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To have kicked an old man’s dog?

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itsme189 · 08/07/2026 12:37

This morning I was walking my 2 very small elderly dogs on lead in the woods near me where it’s nice and cool for them.

they love people but they don’t love when dogs run up to them and get all in their face, valid I wouldn’t like that either. If a dog on or off lead just walks past or gives them a quick sniff they don’t mind. I always tell people not to let their dogs come right up to them.
Theyve never bitten just growled and I just don’t want to risk anything.

there was an old man walking a large greyhound type dog off lead and he’s miles away from it it runs at us very fast so I stick my leg in front of my dogs and the dog doesn’t stop runs straight into my leg. He then excitedly throws his foot on top of my smallest dog he squeals in pain and my other dog starts growling and showing teeth.

so I picked them up and then the big dogs starts jumping up at me to get to my dogs so I kick it away.

Old man then starts screaming at me for “abusing” his friendly dog and a lady walking passed then said to him “I saw her kick the dog”

and now I don’t know if I did too much but I was so overwhelmed and worried it would become a fight and there’s no way my old boys would do well in that situation. To make it worse the lady made a post about it in our local Facebook group (luckily no pictures) and everyone’s saying awful things but they only know one side!

For the record the dog was not hurt didn’t even squeal!

OP posts:
SpaceRaccoon · 08/07/2026 19:32

If a dog kept jumping on me and wouldn't stop, I'd kick it too.

BuildbyNumbere · 08/07/2026 19:31

Hawksie · 08/07/2026 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

What rubbish … an off lead dog should always be under control and have recall, otherwise it should NOT be off lead and should not be allowed to run up to on lead dogs!!

PloddingAlong21 · 08/07/2026 19:30

OP I would have done the same in your situation. Some are saying “he was just excited!”…but you didn’t know that and if you’re dogs were scared you of course can’t guarantee they wouldn’t respond in defense.

His dog should not have been off a lead. Very irresponsible.

What do people expect? You to stand there and let it repeatedly jump at you and await your dogs to react scared? Then that would have been your fault 🙄

nomas · 08/07/2026 19:30

Mummy3Plus1 · 08/07/2026 19:26

No bias at all, I've had all different sizes of dogs. I've just taken the time to educate myself on how to train dogs. I've also seen many little dog owners scoop up their dogs every time they see a big dog. It tells the dogs to be scared. My advice was actually quite balanced and if the OP truly wants to stop this situation occuring again then she needs to train her dogs to not be dog aggressive and train herself on how to actually help herself and her dogs.

Your advice wasn't balanced. You told OP her dog wasn't hurt when she says quite clearly he was. You dismissed what happened as 'paw play'.

You were also pompous telling OP 'no ifs no buts'. OP is the one who was there, she was absolutely entitled to protect her small dogs from being attacked by a big dog.

And then you ended with passive aggressive advice to OP to find this man and apologise to him and to be a better dog owner.

SandyHappy · 08/07/2026 19:28

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 18:44

Good first you to be able to be that assertive.
Not good for me who just freeze out of fear…. I’d genuinely be terrified and certainly would NOT put myself in front of an aggressive dog.

You said yourself that the OP panicked. Which is a fair reaction to a dog that big putting their paws on your shoulders.
I dont see the point on lecturing the OP about the fact they should have done xyz. Or that they are awful etc…

Let’s concentrate on the real troublemaker - the big dog owner who didn’t have his dog under control. And let the OP alone

Let’s concentrate on the real troublemaker - the big dog owner who didn’t have his dog under control. And let the OP alone

I totally agree, idiot people that let their idiot dogs run up to dogs on leads have no place owning a dog IMO. BUT, there is nothing you can do to change that unfortunately, these people are thick as shit and are putting their own pet in danger every time the allow it, the only thing you can do is learn the most effective ways for YOU to protect yourselves and your pets if you come across them, and the no. 1 rule is to stay calm.

You said yourself that the OP panicked. Which is a fair reaction to a dog that big putting their paws on your shoulders.

She panicked before the dog jumped up her, I'm not sure what people are failing to understand with this.. the dog ran up, was pawing at her dog, at that point she could have turned and walked away, or blocked it's access, she could have shouted at it, but she didn't, she panicked, started moving around lifting her dogs off the ground and this dog decided that was a great game and started jumping all over her, then she started kicking out at it. The dog in OPs scenario wasn't aggressive, it was already over excited, and OP creating more excitement made it 10 times worse, I've seen people do this in real life, it looks crazy and just riles all the dogs up even more, it only ever works if the owner is near enough to grab their dog and you need to buy a few seconds.

