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To have kicked an old man’s dog?

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itsme189 · 08/07/2026 12:37

This morning I was walking my 2 very small elderly dogs on lead in the woods near me where it’s nice and cool for them.

they love people but they don’t love when dogs run up to them and get all in their face, valid I wouldn’t like that either. If a dog on or off lead just walks past or gives them a quick sniff they don’t mind. I always tell people not to let their dogs come right up to them.
Theyve never bitten just growled and I just don’t want to risk anything.

there was an old man walking a large greyhound type dog off lead and he’s miles away from it it runs at us very fast so I stick my leg in front of my dogs and the dog doesn’t stop runs straight into my leg. He then excitedly throws his foot on top of my smallest dog he squeals in pain and my other dog starts growling and showing teeth.

so I picked them up and then the big dogs starts jumping up at me to get to my dogs so I kick it away.

Old man then starts screaming at me for “abusing” his friendly dog and a lady walking passed then said to him “I saw her kick the dog”

and now I don’t know if I did too much but I was so overwhelmed and worried it would become a fight and there’s no way my old boys would do well in that situation. To make it worse the lady made a post about it in our local Facebook group (luckily no pictures) and everyone’s saying awful things but they only know one side!

For the record the dog was not hurt didn’t even squeal!

OP posts:
ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 14:06

LaterCheck · 08/07/2026 14:00

The entitled owners are all over this thread!

I don't actually own any pets!!! Through choice having grown up with them as sadly I can't commit to the work of owning one.

millymollymoomoo · 08/07/2026 14:04

Picking your dogs ip will reinforce their own Behaviour issues and anxieties.

yes big dog needs training but so do your dogs/ to reduce growling, nervousness and anxious reactive ness

LaterCheck · 08/07/2026 14:03

NCForOneNightOnly · 08/07/2026 13:34

This is exactly why you shouldn’t pick your dogs up. It makes you the target and the other dog starts jumping up at you.

The dog at ‘fault’ was the greyhound and the shit owner was the rude entitled man. Let’s not victim-blame here.

Starlight7080 · 08/07/2026 14:02

KrazyKatty · 08/07/2026 13:30

@Starlight7080
…Or did it shout as a natural response to having another dog playfully push its face down?

Presumably you wouldn’t minimise such behaviour if it was a man shoving a woman?

“It’s ok he pushed you in the face, he just wanted to have his bit of fun.”

Just because it’s only dogs getting harmed, it doesn’t give you any right to assume your dog can treat other dogs as their personal play thing.

Some people are absolute morons!

Dont be so ridiculous. Bloody hell why are you turning it in to violence against women?So dramatic!
Yes big dogs can be overzealous and often do stand on smaller dogs. But most of the time they dont actually cause damage.

LightningTree · 08/07/2026 14:02

By law a dog off the lead which runs up to a dog on the lead is considered to be dangerously out of control. I had a similar experience, but only shouted at the offending dog, and the ignorant owner became very indignant. If you encounter this dog again report it to the local dog warden.

Probablylate21 · 08/07/2026 14:01

itsme189 · 08/07/2026 12:40

if you can’t control your dog they shouldn’t be off lead man could not get his dog to come back to him? What was I supposed to do?

You did the right thing OP. You can’t be responsible for idiots who have dogs with no recall off the lead. If your dogs would have got hurt I bet he wouldn’t have paid your vet bills!

LancashireButterPie · 08/07/2026 14:01

TheHungryHungryLandsharks

Best advice from whom?
I do wonder where the actual evidence behind this advice comes from.
It's one thing not to pick up your dog to avoid getting bitten yourself, but a child?
Who seriously recommends that you try and calmly walk the aggressive dog back to its owner when it has its jaws clamped around your child.

LaterCheck · 08/07/2026 14:00

ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 13:24

YABVU the man was also BU, but you shouldn't have kicked the dog in that situation. There's kicks and then there's kicks and as it wasn't mentioned it sounds like it wasn't a gentle kick. You'd be getting a vets bill from me for a check to see the dog is ok.

The entitled owners are all over this thread!

ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 14:00

ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 13:57

I'm choosing to ignore nothing. Please re-read.. the dog didn't attack. It's not ok to kick a dog hastily like that. That's why the woman that witnessed everything was appalled too. Ok if you want to analyse everything I write.. a strong kick can be worse than kicking. But OP never said it was one kick! So kick / kicking, whatever word you want to use 🙄. If you think it's ok to kick a dog hastily as you're nervous, then that's on you. As per my post, I believe of course the dog should have been on a lead.

