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Can I have opinions on this text conversation regarding rape, please?

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KaneFTW · 07/07/2026 20:14

I really need to understand if I’m being over sensitive/defensive etc

Can I have opinions on this text conversation regarding rape, please?
Can I have opinions on this text conversation regarding rape, please?
Can I have opinions on this text conversation regarding rape, please?
Can I have opinions on this text conversation regarding rape, please?
OP posts:
MrSchubertWhiskers · 07/07/2026 20:32

That's WhatsApp, op I think is the one in green.

@KaneFTW you've done nothing wrong, in the past or in these messages. I'm truly sorry for what you've been through and that you have to deal with idiots like the person in white. Hold your head high. Flowers

takeharry · 07/07/2026 20:30

There isn’t any context, but people who don’t know what it’s like to be a victim of such crime will never be able to understand why sometimes we do still maintain contact with the perpetrator.

nomas · 07/07/2026 20:29

OP, I’m assuming you’re the one in green message blocks.

No, you’re not being defensive or over sensitive, this person is questioning you.

I wouldn’t talk to them anymore. Is it someone you’re dating or a friend?

likelysuspect · 07/07/2026 20:29

Are you the one in green?

And you feel your friend is questioning you?

Its not the sort of conversation to have by text is it?

In a normal conversation of course you'd talk about the hows, whys and wherefores, if its a conversation you brought up as you were recounting what happened to you

Burningbud1981 · 07/07/2026 20:28

I’ve reported the post. I don’t think it’s ok you’ve shared those messages. You know MN posts threads on FB and other social media….

Limeandfigs · 07/07/2026 20:27

I don't think this is going to help you OP.

Whatever is troubling you, you're best talking about it with a professional.

Sausagedog101 · 07/07/2026 20:27

Context would be helpful? Cannot make head nor tail of the messages

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 07/07/2026 20:26

Please tell me you got permission to share those messages on the internet.

And please don’t reply with ‘thank you’ - if you’re going to start a thread, have the courtesy to engage with it.

Original poster
KaneFTW · 07/07/2026 20:25

As in the messages above, I have been told I am defensive in the texts.

I am guilty of automatically being defensive so I’m trying to be really aware of it.

But in this instance, I don’t feel like I was.

I’d really appreciate feedback.

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Original poster
KaneFTW · 07/07/2026 20:23

Thank you.

OP posts:
noctilucentcloud · 07/07/2026 20:22

And if you are the white messages person it is incredibly not ok to post someone else's highly personal messages on the internet!

Original poster
KaneFTW · 07/07/2026 20:20

Thank you.

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littlemousebigcheese · 07/07/2026 20:17

If you’re in white, leave it. You seem defensive and judgemental