Honestly, the best thing you can do is not react, walk away, or put a physical barrier in between them, and 9 out of 10 times, the excited dog will quickly lose interest, but it is completely against some people's natural tendencies, and as annoying as loose dogs are, I'd only ever hurt another dog if it was attacking or aggressive, which this dog wasn't.

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 19:27

Mummy3Plus1 · 08/07/2026 19:26

No bias at all, I've had all different sizes of dogs. I've just taken the time to educate myself on how to train dogs. I've also seen many little dog owners scoop up their dogs every time they see a big dog. It tells the dogs to be scared. My advice was actually quite balanced and if the OP truly wants to stop this situation occuring again then she needs to train her dogs to not be dog aggressive and train herself on how to actually help herself and her dogs.

When were the OP’s dogs aggressive??

Mummy3Plus1 · 08/07/2026 19:26

nomas · 08/07/2026 19:17

Spoken with the bias of a big dog owner with little concern for OP's small dogs.

No bias at all, I've had all different sizes of dogs. I've just taken the time to educate myself on how to train dogs. I've also seen many little dog owners scoop up their dogs every time they see a big dog. It tells the dogs to be scared. My advice was actually quite balanced and if the OP truly wants to stop this situation occuring again then she needs to train her dogs to not be dog aggressive and train herself on how to actually help herself and her dogs.

Kariksalomna · 08/07/2026 19:23

Mummy3Plus1 · 08/07/2026 18:54

First, by picking your dogs up, you create the issue with them being dog aggressive. They need to learn how to detect when a dog wants to play and by reacting in this way you create the fear. As a large dog owner I see this all the time, owners think they are 'protecting' their dogs when actually they're causing the problem. If the dog was playing too rough then you should separate them calmly but no big reactions as again that tells your dogs there is something to be scared about. Greyhounds do not have big paws and as you didn't say your dog has come away injured them being knocked to the ground has not done any damage and actually paw play is a very common way for dogs to play, they learn it as puppies.

Second, you were absolutely in the wrong for kicking a non aggressive dog, there is no ifs or buts with that. The only reason to ever do that is as a last resort if you or your dogs are in danger and being attacked. Honestly your reaction has likely done more long term damage to this dog than anything the dog did to yours. Reactions like this commonly lead to dogs become scared of people which would be a really sad result given he was only looking to play. If I was you, I would reach out to the owner, apologise and see a trainer to help you teach your dogs how to behave around other dogs and they can also teach you some techniques for when this happens in the future.

Exactly right

nomas · 08/07/2026 19:17

Mummy3Plus1 · 08/07/2026 18:54

First, by picking your dogs up, you create the issue with them being dog aggressive. They need to learn how to detect when a dog wants to play and by reacting in this way you create the fear. As a large dog owner I see this all the time, owners think they are 'protecting' their dogs when actually they're causing the problem. If the dog was playing too rough then you should separate them calmly but no big reactions as again that tells your dogs there is something to be scared about. Greyhounds do not have big paws and as you didn't say your dog has come away injured them being knocked to the ground has not done any damage and actually paw play is a very common way for dogs to play, they learn it as puppies.

Second, you were absolutely in the wrong for kicking a non aggressive dog, there is no ifs or buts with that. The only reason to ever do that is as a last resort if you or your dogs are in danger and being attacked. Honestly your reaction has likely done more long term damage to this dog than anything the dog did to yours. Reactions like this commonly lead to dogs become scared of people which would be a really sad result given he was only looking to play. If I was you, I would reach out to the owner, apologise and see a trainer to help you teach your dogs how to behave around other dogs and they can also teach you some techniques for when this happens in the future.

Spoken with the bias of a big dog owner with little concern for OP's small dogs.

Greyhound98 · 08/07/2026 19:14

He was wrong to let his dog come charging up to you. This is why small dogs end up reactive because people let their dogs do what the fuck they want because they don’t want to curb their freedom by keeping them on a lead so they prefer for them to jump up at people, knock kids over, chase other dogs and wildlife and then they say ‘oh he’s friendly’ just FUCK RIGHT OFF. Entitled dog owners and their unruly hounds do my head in.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 08/07/2026 19:12

Whammyammy · 08/07/2026 18:58

Disagree. Why should the op hire a field because sone people cant control their dogs?An on lead dog doesn't know the intention of an uncontrolled dog bounding up to. In these scenarios I pick my little dog up and my 40kg Malamute goes in front of us to protect. Good luck to any uncontrolled dog.

It occurs to me that if OP exercises her dogs on the lead, it would be otiose to hire an entire field for them to run about in.

