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friendlytotheend · 07/07/2026 21:15

Some advice on this situation please? I run a team of staff in a professional environment, it’s my company so I’m the employer and managing director. One employee has recently had some performance issues which we’ve had to be quite firm about (repeatedly not following important procedures). Since then, the communications I receive from her have no hello, hi, dear, no name and will often be along the lines of ‘can I have’ or ‘here’s the thing you asked for’ Etc and quite honestly, it’s starting to grate. Just a ‘hi’ or ‘thanks’ at the end of an email would be a bit more pleasant, it doesn’t take much.

As far as I am concerned, the performance issues were dealt with (we’ve been clear they can’t happen again) and I’ve moved on, but clearly she hasn’t.

Would you raise it or just ignore it?

Thanks
AIBU to let it go
AINBU to raise it with her

OP posts:
Idontjetwashthefucker · 07/07/2026 21:28

dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:25

Gosh I must have been doing it wrong for years….

Email written out

Karen,

blah blah blah

regards,

blah

professional and to the point.

Totally the opposite then than what the employee is doing

TheGoodEnoughWife · 07/07/2026 21:28

dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:25

Gosh I must have been doing it wrong for years….

Email written out

Karen,

blah blah blah

regards,

blah

professional and to the point.

So you use the persons name? If you had read the OP correctly you would see that this employee is not using a greeting or a name. And your response to that was to suggest the OP is unprofessional…?

MandemChickenShop · 07/07/2026 21:28

complete non issue.

you discussing specific employee issues on Mumsnet is way less professional by a significant margin

Lilypad789 · 07/07/2026 21:27

I wouldn’t say anything at all about this. It’s not a prerequisite to have greetings and thanks in emails. You would be on shaky ground to bring it up, plus she seems like she wants to annoy you and like a bit of a twat (if this is a new curt style). Act completely unbothered and focus on actual performance issues.

MyLimeGuide · 07/07/2026 21:27

dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:17

So the replies have been professional and to the point?? Sounds ok to me!

Hi and thanks etc are pretty unprofessional to be honest.

sounds like a you problem

Really? So you send emails without, hello/hi/thanks etc? Sounds pretty rude IMO

friendlytotheend · 07/07/2026 21:26

dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:25

Gosh I must have been doing it wrong for years….

Email written out

Karen,

blah blah blah

regards,

blah

professional and to the point.

But it’s not that. It’s ‘can I have such and such’ with no greeting or sign off of any kind.

OP posts:
dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:25

TheGoodEnoughWife · 07/07/2026 21:20

Don’t be so silly. Some sort of greeting at the beginning of an email is professional and expected. To not do so is petty and rude.

Gosh I must have been doing it wrong for years….

Email written out

Karen,

blah blah blah

regards,

blah

professional and to the point.

GisGasGus · 07/07/2026 21:23

dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:17

So the replies have been professional and to the point?? Sounds ok to me!

Hi and thanks etc are pretty unprofessional to be honest.

sounds like a you problem

Since when did politeness become unprofessional, I've never heard of such a thing in any UK company I've worked for

I'm sure there are cultures where things are different but it that was the case here the OP wouldn't be asking the question

TheGoodEnoughWife · 07/07/2026 21:20

dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:17

So the replies have been professional and to the point?? Sounds ok to me!

Hi and thanks etc are pretty unprofessional to be honest.

sounds like a you problem

Don’t be so silly. Some sort of greeting at the beginning of an email is professional and expected. To not do so is petty and rude.

LlynTegid · 07/07/2026 21:20

Withdrawing normal communications in extreme cases could be viewed as harassment, or victimisation (a response because you have complained).

However, I don't think this is remotely near that.

Moonstakte · 07/07/2026 21:19

i think you should look to get rid of this employee at the earliest opportunity!

dadtoateen · 07/07/2026 21:17

So the replies have been professional and to the point?? Sounds ok to me!

Hi and thanks etc are pretty unprofessional to be honest.

sounds like a you problem

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