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Is this a weird present? Be honest please!

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sparklingWine4 · 08/07/2026 13:47

Just asking for opinions as I’m totally overthinking this!

I’ve got a really close friend who isn’t European. She moved here from across the world, we met at uni, and have been best friends ever since. She’s moving away for a new job and I’ve been trying to think of a nice personal present for her. She got me a cracking gift for a big event in my life and it was really personal and meaningful so I wanted to do something similar for her. I’ve got her some jewellery and other things as the main present, but I’ve had an idea and I’m just not sure now if she’ll like it and I’m over thinking it!

shes always been fascinated by the Irish rural equestrian sort of culture, and while she doesn’t ride herself, she really likes horses and that sort of vibe. I do eventing and have a set of 4 lucky horseshoes (taken off my horse) which I’ve got one in a frame and 3 basically in my outhouse.

I decided to get one of them redesigned into an ornament for her, as a keepsake from her time in rural Ireland. I know it’s not lucky for her in the same personal way it is for me, but it’s sort of a running superstition that if you keep it upright it’ll bring you good luck and she loves that sort of good luck / fortune kind of thing. And it’s just an ornament/ keepsake. But now I’m totally overthinking it and I’m thinking what if she thinks wtf why has she given me a horse shoe, what am I supposed to do with this etc, or that it looks like I’m forcing my interest on her

ill attach a pic of what it’ll look like to give an idea

is this a nice present given the context above? I don’t want it to look like a weird present that I’m forcing on her because I’m horsey, but I know she’s always loved that sort of thing and I know she wants some kind of meaningful keepsake from her time here

if someone could give me an honest opinion I’d be really grateful haha. Thanks so much! X

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AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 13:56

I think that's a lovely idea OP.

I'm sure she will love it

ToadRage · 08/07/2026 13:56

Its a lovely idea and you said she likes that kind of thing but I'm from the South West so to my mind they're upside down.

SandAndSea · 08/07/2026 13:55

I thought it sounded great but, tbh, I don't like the ones in the photos. (But that's just me.)

Other random thoughts I had: Is she likely to be travelling around, in which case, would it be unwanted extra weight? Would a horse shoe charm for a bracelet or anklet suit her?

ZanyPoet · 08/07/2026 13:52

but I know she’s always loved that sort of thing
then you already have your answer?

It's a cute present anyway, and you can make it even more personal with a note explaining that it's special to you and wish it brings her luck or something

ruolocretaw · 08/07/2026 13:51

I think it's a nice idea. You never know with gifts and can only do your best!

ImPamDoove · 08/07/2026 13:51

Only you can guess if she’ll like it. You seem to know what sort of things she likes.

I’d be secretly ‘wtf am I supposed to do with this?’ and I’d shove it in a drawer. 😬

ColdAsAWitches · 08/07/2026 13:49

Sounds ideal to me. If she's interested in that sort of a thing, why not?

sparklingWine4 · 08/07/2026 13:48

Right these are just random pics I found online haha but this sort of thing

im definitely overthinking it but ive just been trying so hard to think of something personal/ meaningful related to her time living here and im just worried this is a bit too niche and specific if that makes sense!

Is this a weird present? Be honest please!
Is this a weird present? Be honest please!
Is this a weird present? Be honest please!
Is this a weird present? Be honest please!
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