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AIBU with my reaction to DP’s humiliating TikTok?

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Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:00

I have had 4 different friends message me today to say they saw a video which included my partner on TikTok. There’s a local account which always posts videos of interviews with the public and businesses particularly people on nights out and drunk. DP watched the England game in a bar so was out really late, and was interviewed on the street after. Everyone was really jubilant, the person filming asked him “after such a long night, do you have anything left in the tank” and he replied “that’s for me to know and the missus to find out when I’m home” to a load of laughter.

I was asleep with our DS and up early so I obviously wasn’t waiting up for him. I’ve told him I don’t see the funny side and he has just said he was absolutely plastered, really buzzing after the match and got carried away so I should just laugh it off. Am I wrong to still find it offensive?

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Amybelle88 · 08/07/2026 00:29

‘Humiliating’ is a stretch…

HortiGal · 08/07/2026 00:27

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!
sex, you can say that! who the fuck says the no pants dance?
You seem very uptight and prudish, lighten up ffs

99bottlesofkombucha · 08/07/2026 00:25

Good call op, I’m pretty sensitive about disrespect but I’d let this one go.

whatacroc · 08/07/2026 00:12

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I agree with this. But I am a gen Xer and we tend to have more of a sense of humour and are much less easily offended.
Bloody hell people are boring fun sponges who can't have a laugh these days.

FinallyACheapSixWeeksSchoolHoliday · 08/07/2026 00:01

@Weeks76 oh it’s highly cringe and embarrassing for you but as he was plastered it could have been so, so much worse.

It’ll be forgotten about next week.

JuvenileBigfoot · 07/07/2026 23:50

Wouldn't bother me and I am notoriously highly strung!

whiteumbrella · 07/07/2026 23:48

I read the first few comments and am now wondering if there’s something wrong with me. I’m imagining DP doing it and me laughing. I need help!

PennyPugwash · 07/07/2026 23:39

Icanflyhigh · 07/07/2026 23:14

You are a prude. That's quite clear from your responses to everyone finding your DPs comment funny - me included.
Sex is normal, especially between two consenting adults who have chosen to build a life together.
Being private is fine, but we all know that couples have sex, especially couples with children.
Honestly OP, lighten up.
And as for the wank fodder response...... get a grip.

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Exactly this!

PeoplesNet · 07/07/2026 23:35

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:00

I have had 4 different friends message me today to say they saw a video which included my partner on TikTok. There’s a local account which always posts videos of interviews with the public and businesses particularly people on nights out and drunk. DP watched the England game in a bar so was out really late, and was interviewed on the street after. Everyone was really jubilant, the person filming asked him “after such a long night, do you have anything left in the tank” and he replied “that’s for me to know and the missus to find out when I’m home” to a load of laughter.

I was asleep with our DS and up early so I obviously wasn’t waiting up for him. I’ve told him I don’t see the funny side and he has just said he was absolutely plastered, really buzzing after the match and got carried away so I should just laugh it off. Am I wrong to still find it offensive?

He's done nothing wrong. It's all these muppets filming everything at all times, normalising taking away our human right to live a private life (i.e. to not be famous). Direct your anger at the people recording and uploading, not at him.

LittleGreenShoots · 07/07/2026 23:23

I don't find this so bad, and I'm a private person. He didn't get too crude and it's not necessarily disrespectful. It sounds like he was happy and his thoughts were coming home to be with his wife. It's kind of sweet. I thought you were going to say he was leering or making suggestive comments about other women.

Icanflyhigh · 07/07/2026 23:14

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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You are a prude. That's quite clear from your responses to everyone finding your DPs comment funny - me included.
Sex is normal, especially between two consenting adults who have chosen to build a life together.
Being private is fine, but we all know that couples have sex, especially couples with children.
Honestly OP, lighten up.
And as for the wank fodder response...... get a grip.

LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 07/07/2026 23:13

It's such a dull joke for a start. Boring Benny Hill crap.

And he's talking about his intimate sex life with his wife. Why doesn't he instead say, well I'm going to go home and wank to porn until I come hahaha see what a fit bloke I am!

But he doesn’t do that. He makes his wife an object in his "manly" performance. Which is also really dull.

SENsupportplease · 07/07/2026 23:13

I think this was normal honesty, it’s not tipped into brutal yet 😂

Loubissou · 07/07/2026 23:09

He got caught on the spot by someone with a camera looking for a comment and offered up a jokey riposte. At 3am after a few drinks, it really isn't in the least offensive.

Booboobagins · 07/07/2026 23:06

Laugh it off.

Seriously it's cringeworthy, but you need to take it with a pinch of salt.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 07/07/2026 23:02

It was a drunken comment. If it’s a one off I’d let it pass.

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Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 23:00

I appreciate the over whelming view here and I’m not going to argue it, I suppose I need to get over it. Thanks for the brutal honesty, I’m going to drop out now.

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Beachtastic · 07/07/2026 22:59

Love him 💕

susiedaisy1912 · 07/07/2026 22:59

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest, it was a silly drunken remark. Loosen up op

MolkosTeenageAngst · 07/07/2026 22:58

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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Do you get a mental image of people having sex whenever it is referenced? I can’t say I have ever imagined friends having sex with their partners even when they allude to it. How did you have a child if you couldn’t cope with the idea of your friends knowing you’d had sex - surely the pregnancy was a big clue and a far more explicit one than your DH’s jokey comment!

If you think people are conspiring up mental images of you and your DP having sex then honestly I think that is a you problem!

Violinorbanjo · 07/07/2026 22:57

I might be old and from a bit of chauvinist culture but boy, or man or woman, we have literally someone making others laugh and drunk....forgive him

JLou08 · 07/07/2026 22:53

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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I'm not sure if it was intended, but that made me laugh too 😂
I'm sure they won't have that image of you in their heads.

SENsupportplease · 07/07/2026 22:51

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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The fact that you think that they would think this suggests you have very peculiar reactions indeed

MrsClattenburg · 07/07/2026 22:51

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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What's a 'no pants dance' ?

MajorSamanthaCarter · 07/07/2026 22:51

Another 'man makes inappropriate comment and calls it a joke' thread, we've had quite a few of those lately 🤔