Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

A sick bucket! And it was full sounds revolting!
If you are able to post on here then you are able to get some water for yourself (and empty the sick bucket!)

You are obviously lucky enough to have never been so ill that just getting out of bed makes you vomit instantly. You sound very hard and unsympathetic.

I he had asked if you wanted anything before he let would three have been time for him to fetch water/set up a delivery?

I also find it odd you live somewhere you can't drink the water but only have 3 x 1.5 litre bottles at home. Seems a bit irresponsible on both your parts. What if you were both ill? What if something happened and you couldn't get to the shops/they were closed/there weren't any deliveries? If you have coffee/green tea presumably you do have drinks anyway.

Because not everywhere is like where you live

We lived abroad until very recently (albeit somewhere where you could drink the tapwater) but mainland Europe.

There was no such thing as a supermarket delivery in the first place, let alone any sort of app for same day delivery.

Even if there had been, the supermarkets stocked mainly food - not painkillers or electrolyte sachets. These would have to come from a pharmacy (no delivery possible) and they would be closed between 12 and 2.

Hope you're feeling better soon OP.

I’m the same as pp. I have carpet in the bedroom so wouldn't risk bring sick in there. Also the smell of vomit next to bed would stop me from sleeping . I hope you feel better soon though.

Or, alternatively - in a normal world a normal human being who is weak, ill, distressed and unsure if she's in the wrong or not asks if she is in the right to be disappointed in her husband's behavior, and people answer that no, of course not.

Not the MN thing of 'what did you expect/ why didn't you speak up for yourself/ why aren't you following American health system advice/ why didn't you sleep on a towel in the bathroom/ what do you mean you were sick in a bin, who does that/have you every thought he might be tired/ in the time you posted this you could have boiled a kettle/ etc etc

So yeh, I agree with you, MN folk are crazy 🤣

Hardly a passtime requiring peak fitness levels 😂

So text him to bring you some water?

I find it difficult to understand how in such a heat and with no drinkable tap water, you were so low stocked…

Do you live somewhere where you can't drink the water?

It's pretty basic to check on a vomiting partner.

If you wouldn't think to do that, it's no wonder you are siding with the DH in this case.

Yes it's definitely not a nice thing for him to have done. I would just call him and say 'did you leave any water for me'? When he says no, just say you're surprised about that and expected a bit more care/thought considering how ill you've been. You just need to communicate this to him in a 'not angry way' for future situations - do you have children together? As he needs to be thinking about you and any children especially when ill before himself.
Hope you feel better.

I don’t think it is DH’s fault really. Hope you manage to restock.

your DH is inconsiderate but why in earth don’t you have a water dispenser?!

in every country I’ve lived where tap water isn’t drinkable every single house has a water dispenser with a 5 gallon bottle and several spares.

Sort one out ASAP

o/p are you keeping the water down then?

separate from the dh issue- I agree he should have asked if he could get you anything before he left as a minimum… i

if you are vomiting so copiously maybe reduce the water intake to smaller sips- 3 large bottles in a relatively short period will not help the sickness when your body rejects it. It sounds like you’re in a cycle where you’re drinking a lot then vomiting it back up.

you’re going to end up electrolyte depleted. It’s not water so much you need as rehydration fluids. I would try the tea you have and drink it very slowly.

If my husband was ill there's no guarantee I am going to remember to check the water for them, especially if there was 3 bottles the day before.

Even when you can’t drink tap water and having bottle water is essential?
The very big thing here is that theyre not in the U.K.
From what the OP said running out of water and having to nip to the shop 2 mins down the road isn’t unusual.
So yes in those specific circumstances, checking there was enough fir the day was the minimum care to give to the OP.

I think you've taken a giant leap here and there is a middle ground where people can seek reassurance about how they're feeling and people can be empathetic about it.

No one is saying he's a monster for not getting her water and she should leave him.

And I feel sorry for your husband if you wouldn't think to get him a glass of water to leave by his bed after he's been sick all night. At which point you'd have realised there was no water.

You say ‘do you need anything? And leave them with water, biscuits, some lollies, check bucket needs emptying or cleaning, a fresh facecloth… and while performing basic care you realise you can’t leave her with water because there isn’t any.

she also can’t text him because he isn’t looking at his phone.

If you say so. Some people would say walking out of the house early in the morning and leaving your very unwell wife in hot weather without water with a condition that needs lots of water is not just abusive but near criminal neglect, and said woman owes him not a drop of care, including buying him water.

And thats how misogyny works...lots of women are socialised into it without realising. She has kidney stones, puking allnight, dangerously dehydrated, room smells of puke, sheets a mess.

But dont bother the menz. She needs to 'toughen up' or whatever.

OP Id be concerned you might pass out if you get up to do anything. Please call your DH to tell him to arrange deliveries including a rehydration supplement. Massive, massive sympathies from me.

Considering you slept in different rooms I think the fact he woke you up enough to say goodbye, he could have at least tried to find out how you're feeling. It must have been quite obvious to him that you've been very unwell through the night but he basically just legged it!

Jesus Christ. At what point do you expect a man to have two brain cells of his own and proactively check on his sick wife? When she’s in a coma? If she’s screaming in pain, as others on the thread say they’ve been with kidney stones? If the op died today some of the people on this thread would say to the husband, there there it wasn’t your fault, she didn’t tell you she needed help.

op, I don’t mean you’re dying! I’m just trying to convey that it is a spouses responsibility to proactively care for their ill partner and he’s failed you. Just as others on this thread would clearly fail their loved ones. I hope they at least look after their children better than this.

A huge thing that seems to be lacking on this forum is the understanding that people are human beings. They can't preempt everything, they can't remember everything, people mess up.
If my husband was ill there's no guarantee I am going to remember to check the water for them, especially if there was 3 bottles the day before.

In any normal relationship a phone call would of happened along the lines of aw Jim, there's no water left I'm the house, aw never Sandra, sorry I forgot to check, I'll run in the shop on the way home, are you OK until then?

Then there's mumsnet world...my husband has left me with no water, get your ducks in a row, never have children with him, why did you marry him, it's fucking crazy on here sometimes.

There’s no benefit of the doubt for a man whose wife is quite ill and he left without checking she has everything she needs and promising to check in on her. None.

I totally agree - I think (actually I hope) people are being disingenuous.

It's a valid argument! She has a right to be mad