Also want to add if OPs dogs react like this and get nervous, they probably should be wearing a muzzle. Along with people keeping their hyperactive dogs on leads.

theemmadilemma · 08/07/2026 13:59

Literally these all over the place now. But it's fine according to people here? FFS.

BippidyBoppety · 08/07/2026 13:59

itsme189 · 08/07/2026 12:51

Well I can control them though can’t I because they are on a lead and the second they growled I scooped them up! you cannot say the same for the other dogs owner

Scooping the dogs up was completely and absolutely the WRONG thing to do. Apologies if anyone else has said this, I read the OP's posts and the first two pages.

The dog running at you wasn't showing aggression, from your description. It's a tall clumsy lout, again, from your description. In situations like this the correct thing to do is to shout loudly at the other dog's owner "Control Your Dog" while using your own body as a shield against your own dogs getting injured. Picking up a smaller dog leaves their belly exposed for another dog to bite at. It's happened. Your dogs weren't in danger from being attacked by this louty dog, and kicking out at the louty dog was unnecessary. Use your body. And your BIG voice. Ultimately it's the fault of the other owner in not controlling his dog but you are also in the wrong for choosing violence (and your protests it wasn't a hard kick mean nothing, you chose violence). Your dogs had momentary annoyance, dogs sniff and size each other up. You completely overreacted.

As an aside, the Jif Lemon squeezy bottles fit nicely in a pocket; aggressive dogs (not louty dogs) won't enjoy getting a mouthful (or eyeful). Last resort only.

MysticHalfWitch · 08/07/2026 13:59

YANBU!!!! The man was wrong for allowing his offload dog to approach your on lead dogs. Boils my piss it does. Dogs are not human and do not NEED to say ‘hello’.

Viviennemary · 08/07/2026 13:58

I don't like dogs but don't approve of kicking them. But it was self defence. Dog was out of control.

Calliopespa · 08/07/2026 13:58

ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 13:57

I'm choosing to ignore nothing. Please re-read.. the dog didn't attack. It's not ok to kick a dog hastily like that. That's why the woman that witnessed everything was appalled too. Ok if you want to analyse everything I write.. a strong kick can be worse than kicking. But OP never said it was one kick! So kick / kicking, whatever word you want to use 🙄. If you think it's ok to kick a dog hastily as you're nervous, then that's on you. As per my post, I believe of course the dog should have been on a lead.

I agree, there is not enough detail in the OP for us to say.

Where, for instance, was the kick directed?

LaterCheck · 08/07/2026 13:58

Blades2 · 08/07/2026 13:13

Why ask when you’re defending yourself when everyone says you were unreasonable? Socialise your dogs better. And keep your feet to yourself.

Another crap owner! Getting a bad name for all dog owners.

ThatJadeLion · 08/07/2026 13:57

MsSquiz · 08/07/2026 13:51

I see you’re choosing to ignore the point that the OP may have been preventing her dogs from attacking the greyhound in defence?

OP said her dogs are elderly, have been known to growl at other dogs and she asks owners to keep their dogs at a distance.

the owner of the greyhound either didn’t try to recall his dog or the dog didn’t listen, therefore should not be walking off lead.

she didn’t “give the dog a kicking” she kicked the dog as it jumped up at her to reach her dogs. There’s a huge difference there

I'm choosing to ignore nothing. Please re-read.. the dog didn't attack. It's not ok to kick a dog hastily like that. That's why the woman that witnessed everything was appalled too. Ok if you want to analyse everything I write.. a strong kick can be worse than kicking. But OP never said it was one kick! So kick / kicking, whatever word you want to use 🙄. If you think it's ok to kick a dog hastily as you're nervous, then that's on you. As per my post, I believe of course the dog should have been on a lead.

Benjithedog · 08/07/2026 13:56

You’ve done nothing wrong here and most people would have done the same thing

LaterCheck · 08/07/2026 13:55

gannett · 08/07/2026 12:58

The other dog wasn't attacking your dogs. It was being playful. Your fear was that your dogs would react aggressively.

You say you picked your dogs up and then kicked the other dog - that's awful behaviour. Picking your dogs up solved the problem and there was no need for the kick, given that the other dog was only a playful greyhound and not an aggressive XL bully.

