesterday was I just see loads of friends/families and neighbours out and about together as a family enjoying the good weather whereas I don’t feel I have that with my husband.