Is this racism?

And you sum that little interaction up as racism because....?

Racism is awful, but so is labeling everyone a racist for no good reason.

Not everything is racism

Weird to refer to yourself as an 'ethnic' person. I am mixed race. Everyone has an ethnicity. You sound paranoid which is justified in today's climate, I suppose but this doesn't sound like obvious racism, if at all.

not racism. Normal in a bar

People are racist if they didnt notice you? Oh give over.

My best friend is mixed race, we grew up together. What I will say is that she experiences quite a lot of racism in pubs (and airports) that I wouldn’t have recognised as a white person.
so it’s very possible

Eyes glaze or slide over the person of colour or just don't register them as Equally Present Human

Same goes for plump middle aged women. Totally invisible.

The man was swearing before hand to me about the lack of staff and could see I was first

Did he try to get served before you once he knew you were there?

Seriously? I don’t think so. Bars are what they are. 🙄

It's difficult to say tbh. I've felt I've been ignored in a bar queue and sometimes put it down to sexism. When I was the only woman. And other slightly off vibes.

So it figures you might take it that way if you're the only person of non white race. But in my area I don't think it would be racism. I'd hope not anyway.

But if I was in a right wing/reform area I'd say it would be more likely.

Either way pub queue management should be dealt with strictly on a first come first served basis and when it doesn't you can easily feel discriminated against. Even simply for not being 'local/regular' enough.

Not every dick is racist. Some are simply just dicks

Weatherspoons "says it all" ?

In the UK there's a lot of classism going on and there was no need for this.
Very childish and unnecessary.

My Mum thinks she is ignored because of her age.
My sister complains it is because she has a quiet voice.
I think I am ignored because I haven't got big boobs.

It must’ve been a micro agression, mustn’t it? Everything is.
Or…
the bar staff don’t feel comfy looking at your face, that must be it. You have resting bitch face and the bar staff are intimidated by you. You’ve triggered their anxiety.
or..
the older people at the bar were so intimidated by you that they dissociated, as it’s not in their culture to deal with socially stressful situations. They literally had to blank you out, due to their fear of ageism.

and prop your boobs on to the bar...

In the good old days, you could wave a fiver about to get noticed

If this is the first time this has happened to you, you must have excellent bar presence. Or its your first time in a bar. Or even a queue.

I have had people accuse me of barging in front of them and I have accused others or barging in front of me, in bars, cafes, bus queues. If people are waiting for a service, this sort of thing happened. I am white and those people have been white. I once had a female bartender very deliberately and obviously refuse to make eye contact to serve me but repeatedly served the people who came in to the left and right of me. No idea why she hated me. But I am white and so was she so it wasn't race.

This was my first reaction too.

No I don’t think it was racist, sounds like the bar stuff took the piss, they were irritated and just wanted to be served.

Usually polite to let elderly people go first anyway, but early 60s is not elderly 🤣

No. It’s not.

Actually I am being unfairly flippant. The real idea is I have no idea. There isn’t much to go on here.

I believe you. I am often out in mixed groups, and have seen this happen a lot. Eyes glaze or slide over the person of colour or just don't register them as Equally Present Human.

It doesn't need a word to be said or an angry gesture made. There is a kind of invisbilizing force when their eyes pass.

Oh for christ sake OP, are you constantly looking for ways in which people are being racist? Im so sick of this victim fetish, so many people (of all races) embrace at the moment.