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AIBU to feel upset about missing my daughter’s last primary day?

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Teaaa · 08/07/2026 17:44

Please can anyone make me feel better about missing my daughter’s last day of primary school today? I was working so didn’t pick her up. I asked her father to take pictures but he took 3 pictures of her on her own which I could have taken at home myself. I messaged in the group chat if anyone could please take a picture of her with the kids as a group and lots of thumbs up and “yes of course we will!” responses. I even PM’d the mums of her best friends to take pictures. We are moving away soon so this was extra important. Looking at group chat now there are hundreds of pictures of the kids and not one of my child. I feel really upset. Even the mums who I PM’d and they said they will of course take lots didn’t take even one. I don’t think it was a big ask it takes literally a second to snap a picture. The kids were all stood around waiting to be collected by parents already. I hate my DH for not taking pics too and I know he did on purpose. We’ve been fighting about this just now and he told me to get over it and he forgot as he was checking his work emails and when he remembered the kids had all left.

I feel like I failed her. I could have just left work and got someone to cover me - I probably would have got told off by manager but at least I would have pics of my child’s last day. She’s my only child so I can’t have a last day if primary again. In secondary school parents are not allowed in the school to take pics so I feel a big milestone of my child’s life.

OP posts:
Teaaa · 08/07/2026 17:58

ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 17:58

Id let it go. Not worth a family argument. We have so many pictures of our kids now we don't know what to do with them. Your daughter has succeeded at school, I'd move on and celebrate the week instead. You could still go to the school gate and take one last photo in her uniform. Failing that use AI to photo merge.

I wanted a picture of her and her friends/class

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ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 17:58

Id let it go. Not worth a family argument. We have so many pictures of our kids now we don't know what to do with them. Your daughter has succeeded at school, I'd move on and celebrate the week instead. You could still go to the school gate and take one last photo in her uniform. Failing that use AI to photo merge.

Teaaa · 08/07/2026 17:56

Thank you both. I think it’s also if I say I will do something I make sure I do it but those mums who gave me reassurance that they will definitely take didn’t! Why say they will

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BigWig78 · 08/07/2026 17:54

It feels like a big deal today it honestly it’s not a big deal in the long run. It’s her school days not yours. Did anyone come to your last day? I doubt it. I have been at my kids last days and probably took photos. Don’t have them to hand? Couldn’t even find them I don’t think and definitely didn’t print them etc.
Let it go and celebrate her holidays instead with a nice day or evening or takeaway etc rather than a family argument.

TheDivergentEnigma · 08/07/2026 17:51

I don't have any photos of my two's last day at primary, can't even remember it, there are also no photos of mine or my siblings, and I also can't recall those moments either.

My point being, I have loads of fond memories of them around that age, and we have a laugh talking about them. Strangely, of all the memories that have genuinely stuck and brought true happiness, there are no photos.

You don't need photos, the memories that matter will stick with you regardless.

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