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AIBU with my reaction to DP’s humiliating TikTok?

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Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:00

I have had 4 different friends message me today to say they saw a video which included my partner on TikTok. There’s a local account which always posts videos of interviews with the public and businesses particularly people on nights out and drunk. DP watched the England game in a bar so was out really late, and was interviewed on the street after. Everyone was really jubilant, the person filming asked him “after such a long night, do you have anything left in the tank” and he replied “that’s for me to know and the missus to find out when I’m home” to a load of laughter.

I was asleep with our DS and up early so I obviously wasn’t waiting up for him. I’ve told him I don’t see the funny side and he has just said he was absolutely plastered, really buzzing after the match and got carried away so I should just laugh it off. Am I wrong to still find it offensive?

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JustMyView13 · 08/07/2026 06:51

Lean into the moment and just reply with ‘I can confirm he did not have anything left in the tank and passed out as soon as he got home’ - spins the laugh straight back onto him.

rwalker · 08/07/2026 06:45

I think a lot of your feelings and reaction comes from the fact your friend messaged you setting the tone it’s something outrageous
the overwhelming majority find it funny
tbh the only shitty thing is your friend messaging you causing trouble

shhblackbag · 08/07/2026 06:44

PeoplesNet · 07/07/2026 23:35

He's done nothing wrong. It's all these muppets filming everything at all times, normalising taking away our human right to live a private life (i.e. to not be famous). Direct your anger at the people recording and uploading, not at him.

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Honestly, this. It pisses me off.

You have a kid. Your friends know you've had sex.

Happytaytos · 08/07/2026 06:38

No pants dance proves the OP is the one with issues.

YRGAM · 08/07/2026 06:07

Posters have started to be unnecessarily harsh now once they smell a pile on, as usual. But a few things you've written in thus thread suggests you might have some hang ups and attitudes to sex that aren't particularly healthy, OP, that might be something to work on

Rhubarbsoap · 08/07/2026 05:56

No pants dance sounds like something a toddler would do. Put their pants on their head and run around or something.

Cant believe those words came out of an adults mouth tbh. 😂

stillhiding1990 · 08/07/2026 05:47

Jellylasagnafortwo · 07/07/2026 22:35

He’s a disgusting pig.

Hahaha

PeachySmile2 · 08/07/2026 04:55

Gosh you’re miserable. Poor DH

PumpkinPieAlibi · 08/07/2026 04:36

And I thought I was prudish.

  1. The 'no pants dance' sounds utterly ridiculous. You can say sex, it's not vulgar
  2. Everyone knows you've had sex, you have a child
  3. No one is picturing you having sex. That's a you problem
  4. Yes you are overreacting to this issue
  5. You were also overreacting by implying another poster saw your post as wank fodder. Again, people don't care that much and they're not thinking of you that intensely
  6. Lighten up. Life is hard enough as it is
Speakeasier · 08/07/2026 04:25

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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Blimey don’t say that to your friends. They won’t be able to get that image out of their heads.

Copperoliverbear · 08/07/2026 04:01

over reacting comes to mind.

labamba007 · 08/07/2026 03:57

This is why I detest people interviewing drunk people on nights out. It’s why Gen Z can never relax properly in a club or bar. Sometimes people say silly things when drunk. My anger would be towards the dickhead with the phone who’s making money off trying to embarrass people having a good time. I honestly hate it.

SpidersAreShitheads · 08/07/2026 03:43

I would find this hilarious and would do my best (with my very limited technical skills) to clip the video to make memes and GIFs out of it, so he could never, ever be allowed to forget when he made a tit of himself publicly while a bit pissed 😂😂😂

No one is seriously picturing you having sex 😂😂

S0upertrooper · 08/07/2026 03:30

I thought his comment was quite witty, I'd have probably replied to my friends "Aye, all talk no action!"

I have a relative who takes offence at every comment and as a result falls out with everyone. She's really hard work as you have to be hyper vigilant around her. Are you like this with other people's comments?

Winefride · 08/07/2026 02:47

I would find it hilarious and be thankful he referred to me and not a girlfriend or something!

Zanatdy · 08/07/2026 02:46

Over reaction.

ElenOfTheWays · 08/07/2026 02:17

MrsClattenburg · 07/07/2026 22:51

What's a 'no pants dance' ?

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Fucking.

nam3c4ang3 · 08/07/2026 02:01

Fucking hell op - lighten the fuck up! are you always wound this tight?! ‘No pants dance’ - I’ve read it all now 😂🥴

SeaAndSangria · 08/07/2026 01:57

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:48

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!

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Just catching up with the rest of the thread, it's late 😁 (early?!)
No pants dance 😂
Literally never heard it called that before..WTF 😁

SeaAndSangria · 08/07/2026 01:54

I did an actual lol
That was quite funny 😁
YABU, it was clearly a joke. Chill.
(Oh, and I'm not looking for wank fodder before you start 🙄)
Bet you only replied to that poster in such a snotty way as they have a male sounding username, par for the course on MN.
Nothing in their comment suggested anything of the sort.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/07/2026 01:12

"after such a long night, do you have anything left in the tank”

I'm not sure the inference is clear, but your DH obv made it a sex reference. What is he usually like? How does he typically speak about you and your relationship? Was this totally out of character? Is it a pattern of disrespect?

Delphiniumandlupins · 08/07/2026 00:34

ClairDeLaLune · 08/07/2026 00:31

Wow! Do you over-react to everything?

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It's fairly obvious she does. I think her DP's reply was pretty good in the circumstances.

ClairDeLaLune · 08/07/2026 00:31

Weeks76 · 07/07/2026 22:12

  1. Read my OP again
  2. Go elsewhere if you are looking for wank fodder

HTH

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Wow! Do you over-react to everything?

Odditea · 08/07/2026 00:31

Cringe but he was plastered and in good spirits for good reason. Let this one slide

Btowngirl · 08/07/2026 00:31

HortiGal · 08/07/2026 00:27

I can’t get over the cringe of them having the mental image of me doing the no pants dance to be honest!
sex, you can say that! who the fuck says the no pants dance?
You seem very uptight and prudish, lighten up ffs

The no pants dance really made me cringe! Op need's to just say sex honestly, it’s so much less embarrassing.