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AIBU with my reaction to DP’s humiliating TikTok?

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Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:00

I have had 4 different friends message me today to say they saw a video which included my partner on TikTok. There’s a local account which always posts videos of interviews with the public and businesses particularly people on nights out and drunk. DP watched the England game in a bar so was out really late, and was interviewed on the street after. Everyone was really jubilant, the person filming asked him “after such a long night, do you have anything left in the tank” and he replied “that’s for me to know and the missus to find out when I’m home” to a load of laughter.

I was asleep with our DS and up early so I obviously wasn’t waiting up for him. I’ve told him I don’t see the funny side and he has just said he was absolutely plastered, really buzzing after the match and got carried away so I should just laugh it off. Am I wrong to still find it offensive?

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Datgal · 07/07/2026 22:51

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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I think that's your issue then. I don't think anyone else would be thinking of you having sex from him saying that?
Do you hide your child away? That's the biggest clue and proof you've had sex! 😆

Datgal · 07/07/2026 22:48

Can imagine it's something my partner would say with a camera on him, and he doesn't drink 😆. I don't understand what's so cringe or embarrassing.

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Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

JLou08 · 07/07/2026 22:44

I think it's funny.
Did your friends find it funny?

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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JLou08 · 07/07/2026 22:44

I think it's funny.
Did your friends find it funny?

CloudyWithAChanceOfCustard · 07/07/2026 22:42

Oh dear OP…you really need to chill out a bit!! This was funny 🤷‍♀️👌🏻

Awrite · 07/07/2026 22:41

I think I'd judge my friends more for being on TikTok.

RockinCara · 07/07/2026 22:41

I think he was clearly pissed and overtired. Trying to be funny. Made himself look like a bit of a tit! I’d cringed a bit, rolled my eyes and then got over it.

SixAndJuliet · 07/07/2026 22:40

It was just a joke. You didn’t find it funny which is fine but it’s more of an eye roll situation than an anger situation.

supersonicginandtonic · 07/07/2026 22:37

😂😂😂😂 something my husband would say

Monzo1ss · 07/07/2026 22:36

I wouldn’t care if friends saw this tbh, having a decent intimate life is fine

i would care if colleagues saw that tho

in fact that would be my angle to get this taken down, so maybe just say if my/your colleagues stumble across this it makes us look less promotable or whatever

ThatJadeLion · 07/07/2026 22:36

I don't usually like banter like this, but it made me laugh!!

harriethoyle · 07/07/2026 22:35

You’re being unbelievably precious. Lighten up.

Jellylasagnafortwo · 07/07/2026 22:35

He’s a disgusting pig.

Chucklebunnie · 07/07/2026 22:34

Oh, OP, I was expecting something awful when I started reading your post! You are completely overreacting. Let it go

Gettoachiro · 07/07/2026 22:34

Yabu

Shoopshawady · 07/07/2026 22:32

I’d find this funny! It’s clearly a joke and your friends will think the same.. what did you expect him to say to that question? I think you need to lighten up!

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 07/07/2026 22:31

I first want to set the scene by saying that if there is a man-hating feminazi-meter with 'cool girl' at one end and 'raging menopausal bitch' at the other, I'm well into the red zone for the latter.

I wouldn't be offended by this though. I'm not 'howling' like a pp Hmm but it really wouldn't bother me at all.

talliani · 07/07/2026 22:27

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:16

A man asking if I had sex?

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Rhetorically.

MoshpitAtMorrisons · 07/07/2026 22:24

Haha I’m sorry I think that’s funny.

SENsupportplease · 07/07/2026 22:20

I think yes YABU to your reaction to your husband and to posters on this thread

DaysIllRememberAllMyLife · 07/07/2026 22:19

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:12

  1. Read my OP again
  2. Go elsewhere if you are looking for wank fodder

HTH

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Wank fodder? WTF

SENsupportplease · 07/07/2026 22:18

I think it’s quite funny

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Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:16

talliani · 07/07/2026 22:15

How on earth did you read that as asking for wank fodder? Fairly certain they were taking the piss saying you clearly didn't get any, based on your OP.

This wouldn't bother me. I think it is rather funny.

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A man asking if I had sex?

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talliani · 07/07/2026 22:15

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:12

  1. Read my OP again
  2. Go elsewhere if you are looking for wank fodder

HTH

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How on earth did you read that as asking for wank fodder? Fairly certain they were taking the piss saying you clearly didn't get any, based on your OP.

This wouldn't bother me. I think it is rather funny.

Probablylate21 · 07/07/2026 22:14

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:03

In the main, he is I would say. I think it’s that this was so public and seen by my friends which is irksome.

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FWIW I would probably have said something similar about my husband as it’s just our sense of humour