Calling a dog who jumps at strangers and other dogs ‘playful’ is the hallmark of bad dog owners everywhere. See also, ‘oh he’s just being friendly’.

LeaderBee · 08/07/2026 13:55

BillieWiper · 08/07/2026 12:50

But how would you feel if a stranger kicked one of your dogs? You can say what you like about their behavior and how nobody would ever have to do that. But if you think it's ok then surely you accept it if your own dog gets kicked?

Don't understand how it would have the chance to be kicked when it was on a lead?

What a strange opinion.

LaliqueSaltGrinder · 08/07/2026 13:55

HerbyWitch · 08/07/2026 13:51

Is it necessary to add a d in front of the word dog? Abbreviations are meant to make words...shorter, yanno? Not longer....

Tells you lots about the attitude/stance of the poster though... especially on a thread about an aggressive animal, referring to it as a "ddog"

Username3333333 · 08/07/2026 13:54

I would do exactly the same to protect my dogs. Senior dogs should not have to deal with over exuberant dogs off lead no matter how friendly they are. If you cant get a recall then dont let dogs off lead, simple. It is only courteous to put your dog on a lead when you meet another dog, people and especially children. It wont hurt a dog to be on a lead but it may if he gets into a fight for getting in another dogs space. I think its down to lazy owners not the dog but at the end of the day our dog looks to us to protect them.

Mistymaglets · 08/07/2026 13:54

mydogisthebest · 08/07/2026 13:47

Rubbish. A lot of dogs don't like other dogs running up to them and sticking their face in theirs. My dog is socialised and friendly but he hates dogs doing that. If he is offlead he just runs away but on lead he can't.

Any decent dog trainer/behavourist will say most dogs do not like it

Yes, I've said this further up the thread.

90% of dogs do not appreciate being rushed by uncontrolled effusive dogs.
An excitable/ excited dog is not perceived as happy or playful by others.
It's perceived as unstable and therefore threatening.

A very small percentage of dogs will match the energy. Some will tolerate. Others will lightly correct and some will directly react aggressively to protect their space.

They are dogs , not teddy bears.

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 08/07/2026 13:53

sigh @Mistymaglets

You really didn't read what I wrote, did you?

I was quoting what OP said about her dogs not liking other dogs beyond a 'quick sniff' and how quickly that toleration can suddenly fray and the real risk OP is putting on her dog every time it happens. I was offering her advice to protect her dogs long term because as long as she keeps allowing interactions (completely separate from this incident) the more she is risking her own dogs.

That advice was separate to my advice about the Greyhound, which I advised on earlier in my comment...

Muzzling her dogs, that are not 100% friendly is the best thing OP can do. It's what responsible owners do all the time, regardless of size or age of the dog. It's also what most trainers would likely recommend.

Separately, the age of OPs dog has nothing to do about this. You're anthropomorphising how dogs interact with each other which does the situation no favours and only highlights your lack of understanding about dogs.

@LancashireButterPie probably not. But it's still the best advice. Whether or not people follow or continue to pick up their children or dogs and thus possibly endanger them more is up to them. 😊

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 08/07/2026 13:51

I agree that there’s not much left you could have done!

The man should have had his dog on lead if it didn’t have instant recall or he wasn’t able to keep up with it. His dog was out of control and that was what caused the issue.

Obviously you shouldn’t be kicking a dog unless you’re left with no option but it’s difficult to react perfectly in the heat of the moment. Perhaps it would be better to have got your hands on the greyhound’s collar rather than using them to pick up your dogs, but then I also realise you would still have needed to hold the leads.

I do know of a greyhound that was killed in non dissimilar circumstances where a person kicked the greyhound to make it back off, so it’s important not to use more force that is necessary. I think there’s a distinction between a push with the foot and a kick, and you should have been going for the former if anything, and calling for the man to control his dog.

The safety of his dog was on the man though because he was nowhere near it to manage the situation.

HerbyWitch · 08/07/2026 13:51

Gardenisablooming · 08/07/2026 13:06

So only your ddogs were acting aggressive but his ddog was abused?
Many years ago my ddog was punched in a misunderstanding..her behaviour changed forever that day. And I was left to deal with her -for over a decade.

Is it necessary to add a d in front of the word dog? Abbreviations are meant to make words...shorter, yanno? Not longer....