AIBU to feel upset about missing my daughter’s last primary day?

Hi no worries. Nano Banana keeps the best likeness and would probably be the best ai model for this. I have an openart.ai subscription and I could do this for you but I understand I am a complete stranger and that would be ill advised (obvs I am a genuine person, and this is one example of the sort of thing I do everyday in my line of work... and obviously not posting this to gain business or anything like that).

Chatgpt is probably my second choice for this kind of job and if you don't have that you can download it in the app store. You get I think one picture generation per day on the free tier plan.

If you need any further help how to do this yourself, I can help guide you.

You can also make lovely non ai photo collages for free in Canva.

Aww im so sorry to hear this. I only have one as well and I often feel really sad when I have to miss stuff at school, which seems to be particularly intense at the end of term. I work almost full time so miss lots of things. I had to miss her art exhibition today and felt guilty about it.
I fully empathize and would feel disappointed. YANBU. Did you not get a class photo during the year? My daughters school do this, and year group photo usually in June.
You are going to have to let it go sadly. I've heard that secondary school all the parental engagement guilt begins to go away. We can all only do our best. It is difficult when you don't have a flexible workplace. I had to take the whole days leave for an hours sports day and have friends that just was able to nip out and attend. I only have so much leave!

I have some photos of my children on the last day of primary and haven’t looked at them
again once - once they are at secondary school you don’t really think about primary school anymore! Don’t worry about it

YABU

Helpful. 🥱

Use Google Gemini. Upload the group photo. Upload the picture of your daughter. Select "create image". Use a prompt along the lines of: "without changing any other details in this photo, add the image of the girl on her own into this group picture so it looks like she was part of the original group photo"

Get a grip, OP.
This obsession of taking photos of any minor/unimportant ‘occasion’ is getting out of hand.
”ooh look, new school shoes” “first school dinner” “newly sharpened pencil”
🙄

Yes this would upset me but unfortunately some people just don’t have the same principles :( .. it is upsetting knowing you’d do it for them but try and not let it bother you.

I think like others have said - don’t worry about not having the picture. There are far more valuable moments you can picture instead! You can always take one first day of secondary! Remember my mum made me take a picture in my secondary school uniform (I was so spotty and hated it) but even now that pic isn’t hanging up on the wall anywhere!

I know it seems like such a huge massive deal now but honestly it’s not. Do you have lots of pictures of your last day if primary? Do you look at them daily? I know you’re upset but you need to put this in perspective.

Does your school not do photos? Thought they were pretty standard across all primary schools (and year 7 and 11 of secondary).

Is there a leavers party planned so you can get a photo then?

I hadn't even thought about photos on the last day, but we did take photos when they got their leavers hoodies.

Also don't some kids walk home alone anyway so they are likely to also not have a parent taking photos.

I didn't imagine my kids had any idea of me being part of the day, so I really wouldn't worry about what your daughter might think about it. I took photos of both of them before they left on their last day for old 'contrast with first day' photos as a bit of fun, but it wasn't like an important rite of passage that had to be done.

Social media makes us make a bit too much of a few too many things sometimes.

If it meant that much to you, why didn't you book annual leave?

I was a teacher when my little girl was in Reception so missed out on her first ever day of school. It really is awful 😢
I'm now a tutor so go to everything 😀

You didn't fail your daughter. But your dh failed today and acted like a jerk about it.

She wasn’t there and won’t have memories of it. My daughter’s last day at primary was so lovely, a really nice memory. If I couldn’t have gone and my husband was shit with the photos, I’d be pissed off too.

Neither DH or I collected them from school - they went to after school club. Never entered my head to take a photo - not everything needs a photo.

The photo collage sounds a lovely idea if having photos is important to you and your dd but if the technicalities prove too tricky then I honestly wouldn't stress over it.

I didn't take any photos of my dd's last day at primary school and I work there! I vaguely remember her coming down to my classroom at the end of the day. We probably had "School's Out" blasting out while I tidied the classroom as that's what we often did at the end of the year.

She took loads of photos herself of her last day at secondary school and has never once said that she wished that she had similar photos from the last day of primary school.

My first had no last day at primary due to the pandemic

My second just got the bus home. There was no big pick up / mum photo thing happening.

I’ve never heard of this being a thing.

I think you need to find your perspective

You haven’t failed your daughter. Plenty of parents up and down the country won’t be around on their child’s last day at primary or first day at school. It happens. If your child does remember in the future that you weren’t there today, I doubt she’s going to be traumatised or upset.

Did your DD have a nice last day, that’s what is important?

No you didn't fail her.
This simply doesn't matter. She's loved and cared for, which is priceless.

I get it. I think it’s less about the photos and more about feeling that you weren’t there.

There’s a chance that not everyone has shared their photos yet.

Did your daughter have a good last day? That’s all that matters.
Could you organise a meet up for her and her friends before you go?

You haven’t failed her.

I'm surprised there were so many parents there doing a pick up to take pictures. I wouldn't have even thought about going to the school to pick them up just because its the last day (Hardly any of our year 6's have been collected from school for a long time)

I don't either. They were all so emotional it wasn't right to take pictures!

No you haven’t failed your daughter. She had one parent there, she didn’t need both.

I’m pretty sure you have many photos of her at primary school and give it a year and you’ll look at none of them again, unless printed and framed.

There will be many more photos taken too.

Try to get over it quickly and not to argue about it as that is what she will remember otherwise on her last day of primary school rather than you not being there to take a pic.