(I do wonder whether Hawksie has a greyhound that is reliable in its recall off-lead. I very much doubt it, if Hawksie thinks that rushing up to much smaller and older dogs and terrifying them, while ignoring their unwelcoming reaction, is "socialised".)

Kariksalomna · 08/07/2026 19:10

You shouldn't have kicked the dog, it wasn't being aggressive, it wanted to play with your dogs. You kicking the dog could potentially make the situation much worse and make him scared. sorry. People usually just keep walking in this situation they don't assault dogs. No matter what others say kicking a friendly dog is wrong and cruel.

Whammyammy · 08/07/2026 18:58

Hawksie · 08/07/2026 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

Disagree. Why should the op hire a field because sone people cant control their dogs?An on lead dog doesn't know the intention of an uncontrolled dog bounding up to. In these scenarios I pick my little dog up and my 40kg Malamute goes in front of us to protect. Good luck to any uncontrolled dog.

Mummy3Plus1 · 08/07/2026 18:54

itsme189 · 08/07/2026 12:37

This morning I was walking my 2 very small elderly dogs on lead in the woods near me where it’s nice and cool for them.

they love people but they don’t love when dogs run up to them and get all in their face, valid I wouldn’t like that either. If a dog on or off lead just walks past or gives them a quick sniff they don’t mind. I always tell people not to let their dogs come right up to them.
Theyve never bitten just growled and I just don’t want to risk anything.

there was an old man walking a large greyhound type dog off lead and he’s miles away from it it runs at us very fast so I stick my leg in front of my dogs and the dog doesn’t stop runs straight into my leg. He then excitedly throws his foot on top of my smallest dog he squeals in pain and my other dog starts growling and showing teeth.

so I picked them up and then the big dogs starts jumping up at me to get to my dogs so I kick it away.

Old man then starts screaming at me for “abusing” his friendly dog and a lady walking passed then said to him “I saw her kick the dog”

and now I don’t know if I did too much but I was so overwhelmed and worried it would become a fight and there’s no way my old boys would do well in that situation. To make it worse the lady made a post about it in our local Facebook group (luckily no pictures) and everyone’s saying awful things but they only know one side!

For the record the dog was not hurt didn’t even squeal!

First, by picking your dogs up, you create the issue with them being dog aggressive. They need to learn how to detect when a dog wants to play and by reacting in this way you create the fear. As a large dog owner I see this all the time, owners think they are 'protecting' their dogs when actually they're causing the problem. If the dog was playing too rough then you should separate them calmly but no big reactions as again that tells your dogs there is something to be scared about. Greyhounds do not have big paws and as you didn't say your dog has come away injured them being knocked to the ground has not done any damage and actually paw play is a very common way for dogs to play, they learn it as puppies.

Second, you were absolutely in the wrong for kicking a non aggressive dog, there is no ifs or buts with that. The only reason to ever do that is as a last resort if you or your dogs are in danger and being attacked. Honestly your reaction has likely done more long term damage to this dog than anything the dog did to yours. Reactions like this commonly lead to dogs become scared of people which would be a really sad result given he was only looking to play. If I was you, I would reach out to the owner, apologise and see a trainer to help you teach your dogs how to behave around other dogs and they can also teach you some techniques for when this happens in the future.

Permanentlytired2621 · 08/07/2026 18:51

Dogs with no recall that run straight up to other dogs should not be off lead. Not all dogs take kindly to being rushed/sniffed at. I would have done the same

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 08/07/2026 18:50

I don't think there is a legal ban on off-lead greyhounds, but I do know that all the greyhound rescue organisations I can find seem to be strongly in favour of keeping them on the lead except in an enclosed ("secure") field. Some even put a clause about it in the adoption agreement the new owners sign.

One explanation given is "Greyhounds are generally not allowed off-lead in unenclosed areas due to their high prey drive, immense speed, and poor recall ability, which makes them prone to chasing, getting lost, or injuring themselves. They can reach speeds of over 60 -- 70 km/h in seconds, often ignoring commands to stop when focused on a target. "

To be honest, I wouldn't let a greyhound off-lead myself, because they are impulsive and drivers' reactions are not always all you might want. A greyhound is not going to stop just because there's a road in the way, and there are roads near most woodlands and parks.

CaptBirdsEar · 08/07/2026 18:47

I’ve kicked away a dog before now as it’s jumping up at me so I don’t think you did anything wrong. I’m fed up of people with no control over their dogs.

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 18:44

SandyHappy · 08/07/2026 18:25

And if the dog isn’t just playing but is aggressive, you … put yourself in front of the dog and put yourself in arm’s way at the same time?

