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Is this racism?

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cooooola · 07/07/2026 13:13

Basically I was at the pub in the pub and nobody was behind the bar.

I was first in line.

An elderly couple come and and then another man who slams his glass down.

When the bar lady asks "who is first"? I replied me.

The elderly couple say "we have been waiting ages".

And the man next says "I didn't see her".

I felt this was due to me being mixed race.
I felt quite intimidated.

I only popped in for a drink whilst OH has the kids.

I feel any shaken up as the only ethnic person in the place.
AIBU

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DameOfThrones · 07/07/2026 13:20

cooooola · 07/07/2026 13:18

I'm not really understanding the sarcasm here.
In the UK there is a lot of racism going on and there was no need for this.
I felt quite intimidated.

Very childish and unnecessary.

Obviously is a Wetherspoons, says it all really lol.
Im not even from round here and was popping in on the way back home.

Edited

You don't understand that internet strangers who weren't there, cannot possibly answer your question?

Needmorelego · 07/07/2026 13:20

Unlikely to be racism.
Just people in their own world not really noticing who is around them.

vodkacran · 07/07/2026 13:20

cooooola · 07/07/2026 13:18

I'm not really understanding the sarcasm here.
In the UK there is a lot of racism going on and there was no need for this.
I felt quite intimidated.

Very childish and unnecessary.

Obviously is a Wetherspoons, says it all really lol.
Im not even from round here and was popping in on the way back home.

Edited

What about this non event has made you feel 'shaken up?'
Did you not say 'excuse me, I was here first?' If not, why not? I presume you have the gift of voice so just say something..

stargirl27 · 07/07/2026 13:20

cooooola · 07/07/2026 13:13

Basically I was at the pub in the pub and nobody was behind the bar.

I was first in line.

An elderly couple come and and then another man who slams his glass down.

When the bar lady asks "who is first"? I replied me.

The elderly couple say "we have been waiting ages".

And the man next says "I didn't see her".

I felt this was due to me being mixed race.
I felt quite intimidated.

I only popped in for a drink whilst OH has the kids.

I feel any shaken up as the only ethnic person in the place.
AIBU

No one on here could possibly give you a definitive answer. From another 'ethnic person'.

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cooooola · 07/07/2026 13:18

I'm not really understanding the sarcasm here.
In the UK there is a lot of racism going on and there was no need for this.
I felt quite intimidated.

Very childish and unnecessary.

Obviously is a Wetherspoons, says it all really lol.
Im not even from round here and was popping in on the way back home.

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DameOfThrones · 07/07/2026 13:18

If we knew the answer to this, we'd all be off buying lottery tickets since we'd know this Saturday's numbers.

beeautifullif3 · 07/07/2026 13:17

Oh gosh its getting so boring now 😴

vodkacran · 07/07/2026 13:17

...right

Atkinsondesperation · 07/07/2026 13:15

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