Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

Married 35 years doesn’t mean a great marriage. It simply means it’s a long marriage. But if your standards are low then an uncaring partner probably does seem great.

@Footballscominghomehey ignore posters like @Booksandsea who lack basic human empathy. Something very wrong with this kind of response.

I suspect stocking up on these things is OP’s job.

Lying on a hard bathroom floor isn’t going to do much for the pain of kidney stones.

I find it odd and maybe even thoughtless or mean-spirited that he intentionally woke you up (feeling as much pain as you do right now, uninterrupted sleep is probably a huge relief, plus necessary for your recovery) and then didn't check if you needed anything before he left. I'm sure you could have deduced that he'd gone to work, or he could have left a note. I'm glad you're able to get delivery but once you're feeling better I think a discussion may be necessary about both adults keeping on top of basic household needs and maybe doing a little bit extra/being more conscious about concern and care for the other when one of you is incapacitated.

yeah- because she was sick? 🙄

Nope. OP has kidney stones. That’s why she’s ill and vomiting. It’s recommended to drink plenty of water - at least two to three litres per day to keep hydrated and help flush small stones

I don't understand OP why you either were not at hospital getting morphine or, if it is passed as you say, why you are not capable of cleaning up after yourself and getting water.

Not to be a massive bitch but having looked after people with kidney stones it's like someone giving birth - and once it's passed, it's passed. In the acute/vomming phase you really need hardcore drugs though, so I don't know why you were not getting help. Or if you decided it was okay to pass at home, to do it in the bathroom. If you were screaming and vomiting in the spare room, why didn't your husband come and help at that point?!?!

So basically the whole story I find a bit baffling.

Her title literally says he didn't LEAVE her any.. as in he took the last of it.

the truth is she ran out by drinking all they had and he hasn't realised it's all gone as he's gone to work.

He could have emptied the bucket and checked the water situation but yesterday they had plenty, she could have just asked him to get more when she asked him to get painkillers yesterday.

I remember years ago I got Norovirus & it was the illest I've ever been in my life. V&D non stop, desperately poorly & bedbound. After 24 hours of this, my ex husband literally looked irritabley at his watch & said surely you should be over this now, it's only a 24hr bug! He then went away on business leaving me with 3 small boys. I was ill for over a week. You can see why he ended up becoming an ex. Some men (& women) don't have the capacity for care, empathy & kindness for others when they're ill.

She’d need to put the sick bucket down first !!

The Ketchup song actually.

Maybe for the future you could get some water purification tablets to keep.
Then in an emergency you could decontaminate and boil water.
I presume you're not in Europe as apart from the odd isolated area you can drink the water. Lots of people don't but it's safe, same as UK.

Get well soon

The OP isn't asking for practical help.

Why - do the words ‘sick bucket’ and ‘vomiting’ trigger you ?

This thread is causing me to utterly lose my faith in humanity.

fyi if/ when you get something to drink don’t just get water! Make sure you get an isotonic drink too as you’re electrolytes will be all out of whack and will make you feel worse x

A none argument. If you live alone it’s a given that you have to manage alone - assuming you don’t have friends or family you can call on for help. If you live with a partner, you would expect them to support you if you were unwell - basic kindness isn’t difficult.

But she doesn't live alone. Yes we all manage when we're alone but not checking on your wife who has been vomiting all night and in horrendous pain with kidney stones is an incredibly shitty thing to do.

Jesus, the people on here! Hope you are feeling better soon OP, sounds awful. I too would be sad and upset my partner didn’t seem to care but I would be having a long conversation when he gets home about expectations and empathy and what you expect going forward in the future.

Both coffee and green tea are diuretics and should be avoided.

As best you can, obviously, as we've all done as and when we've lived alone. The point is that OP doesn't live alone. In sickness and in health...? Old fashioned if you like but I'll bet OP has shown hubby some care and consideration when he's been ill in the past.

The drinks. That’s why there’s none left.

You’re such a fortunate person to have never experienced illness before.

ig you’d had, then you’d understand that for some severe illness it’s just not possible to speak or even think straight.

lucky you though

Perhaps OP should also do the Macarena while they're at it, during this burst of energy?