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Is this racism?

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cooooola · 07/07/2026 13:13

Basically I was at the pub in the pub and nobody was behind the bar.

I was first in line.

An elderly couple come and and then another man who slams his glass down.

When the bar lady asks "who is first"? I replied me.

The elderly couple say "we have been waiting ages".

And the man next says "I didn't see her".

I felt this was due to me being mixed race.
I felt quite intimidated.

I only popped in for a drink whilst OH has the kids.

I feel any shaken up as the only ethnic person in the place.
AIBU

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itsmeitsyou · 07/07/2026 17:35

cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:20

Sorry the UK is a racist country.
It has gotten worse in the last 5 years.

The same racists who call non white people all the names under the sun but then probably cheered when Jude Bellingham scored against Mexico on Monday 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I was there first, simple.

The idiot next to me poked his big nose when it had nothing to do with him.

I was served first and asked them to review the CCTV.

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There are rules and regulations.
Company CCTV can not be checked like home CCTV.
typo

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cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:34

I have dual US citizenship actually.

I can honestly say hand on heart I have never experienced racism in the US, lived there many years until 2017.
They all seemed to love my accent.

I actually find the UK far more racist.

I have been to Canada, Portugal, Spain, Italy, Greece, US, Mexico, Croatia, Cyprus, Sweden, Thailand, Tunisia and it's the UK I find more racist.

Never seen anyone in the US paining the roundabouts or hanging flags on lamp posts lol.

I find Americans far more friendlier than people
in the UK. By far.

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ScrambledEggs12 · 07/07/2026 17:33

cooooola · 07/07/2026 13:18

I'm not really understanding the sarcasm here.
In the UK there is a lot of racism going on and there was no need for this.
I felt quite intimidated.

Very childish and unnecessary.

Obviously is a Wetherspoons, says it all really lol.
Im not even from round here and was popping in on the way back home.

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I haven't queued in Wetherspoons for years, just order using the app.

5128gap · 07/07/2026 17:32

BatchCookBabe · 07/07/2026 17:20

I agree. I get sick of all the accusations of the UK being a racist country. Utter load of nonsense. Try moving to a few of the Eastern European countries, Bulgaria, Russia, Belarus etc, or America, Germany, Hungary, Austria, Finland Australia............. Live in one of them ^ for a year, and then come back and tell me that the UK is a racist country.

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Are you white? Because if so, you're probably not best placed to know the extent of racism in the UK. Because stats only give crime reports, convictions etc, not the day to day experiences people have.
Its a bit like when a certain type of man claims there is no sexism against women because its illegal and because he has no idea what women actually experience.

Livpool · 07/07/2026 17:30

We don’t know if the others were/are racist. I am white and people (usually men!) do it all the time. I just say I was next and start giving my order.

IME it is more a sexist thing than anything else, although obviously different because I am white

TheGreatDownandOut · 07/07/2026 17:30

Are you actually joking? Assuming it was racist despite no evidence to suggest it was? Being ‘shaken up’?? Asking the bar staff to review CCTV Confused

Indianajet · 07/07/2026 17:29

Is the heat getting to everyone? This sounds like a complete non-event.

DameOfThrones · 07/07/2026 17:26

BatchCookBabe · 07/07/2026 17:24

I dunno, I reckon the OP may have asked the bartender to look at the cctv, but he probably told her to get over herself and grow up.

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And informed her that managers and door staff are the only ones authorized to check it...

RoseOliviaAu · 07/07/2026 17:25

He just wanted to get served first. If it was a spoons you could all have sat down and ordered on the app.

millymollymoomoo · 07/07/2026 17:25

what a load of nonsense.

not everything is racist . In fact most things aren’t.

BatchCookBabe · 07/07/2026 17:24

Paganpentacle · 07/07/2026 17:17

Of course you did.

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I dunno, I reckon the OP may have asked the bartender to look at the cctv, but he probably told her to get over herself and grow up.

rwalker · 07/07/2026 17:24

If it was racism at play surely he wouldn’t of asked in the first place and just ignored you

I’m white and couldn’t even tell you how many times it’s happened to me

and having worked behind a bar I’ve often shouted who’s next myself

DameOfThrones · 07/07/2026 17:23

cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:16

No I was there first. End of.
I even asked the bartender to look at the CCTV.

Such a shame they're not allowed to then.

EmailEve · 07/07/2026 17:23

Rude maybe, a bit preoccupied and didn't notice anyone else certainly, but racist? I don't think so

hay5689 · 07/07/2026 17:22

cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:20

Sorry the UK is a racist country.
It has gotten worse in the last 5 years.

The same racists who call non white people all the names under the sun but then probably cheered when Jude Bellingham scored against Mexico on Monday 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I was there first, simple.

The idiot next to me poked his big nose when it had nothing to do with him.

I was served first and asked them to review the CCTV.

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So the pub was short staffed and you decided to make it worse by trying to get the staff member to look at the CCTV so he could decide whether to serve you a Pepsi first? You sound like the problem here.

Naunet · 07/07/2026 17:22

In the last 5 years there has been a growing unease around a certain culture that doesnt blend well with ours, not race. If this example is what you call 'growing racism' though, I think we'll be ok.

DameOfThrones · 07/07/2026 17:22

Allisnotlost1 · 07/07/2026 17:03

But then it would be really common in speech but not in writing?

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Why? Lots of people write as they speak in a relaxed atmosphere like a chat forum.

BatchCookBabe · 07/07/2026 17:21

cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:20

Sorry the UK is a racist country.
It has gotten worse in the last 5 years.

The same racists who call non white people all the names under the sun but then probably cheered when Jude Bellingham scored against Mexico on Monday 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I was there first, simple.

The idiot next to me poked his big nose when it had nothing to do with him.

I was served first and asked them to review the CCTV.

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Are you OK?

BatchCookBabe · 07/07/2026 17:20

Naunet · 07/07/2026 17:04

Don't be ridiculous, we live in one of the most inclusive, none racist countries in the world.

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I agree. I get sick of all the accusations of the UK being a racist country. Utter load of nonsense. Try moving to a few of the Eastern European countries, Bulgaria, Russia, Belarus etc, or America, Germany, Hungary, Austria, Finland Australia............. Live in one of them ^ for a year, and then come back and tell me that the UK is a racist country.

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cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:20

Sorry the UK is a racist country.
It has gotten worse in the last 5 years.

The same racists who call non white people all the names under the sun but then probably cheered when Jude Bellingham scored against Mexico on Monday 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I was there first, simple.

The idiot next to me poked his big nose when it had nothing to do with him.

I was served first and asked them to review the CCTV.

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ToWhitToWhoo · 07/07/2026 17:19

Naunet · 07/07/2026 17:04

Don't be ridiculous, we live in one of the most inclusive, none racist countries in the world.

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Possibly, But that may not be saying much, considering what some other countries are like.

Naunet · 07/07/2026 17:18

cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:16

No I was there first. End of.
I even asked the bartender to look at the CCTV.

🤣 for what?!

UniquePinkSwan · 07/07/2026 17:18

cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:16

No I was there first. End of.
I even asked the bartender to look at the CCTV.

I’m starting to think this isn’t real now…

ToWhitToWhoo · 07/07/2026 17:18

I think YABU to assume that it's racism. It could be. It could also be because you're younger, or on your own and not part of a couple or group, or just one of those things: sometimes people don;t get noticed when they should be.

Paganpentacle · 07/07/2026 17:17

cooooola · 07/07/2026 17:16

No I was there first. End of.
I even asked the bartender to look at the CCTV.

Of course you did.

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