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To have kicked an old man’s dog?

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itsme189 · 08/07/2026 12:37

This morning I was walking my 2 very small elderly dogs on lead in the woods near me where it’s nice and cool for them.

they love people but they don’t love when dogs run up to them and get all in their face, valid I wouldn’t like that either. If a dog on or off lead just walks past or gives them a quick sniff they don’t mind. I always tell people not to let their dogs come right up to them.
Theyve never bitten just growled and I just don’t want to risk anything.

there was an old man walking a large greyhound type dog off lead and he’s miles away from it it runs at us very fast so I stick my leg in front of my dogs and the dog doesn’t stop runs straight into my leg. He then excitedly throws his foot on top of my smallest dog he squeals in pain and my other dog starts growling and showing teeth.

so I picked them up and then the big dogs starts jumping up at me to get to my dogs so I kick it away.

Old man then starts screaming at me for “abusing” his friendly dog and a lady walking passed then said to him “I saw her kick the dog”

and now I don’t know if I did too much but I was so overwhelmed and worried it would become a fight and there’s no way my old boys would do well in that situation. To make it worse the lady made a post about it in our local Facebook group (luckily no pictures) and everyone’s saying awful things but they only know one side!

For the record the dog was not hurt didn’t even squeal!

OP posts:
krustykittens · 08/07/2026 16:09

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/07/2026 15:58

And if the other dogs don’t like it they should be euthanised 🙄

Ridiculous isn't it? I had a pair of Manchester Terriers, lovely dogs but a breed know to be aloof. They bond with their family but would cheerfully step over dead bodies out and about. They only wanted to know each other and didn't bother socialising with other dogs and any dog that pushed it would get a warning snap. Other people didn't exist, they would literally grey rock people trying to cal them over. Yet apparently this is a behavioral problem the whole world is being expected to accomodate! Not every dog wants to play with strange dogs. It's a preference, not a problem. Why some people think they should be able to force their dog on other people and dogs is beyond me.

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 16:08

JoshLymanSwagger · 08/07/2026 16:04

Actually YES!!

Thinking about this - that's why I don't go for a walk anymore. I'd rather poke my eyes out than walk along the "cycle" dog walkers path.

And you think it’s a good answer?!?

JoshLymanSwagger · 08/07/2026 16:08

Minasama · 08/07/2026 16:01

I don’t understand why you needed to kick the dog, were you concerned it would injure your dogs? I didn’t think greyhounds were aggressive?

Edited

Greyhounds are trained to chase after a "fake" rabbit for money.

If it's an ex-racer (and who knows, there isn't a big flashing halo over them) it's prey driven and should be muzzled.

SandyHappy · 08/07/2026 16:07

As a dog owner he was 100% in the bloody wrong, and all the idiots on here who think the dog was 'playing' and 'socialising' are just as stupid .. the dog's intentions are irrelevant, having your dogs on lead is a clear signal that you don't want off lead dogs to run over to you. Anyone letting their dog do that is a fucking half wit and shouldn't have a dog.

But I don't agree with how you handled it, you should have stood your ground in front of your dogs by holding them behind you and circling round, the second you picked them up you lose all control and you create chaos.. this should be a complete last resort for if your dog is being attacked.

Whenever this has happened to us, and it has happened many many times over the years, I lead my dog/s away, sometimes back towards their stupid owners, if my dog is being pestered/hurt I would physically block them, either grab the other dog and let go of mine, or if my dog was being attacked I would physically grab hold of their dog and hurt it as hard as I could, zero fucks given.

The problem here is it doesn't sound like the dog was aggressive, and you panicked which escalated the situation.

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 16:07

JoshLymanSwagger · 08/07/2026 16:02

No.

Obviously.

But unless @itsme189 wants to encounter some old bloke with his uncontrollable dog - what option does she have?

Not sure taking a spare lead to capture the unruly hound would work frankly.

This is why I have indoor only velcro cats.😽

It’s the case only because, as seen in this thread, many people atomically jump to ‘how dare you kicking the dog’ wo putting the responsibility on the person who doesn’t control their own dog.

If there was as much social pressure to keep your dog under control and not let them run towards people/other dogs than there is about not licking a dog, the OP wouldn’t be to,d ‘to just walk her dog at a different time’ never mind she migut not be able to or it’s then too hot for the dogs etc….

