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Is this a weird present? Be honest please!

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sparklingWine4 · 08/07/2026 13:47

Just asking for opinions as I’m totally overthinking this!

I’ve got a really close friend who isn’t European. She moved here from across the world, we met at uni, and have been best friends ever since. She’s moving away for a new job and I’ve been trying to think of a nice personal present for her. She got me a cracking gift for a big event in my life and it was really personal and meaningful so I wanted to do something similar for her. I’ve got her some jewellery and other things as the main present, but I’ve had an idea and I’m just not sure now if she’ll like it and I’m over thinking it!

shes always been fascinated by the Irish rural equestrian sort of culture, and while she doesn’t ride herself, she really likes horses and that sort of vibe. I do eventing and have a set of 4 lucky horseshoes (taken off my horse) which I’ve got one in a frame and 3 basically in my outhouse.

I decided to get one of them redesigned into an ornament for her, as a keepsake from her time in rural Ireland. I know it’s not lucky for her in the same personal way it is for me, but it’s sort of a running superstition that if you keep it upright it’ll bring you good luck and she loves that sort of good luck / fortune kind of thing. And it’s just an ornament/ keepsake. But now I’m totally overthinking it and I’m thinking what if she thinks wtf why has she given me a horse shoe, what am I supposed to do with this etc, or that it looks like I’m forcing my interest on her

ill attach a pic of what it’ll look like to give an idea

is this a nice present given the context above? I don’t want it to look like a weird present that I’m forcing on her because I’m horsey, but I know she’s always loved that sort of thing and I know she wants some kind of meaningful keepsake from her time here

if someone could give me an honest opinion I’d be really grateful haha. Thanks so much! X

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Charys · 08/07/2026 15:30

I think the fact that you put so much thought into it is a great gift to her. I’d really appreciate that.
I remember a very old friend came to stay at my house and for my birthday she gave me a small bottle of Body Shop Rose EDT. I’ve never liked rose perfumes and frankly it was obvious it was off the ‘re-gift’ shelf she has. She’s quite a wealthy person.
Gifts really do reveal a persons ability to notice and cherish their friends, so I think you’re friend will be very heartwarmed.

Obeseandashamed · 08/07/2026 15:29

I think k it’s a lovely idea but think it would look nicer framed than as a hanging ornament

Is this a weird present? Be honest please!
Dollymylove · 08/07/2026 15:24

Its lovely. Im not hugely to horses but I would love that. My dad found an old horseshoe many years ago and he lovingly nailed it on to his garden shed. We now have it nailed onto our shed. They are meant to be lucky, of course !! 😀

BauhausOfEliott · 08/07/2026 15:24

I think that if, when you give it to her, you explain about horseshoes being a good luck charm here, and tell her that you hope it will remind her of her time in Ireland because of the equestrian tradition and the local superstition of horseshoes being good luck, then it will be a lovely gift.

My old neighbours were Albanian and they gave me Nazar eye charm as a thank you gift once; I thought it was a really nice gesture and I liked the fact that it was like getting a little piece of Albania.

minimuffs2651 · 08/07/2026 15:24

It's lovely, but does she have space to put it somewhere?

(she might not appreciate as much if not! just saying)

Chesspitofbacteria · 08/07/2026 15:05

ToadRage · 08/07/2026 13:56

Its a lovely idea and you said she likes that kind of thing but I'm from the South West so to my mind they're upside down.

I always thought that they are displayed that way up because otherwise your "luck runs out".

Does the SW have a special way of displaying them?

Not being snarky (I live in the SW but didn't grow up here). Just curious

BudgetBuster · 08/07/2026 14:59

One of the most precious things I have ever been gifted is a horseshoe from my late grandfather's workshop (from one of his horses) when I bought my house. It is proudly displayed over the door of my house upright.

I love the modern design in your pics. I would probably print off a small note explaining the tradition to go with it and a picture of the horse it came from... just in case!

Sparkletastic · 08/07/2026 14:57

You’ve put so much thought into it that she will appreciate it for that alone.

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 08/07/2026 14:53

I love things like that, it’s really personal and lovely thought behind it.

I’m also like you though and would be wondering if the recipient would like it! I say go for it!

sparklingWine4 · 08/07/2026 14:46

Sorry I should have said- I’m not doing the bling lol definitely not her taste! It’ll be shiney and mirrory like in the pictures but just minus the crystals lol

the idea of adding an Irish ribbon to it is brilliant though- thank you!

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DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/07/2026 14:43

It sounds a great present idea but the horseshoes in the picture were more blingy than I'd expect for someone into rural Irish pursuits! But you know her tastes best.

This is more what your description conjured up to me (without the anniversary inscription, obviously!)

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1739600824/blacksmith-made-iron-horseshoe-6th

Or
https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/4383498807/personalized-engraved-horseshoe-custom

Perhaps you could add a green velvet ribbon?

Mt563 · 08/07/2026 14:31

Ithink she'll love it, very thoughtful though I agree I don't like the bling. I'd just shine it up, maybe add the ribbon for hanging.

Morepositivemum · 08/07/2026 14:28

I bought an old worn horseshoe in a fair recently (wanted to support a local guy who looks down on his luck). I would be thrilled for that present! Lovely idea!

CitizenofMoronia · 08/07/2026 14:25

I would love it and extra that its from one of your own horses, that makes it more special

diddl · 08/07/2026 14:23

I thought it sounded great but, tbh, I don't like the ones in the photos.

Same here.

Too sparkly & unauthentic looking for me.

Maybe she would prefer that though?

If she's interested enough in the subject she'll know that a horseshoe is lucky & to keep it upright so that the luck doesn't "run out".

gottheendofthetisck · 08/07/2026 14:19

Well I fucking love the idea

MagpiePi · 08/07/2026 14:18

I think its a lovely present, but as PP have said, not encrusted with jewels - unless that is totally her taste!

Did she know the horse it came from?

VoltaireMittyDream · 08/07/2026 14:14

I think it’s charming and personal - it reflects something of her, and something of you, and something of your shared context, and a wish for her to be happy and lucky.

I am a sucker for presents like this that are symbolic souvenirs of a friendship and a time of life spent together. I would probably tear up if someone gave this to me as a leaving present.

Davros · 08/07/2026 14:14

I like the idea but I’d go more rustic/natural. The ones in the photos are too clingy and weddingy

ClaredeBear · 08/07/2026 14:13

What a lovely thought! She will appreciate it, I’m sure.

NorthFacingGardener · 08/07/2026 14:12

Sounds like a very nice thoughtful gift OP.

Ribbon in the colours of the Irish flag or just green would be lovely - as others said white is a bit weddingy.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 08/07/2026 14:09

I know she’s always loved that sort of thing and I know she wants some kind of meaningful keepsake from her time here

You've answered your own question - you know she'll appreciate it because you know what she likes.

Pureclass · 08/07/2026 14:04

Id say lovely.- maybe biased as I have loads of horseshoes in my house
Just got one as a present from Croatia so they are lucky in other parts of the world too

But not with white ribbon- that makes it too weddingy. Actually are horseshoes a wedding thing in GB?

Maybe green for Ireland?

Nousernameideaaga · 08/07/2026 14:03

Lovely present ☺️

Jackiepumpkinhead · 08/07/2026 14:02

I think it’s a lovely thoughtful gift, OP. Although agree with PP, I don’t like the blingy ones in the posted photo.

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