Oh my god yes, I would, and have, absolutely put myself in front of my dog when being faced with an aggressive dog, IME experience, most dogs back down from a human being assertive (loud voice, deliberate 'blocking' body language) normally gives the owners chance to catch up. I've had dogs all my life and I can count on one hand the times that has happened though, most dogs that approach us are not nasty, but poorly socialised and/or boisterous.

I'm not sure why reading my post you have jumped to victim blaming though, I said OP escalated that situation in the way she responded, it is not her fault it happened at all.

Good first you to be able to be that assertive.
Not good for me who just freeze out of fear…. I’d genuinely be terrified and certainly would NOT put myself in front of an aggressive dog.

You said yourself that the OP panicked. Which is a fair reaction to a dog that big putting their paws on your shoulders.
I dont see the point on lecturing the OP about the fact they should have done xyz. Or that they are awful etc…

Let’s concentrate on the real troublemaker - the big dog owner who didn’t have his dog under control. And let the OP alone

Floralibra · 08/07/2026 18:41

I am pretty sure greyhounds shouldn’t be off lead legally anyway? Maybe an overreaction to kick the dog OP but that lady is a bitch posting on fb about something that was none of her business

Shittyyear2025 · 08/07/2026 18:36

Hawksie · 08/07/2026 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

The other dog was out of control! OP's dogs were on leads, the other wasn't and caused trouble. Op kicked it to get it off her own dogs!

BatsInHibernation · 08/07/2026 18:32

itsme189 · 08/07/2026 13:24

I didn’t kick it hard I just kicked it to get it off me like I said he was not hurt and did not squeal or whimper unlike my dog who was hurt when he had his head smacked into the ground. Dogs should be trained not to jump all over someone and run up and hurt other dogs, that’s not just a dog being a dog imo. Like others said maybe a stick or corrective spray would be good in future!

What I mean by a 'dog being a dog' is that it's not his fault he is untrained. He was doing a very doggy thing and he doesn't know better. I hope your dog is ok and not too badly affected.

Gofaster2023 · 08/07/2026 18:32

And I'm not piling on in case that gets thrown about. I am merely stating my own opinion which op asked for. It is okay to have different opinions and I wish op and her little dogs nothing but the best. I just wouldn't have kicked the dog. And that's okay too.

ThunderThunderThunderThunderCats · 08/07/2026 18:31

Hawksie · 08/07/2026 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

Oh come off it. The owner should have called the dog back when he saw it wasn't welcome. A dog shouldn't be that far off lead if they've got no recall. Never mind being so badly trained it jumps up at the OP to reach her dogs!

Gofaster2023 · 08/07/2026 18:26

I think the main problem is that your issue is with the man and his lack of control, but it is the dog who was kicked. You have no idea if the dog was hurt. My dog didn't even flinch when a 50p sized piece of flesh was ripped off her by another dog (she did later). For all you know the dog is suffering major internal trauma. I dont think for a second it is, but you cant confidently state that you didn't hurt it. Everyone is saying the dog shouldn't have been off lead. That is probably true but it's hardly the dogs choice and physically injuring a non aggressive dog seems overkill to me. In terms of what to do in the future, I had success shouting "Get off. Bad dog!" To a collie who came aggressively at mine. He looked so surprised that it interrupted his behaviour. I would not recommend kicking because how would you get yourself and your two dogs home with a massive bleeding wound if the dog had responded aggressively?

SandyHappy · 08/07/2026 18:25

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 16:13

And if the dog isn’t just playing but is aggressive, you … put yourself in front of the dog and put yourself in arm’s way at the same time?

That’s a serious question from someone who’d be terrified in that situation (so I’d just hold still, praying for the owner to do something. You know the famous Freeze reaction).

That dog should never have been let to run towards the OP full stop.
Telling the OP she didn’t react well is not here nor there. The first step is getting your dig under control. Otherwise you fall into victim blaming.

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And if the dog isn’t just playing but is aggressive, you … put yourself in front of the dog and put yourself in arm’s way at the same time?

Oh my god yes, I would, and have, absolutely put myself in front of my dog when being faced with an aggressive dog, IME experience, most dogs back down from a human being assertive (loud voice, deliberate 'blocking' body language) normally gives the owners chance to catch up. I've had dogs all my life and I can count on one hand the times that has happened though, most dogs that approach us are not nasty, but poorly socialised and/or boisterous.

I'm not sure why reading my post you have jumped to victim blaming though, I said OP escalated that situation in the way she responded, it is not her fault it happened at all.

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