Neighbours angry at DS for snapping back and daughter’s homophobia - hypocrisy??

This post seems harsh to me.

Coming out at 10,- not odd to have crushes at 10. Coming out is different- for older teens .

telling everyone about his crushes (including young children)

• if he has crushes, why shouldn't he talk to friends about them? 8yo is fairly close in age to 10, it's not like he' talking to a 2yo. And crushes are very innocent at this age.

then huge outbursts when he gets a reaction he doesn't like followed along by a mother who thinks people should be apologising to him and never discriminating against him.

• he shouldn't be discriminated against, and the gurl was wrong to tease. But he was more wrong to swear like that.

Unfortunately this is the real world and he'll always get called names, especially if he's making a point of going on about it.- always get called names? Do you think homophobia is still that prevalent?

And talking about crushes to friends isn't 'going on', no one should get bullied for that.

DS was totally out of order though. That kind of language at 11 is worrying.

It seems like your son will have a lifetime of trouble with his reactions.
Coming out at 10, telling everyone about his crushes (including young children) then huge outbursts when he gets a reaction he doesn't like followed along by a mother who thinks people should be apologising to him and never discriminating against him.
Unfortunately this is the real world and he'll always get called names, especially if he's making a point of going on about it.
Society has moved on a hell of a lot but if he screams and swears everytime someone calls him a name he's going to be a mess by the time he's an adult.

To be honest, you are probably right. Though sex between young teens in not unheard of... Thinking back to my first "love" (though I was 15 I think) I would have been terrified if my "crush" made a move )))

I just look at my own 13 year old and he has zero interest in anything romance or crush related. But I get that kids mature at different speed.

Asexuals and aromantics exist. Sex and romance are related but they are also different

Just because you need romance to be sexually attracted does not mean everyone does. That's why one night stands, FWB etc exist

Romantic as in what? Are you telling me romance and sex are not connected? When you feel attracted to someone, what does it mean to you?

Edited: On the contrary, I never have sex with someone I'm not romantically attracted to. Also, I would not be interested in someone if I did not feel at least some sexual attraction.

Yes, I understand that they're attracted to the same sex.
Why are you thinking it's all about sex between 11 -13 years old though?!
That's the weird bit. You realise at that age you can have innocent crushes that don't involve thinking about sex, right?!
It's perfectly normal to start to know whether you're attracted to boys or girls at that age.

I'm sorry to tell you this but being gay is literally about your sexual preference and not much else. Gay people are exactly like straight people with the only difference being they are sexually attracted to the same sex.

Actually no, it's not just sexual. It's about romantic interest as well. Or do you think relationships are only sexual???

I'm sorry to tell you this but being gay is literally about your sexual preference and not much else. Gay people are exactly like straight people with the only difference being they are sexually attracted to the same sex.

Seeing as so many posters seem to be treating the 8 year old like a grown homophobic adult.

You're the one who's banging on about sex, though.
The pp has a point.

You're the one who's banging on about sex, though.
The pp has a point.

So? Not sure what point's supposed to make?
(Seeing as the 8 year old wasn't part of their conversation?)

Kind of know as I read his messages. Yes, I'm that kind of mum.

Are you like this in real life? Someone says something you dont like or dont agree with and you immediately accuse them of homophobia? Must be very tiring.

That's a twist worthy of a Victorian contortionist.

I think you are either a troll or simply bored. No one is this contrary.

He's friends with all his entire year?

And you don't know what they talk about when you're not there

How is it taking over their whole life? Other than homophobes who've decided being gay means it's your whole personality and that once you say you're gay you can never change your mind???

(And by change your mind I mean realise you identify more with something else)

I have a 13 year old. In a whole class of 13 year olds (his mates) only one has a "girlfiend" and its big news. None of them is discussing who they fancy.

To the extent it takes over their life? I think its not very common.

That's a twist worthy of a Victorian contortionist.

I think you are either a troll or simply bored. No one is this contrary.

Children are developing crushes at 10. That’s common.