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To think DH should become a driving instructor?

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Aabbaas · 08/07/2026 16:23

DH has been made redundant a few months ago and is struggling to find a new job.
He is a very clever man but has ended up working in an industry he isn't passionate about and is at a point in life (mid 40s) where he is questioning what to do next.
He would like a job that gave him flexibility around his hours, wants to be around more for DD6 and going back to the previous industry would mean having to work occasional weekends and festivities and possibly long hours for an average salary.

A colleague of mine mentioned that her DH is trying to retrain as a driving instructor and it got me thinking. It seems to be a job that is in high demand, DH has free time to qualify quickly (albeit it does require 2K or so invested in a course I think) and he could be managing his own schedule/continue to do this potentially as a second stream of income in the future, given we are in such an unstable job market.

What are the serious pros and cons we should consider? Has anyone done this or knows someone close enough that has managed to change their career and earn a decent living from it?

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TeaWithASplashOfMilkPlease · 08/07/2026 16:36

I think you’re severely underestimating the number of hours he’d need to work every week to cover his self employed costs and still make a living. Pension, sick pay, national insurance, income tax, vehicle insurance, liability insurance, servicing/repairs to the vehicle, petrol, and the list goes on.

Simonjt · 08/07/2026 16:34

Self employment means no employer pension contributions, sick pay, holiday pay etc. Thats a big thing to consider. Vehicle and insurance are another up front cost as well as training. If he joins a driving school instead they will determine his hours.

TeaWithASplashOfMilkPlease · 08/07/2026 16:33

It won’t be that family friendly - many people have to learn alongside working, so demand is strong for early mornings, evening and weekends. An instructor in my street is often out at 7am on weekday mornings, and the roads locally are swarmed with learners on Saturday mornings.

Its stressful, and costs like fuel and insurance have risen a lot in a short space of time, so I imagine profit margins are slimmer than they’ve ever been.

Not the first thing I’d think of for a change of pace and direction.

Aabbaas · 08/07/2026 16:32

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Can't you choose your hours, generally? so on some days do the 3pm lessons and some days only do mornings or after 5pm for example?

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Aabbaas · 08/07/2026 16:31

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 08/07/2026 16:30

This could work, it just depends on his patience level! And how chilled he is. The driving instructor’s around here do a roaring trade with teenagers. Most are at college so can have lessons in the day around their studies. Won’t he have to buy a car?

I don't know how this would work, it's just an idea I had today, honestly! I was just interested in seeing if others have done the same and how viable it is

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UpDownAllAround1 · 08/07/2026 16:31

Would be an Uber driver before an instructor. V flexible

Mumoftwoteenagers · 08/07/2026 16:31

Does he have ice water in his veins?
Does he like driving and is he good at it?
Is he good at explaining physical type instructions?

If so then those are probably the main things you need to be a good driving instructor.

Nightspray · 08/07/2026 16:31

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JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 08/07/2026 16:30

This could work, it just depends on his patience level! And how chilled he is. The driving instructor’s around here do a roaring trade with teenagers. Most are at college so can have lessons in the day around their studies. Won’t he have to buy a car?

Aabbaas · 08/07/2026 16:30

Birthdayfeel · 08/07/2026 16:27

Surely driving instructor working hours are almost all evenings and weekends i.e. when their customers aren't working?

Well yes but this for example means he could do the school run at 3pm and then do some lessons after I am back from work at around 5:30/6pm whereas before he'd be home at 7pm every day

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Aabbaas · 08/07/2026 16:29

Retail management before.
He has great people skills, yes, I'd say that's his main strength.

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Birthdayfeel · 08/07/2026 16:27

Surely driving instructor working hours are almost all evenings and weekends i.e. when their customers aren't working?

cestlavielife · 08/07/2026 16:26

What does he want? Does he have people skills? Is he patient?

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ForDreamyMintHare · 08/07/2026 16:25

I cannot imagine a more stressful thing to do than constantly sit in the car next to a new learner driver. What did he do before? Does he have any existing skills which suggest that he would be good at this?

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