ItsNotMeEither · 08/07/2026 16:05

I also don't condone kicking dogs, but you were literally just trying to protect your dogs. If the man couldn't control his dog, then it shouldn't have been off leash. I say this as an owner of two large breeds.

I keep our well trained dogs on leash in public, purely because it means they are close to me, should an off leash dog run towards them, or a child grab one by the tail or something. I know that's an unusual example, but I've seen a child deliberately pinch a dog and I don't want my lovely dog being put in that sort of situation.

This is totally on the man for not having his dog under control.

billycat321 · 08/07/2026 16:05

You didn't kick it. You moved it out of the way with your foot

JoshLymanSwagger · 08/07/2026 16:04

backformoreofthesame · 08/07/2026 15:58

So anyone who doesn’t like out of control dogs should adjust their behaviour to avoid them ?

Actually YES!!

Thinking about this - that's why I don't go for a walk anymore. I'd rather poke my eyes out than walk along the "cycle" dog walkers path.

Krobus · 08/07/2026 16:04

It doesn't sound like you kicked it very hard. Leave the Facebook group and change your walking route for a bit.

JoshLymanSwagger · 08/07/2026 16:02

backformoreofthesame · 08/07/2026 15:58

So anyone who doesn’t like out of control dogs should adjust their behaviour to avoid them ?

No.

Obviously.

But unless @itsme189 wants to encounter some old bloke with his uncontrollable dog - what option does she have?

Not sure taking a spare lead to capture the unruly hound would work frankly.

This is why I have indoor only velcro cats.😽

krustykittens · 08/07/2026 16:02

Minasama · 08/07/2026 16:01

I don’t understand why you needed to kick the dog, were you concerned it would injure your dogs? I didn’t think greyhounds were aggressive?

Edited

They can have a very strong prey drive and be quite dangerous around small dogs.

Emilesgran · 08/07/2026 16:01

WheresThatCatGoneNow · 08/07/2026 15:46

Was your kick angrily forceful, which could have seriously hurt the dog, or were you just lifting it out of the way?

Be honest now!

A greyhound-sized dog should NOT be jumping up on anyone, for any reason. a child or an old person could be knocked down and badly hurt.

A woman giving it a kick to get it away is a perfectly reasonable response (and I'm the owner of medium-large dog, so not someone who hates dogs)

Minasama · 08/07/2026 16:01

I don’t understand why you needed to kick the dog, were you concerned it would injure your dogs? I didn’t think greyhounds were aggressive?

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/07/2026 16:00

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/07/2026 15:54

I remember being 11 walking my nans little yorkie and this big dog running up to me barking, I picked up that little dog and ran for my life. Luckily his owner got him back in control, but in that moment you’re terrified, you don’t know if the dogs going to go for you, or rip your dog apart. Anyone that says they wouldn’t have kicked the dog has obviously not been in that situation

Edited

My nan would have killed me too. She’d have preferred me to lose a limb than her dog lol. She loved that dog, bless her

Monty36 · 08/07/2026 15:59

Greyhounds are lovely creatures but also do go full on for anything fluffy and small.
In essence this is a tale of leads and muzzles. Too many dogs off lead and not with muzzles. And of dogs which in the wrong setting are too much for a person to handle. Too fast, not enough recall.
I would not have kicked the dog, no. He jumped up at you. He did not try to bite you. Your dogs were in your arms. Kicking the dog was not necessary. Not a greyhound.

A lesson is for dogs to have muzzles and owners very good recall and preferably dogs on a lead.

Buildingthefuture · 08/07/2026 15:58

As the owner of multiple dogs, I do not think you were in the wrong op. Off lead dogs should be under control and able to be recalled, at any time.
Off lead dogs should not be running up to on lead dogs, they should be recalled and under control. The vast, vast majority of dog owners understand this and act accordingly. Anyone who doesn’t, runs the risk of their dog getting a boot. Such is life.

backformoreofthesame · 08/07/2026 15:58

JoshLymanSwagger · 08/07/2026 15:57

Try moving your walk to earlier/later or a different route.

The "owner" hah might do the same walk at the same time each day.

So anyone who doesn’t like out of control dogs should adjust their behaviour to avoid them ?

