Neighbours angry at DS for snapping back and daughter’s homophobia - hypocrisy??

You have completely misunderstood and misrepresentated the reasonable points that myself and others have been making.

Firing off completely unjustified allegations of homophobia in response to reasonable and informed comments diminishes both you as a person and the feelings of those genuinely suffering from abuse based on their sexuality.

Ye this is blatant homophobia

People have not been brainwashed because they support their children. Plenty of people know at a young age they are gay. Deny that causes them all kinds of issues.

You see it as arrogance and homophobia. You have been brainwashed.

It's common sense based on knowledge and experience!!

Parents are not being “modern”, they’re supporting their children and know what is best for them. Who are you to lecture or dictate how other parents parent when a) it’s not your child and b) you haven’t walked in their shoes? The arrogance and closet homophobia is staggering.

It was combined with laughing and calling him weird
That's pretty negative....

A longstanding friend of my DD’s (who I’ve known since he was 7) calls himself a gay boy, he’s 26. It’s only offensive if it say it in a negative way, and at 8 she can’t be accused of that. Never right to be so hateful to a child

I was agreeing with you 😄

Sorry that didn't come across.

@Wickedlittledancer

Exactly, but the poster said her kids knew not to use the term gay boy at 8. I was asking them how, that’s what it means when you quote someone, with all due respect I was not asking you on how it normally works, I’m fully aware. But thanks anyway, the question still stands to the poster, as you said you deal with that when it comes up, and at 7 or 8 gay boy or homophobic slurs had not come up in our home.

I don't think anyone sits their young child down to issue a list of proscribed terms.

Children can hear things in many contexts - school, neighbours, strangers on the street - you deal with it as and when it comes up. Of course always teaching basic respect for others and that it's not nice to call names.

How did your kids know not to use it if you didn’t, did you sit them down at 7 and give a list of terms not to be used?

we didn’t use that term but I couldn’t say by child knew at 8 not to use it as quit3 simply at that age we had not discussed homophobia or associated slurs with her. I find it odd you did,

I cba reading the whole thing...but my kids at 8 knew not to call people gay boy. Primarily as it wasn't a term we used - and not as a label etc. If she had said "do you like boys too" or "Does that mean you are a gay boy" that would be been ok, but "gay boy" does sound like a dig - and her parents should have told her that you don't sat that to people. 8yr olds are not as daft as people make them out to be.

As for folk commenting about it being weird he talked about his crushes, WTF, if girls can then he can to - they need to get over it.

But, yeah, he needs to learn not to kick off. Maybe teach him to start with EXCUSE ME?? What did you mean by that....then id they back it up as being phobic - kick in with the rest of it.

Imagine accusing an 8 year old of homophobia 😂😂😂 and imagine thinking your 13 year old knows his sexuality at this age. Get a grip

Ah that brings back memories of a group of boys in school calling me lizzie the lesbian.

Very immature. Though my equally immature response was that I’d still get more Fanny than them 😅

I can safety say the tag in school by some muppets had zero impact on my life though.

So you should be aware they don't work in silence and don't always think about if they are overheard ...

Then I can't understand why you don't think it's normal. The poster said they run an activity. Surely the kids will be allowed to talk at some point during this time

Ablondiebutagoody
"It is unreasonable to expect small children to understand choices he's made about his sexuality. "

How the hell does anyone in 2026 think that being gay is a choice? Good God Better send him off for conversion therapy.

for donkeys years with secondary boys

Because the ones who are screaming about it being sexualised are the ones actually sexualising

There's a difference between "Kids might bully" and "it's an imperial fact that kids will bully you because you are different to them and you must accept that as fact"

I really doubt this happened - nobody is this blinkered about sexualising children and about the difference between an 8 and a 13 year old!

Why's everyone bringing sex into it, though?
Me and my mates talked about crushes between the age of 11 and 13.
(The 8 year old in this scenario wasn't part of the conversation, had just overheard)
It wasn't sexual conversations at all - just who you fancied. Which is in my experience totally normal at that age!

@DjokovicsTowel in an idealised perfect world bullying wouldn't happen. In the flawed reality we inhabit of course it does.

So if you don't prepare your children accordingly then you are not preparing them properly!

No this is just vile

You suggested being thought to be a lesbian would ruin your life
Which is ridiculous

Sorry meant I agreed with @ohdear2 brilliant post

They talk about all sorts whilst doing activities, sometimes that is who they fancy. I'm not actively sat with them all the time but can hear them. How is that unbelievable?