WanderingStar26 · 08/07/2026 15:58

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 15:53

And if you have no dog with you, no treat agd the dog still runs towards you and jumps on you, what do you do??

And what do you when it’s someone like me with mobility issues?

Apart from training your own digs to nit run towards people/other digs, have a good recall or put them on a lead.

I have enough of the ‘but he is friendly/just wanted to play p/it’s your reaction. The dog is reacting like a dog’.
Just keep your dogs under control

I was specifically talking about the OP’s situation of having 2 small dogs with her. In the situation you describe I would shout a very firm ‘NO’ and the dog, followed by “get down” and then I’d turn partially away from the dog with my arms folded.

I completely agree that the dog’s owner was in the wrong, sadly there are many, many dogs out there with little to no training and trust me, as a dog walker and being responsible for keeping dogs safe, they are the bane of my life. That’s why I choose routes where I am very unlikely to encounter other dogs.

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/07/2026 15:58

krustykittens · 08/07/2026 15:57

@Moonface318 do you allow your dog to approach others on your walks all the time?

And if the other dogs don’t like it they should be euthanised 🙄

JoshLymanSwagger · 08/07/2026 15:57

itsme189 · 08/07/2026 15:55

Good tips on here though to prevent in future I’ll start taking some treats in my pockets and the spare lead idea makes sense even just in case I find a lost dog that’s a good plan!

Try moving your walk to earlier/later or a different route.

The "owner" hah might do the same walk at the same time each day.

krustykittens · 08/07/2026 15:57

@Moonface318 do you allow your dog to approach others on your walks all the time?

itsme189 · 08/07/2026 15:55

Good tips on here though to prevent in future I’ll start taking some treats in my pockets and the spare lead idea makes sense even just in case I find a lost dog that’s a good plan!

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Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/07/2026 15:54

itsme189 · 08/07/2026 15:48

Deffo not angry and forceful I’m 5ft and was holding 2 dogs in both arms. If it was a big forceful kick dog would have gotten hurt or cried I was simply trying to get it off me and my dogs when the owner could not as he was still far away and his shouting wasn’t working

I remember being 11 walking my nans little yorkie and this big dog running up to me barking, I picked up that little dog and ran for my life. Luckily his owner got him back in control, but in that moment you’re terrified, you don’t know if the dogs going to go for you, or rip your dog apart. Anyone that says they wouldn’t have kicked the dog has obviously not been in that situation

WiddlinDiddlin · 08/07/2026 15:53

Onmytod24 · 08/07/2026 13:49

It must be only dog owners who say you must never kick a dog a crime against humanity. I think OP did exactly the right thing - the dog was invading her space.

Read again, plenty of dog owners, me included, saying what other reasonable action did she have available to her?

Hands full, dog has already shown not to respect natural boundaries, or doggy communications to piss off, has already splatted a dog with his paws (who here would be happy with the human equivalent, a 24 stone bloke shoving/thumping/stamping on an 8 stone woman/kid? That would NOT be deemed acceptable even if it had been intended in a non-aggressive, friendly manner!)...

Should she have left her dogs on the ground and waited for them to be injured? And again, for the hard of thinking in the back here, a greyhound type could be anywhere from 20 to 30kg. A little elderly dog could be 5 to 10kg. Even a friendly play bow that results in a paw to the older, smaller dogs back, head or neck could do serious or even fatal damage.

SummerDive · 08/07/2026 15:53

WanderingStar26 · 08/07/2026 15:33

OP I am a dog walker and also owner of 2 tiny dogs.

In this kind of situation when I saw the dog coming I would stand between it and my dogs, and try to get the dog’s attention on me rather than my dogs. I always have a bag of treats in my bum bag so an excited “what’s this” and a rustle of the treats bag usually does the trick. And then I speak in a calm and quiet voice, dispensing treats until the owner appears. If necessary grab the dog’s collar when you get a chance and keep hold of it until the owner turns up, although I realise that’s tricky if yours are on the lead.

And if you have no dog with you, no treat agd the dog still runs towards you and jumps on you, what do you do??

And what do you when it’s someone like me with mobility issues?

Apart from training your own digs to nit run towards people/other digs, have a good recall or put them on a lead.

I have enough of the ‘but he is friendly/just wanted to play p/it’s your reaction. The dog is reacting like a dog’.
Just keep your dogs under control