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Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 09:46

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

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Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 23:35

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 08/07/2026 22:30

It's bloody awful. I wonder what they're like in real life or do anonymous forums bring out the worst out in people.

I'm so sorry you've had this nastiness directed at you. You shouldn't have to put up with it when you're asking a simple question ❤️

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I don’t understand it at all! Just why be awful

Thank you X

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AMurderofMurderingCrows · 08/07/2026 22:30

Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 22:18

Ridiculous, isn’t it!

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It's bloody awful. I wonder what they're like in real life or do anonymous forums bring out the worst out in people.

I'm so sorry you've had this nastiness directed at you. You shouldn't have to put up with it when you're asking a simple question ❤️

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Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 22:18

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Ridiculous, isn’t it!

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ThreadGuardDog · 08/07/2026 21:24

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 08/07/2026 21:08

It was 3 1.5l bottles.

I have no idea how a couple can have such little water in the house. It just makes no sense.

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OP said upthread that she is the one responsible for shopping so if she was out of action clearly the supplies haven’t been replenished.

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 08/07/2026 21:08

Gall10 · 08/07/2026 18:33

She said she ‘dran 3 bottles of water last night’ ? 250ml bottle. ?500ml bottles. ?1500ml bottles If she lives somewhere that tap water is undrinkable then they were probably 5litre bottles… that’s what made her vomit! If it’s true!

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It was 3 1.5l bottles.

I have no idea how a couple can have such little water in the house. It just makes no sense.

Blueberries0761 · 08/07/2026 20:54

Sending get well wishes to you both @Footballscominghomehey and @JulietteHasAGun , that you recover your strength quickly

I know only too well that sick, exhausted, dizzy feeling you're left with after a flare up of illness.

Take care and get plenty of rest💐

JulietteHasAGun · 08/07/2026 20:03

@Blueberries0761 @Footballscominghomehey thznks both for asking after me. Still feel awful to be honest. Was still being sick on Tuesday morning. Didn’t eat anything on Tuesday and barely kept fluids down. Haven’t been sick today but am weak and dizzy. Haven’t eaten until a slice of toast a couple of hours ago and feel really nauseous again. I’ve lost 3kg though 😁

LimestonePavement · 08/07/2026 20:01

ThreadGuardDog · 08/07/2026 19:55

This. A couple of posters upthread made the same mistake, telling OP she was drinking too much water. Kidney stones are caused by not drinking enough water and small stones can be effectively passed by drinking enough to flush them.

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I don’t know about ‘caused’ by — I seem to have inherited a tendency to get them from my father. But it’s true that I had my worst ever attack when DS was a small baby and I probably wasn’t looking after myself well or drinking enough. What I mainly remember was, after I’d had a shot of painkiller and was waiting for a scan, that I hoped they would keep me in overnight even if it was only on a trolley in the corridor. DS wasn’t a sleeper…

That was almost 15 years ago and I still remember the name of the doctor who gave me a shot of strong painkiller.

ThreadGuardDog · 08/07/2026 19:58

Gall10 · 08/07/2026 18:33

She said she ‘dran 3 bottles of water last night’ ? 250ml bottle. ?500ml bottles. ?1500ml bottles If she lives somewhere that tap water is undrinkable then they were probably 5litre bottles… that’s what made her vomit! If it’s true!

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OP said upthread quite a while ago that she drank three 1.5 litre bottles of water. And the medical advice for kidney stones is to drink at least three to four litres of water per day to try to flush the smaller stones. Kidney stones are actually caused by not drinking enough fluids.

ThreadGuardDog · 08/07/2026 19:55

SpaceRaccoon · 08/07/2026 19:24

I'm not a renal physician but I do apparently know more than you - when you're actively passing a kidney stone, the advice is to drink 2 to 3 litres of water a day.

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This. A couple of posters upthread made the same mistake, telling OP she was drinking too much water. Kidney stones are caused by not drinking enough water and small stones can be effectively passed by drinking enough to flush them.

Anarchy99 · 08/07/2026 19:55

Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 18:55

I posted AFTER vomiting and general pain and passing out had calmed down, ok??

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So you were feeling better by then?

LimestonePavement · 08/07/2026 19:32

SpaceRaccoon · 08/07/2026 19:24

I'm not a renal physician but I do apparently know more than you - when you're actively passing a kidney stone, the advice is to drink 2 to 3 litres of water a day.

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And once you’ve had a kidney stone, you’re never casual about hydration ever again!

SpaceRaccoon · 08/07/2026 19:24

Gall10 · 08/07/2026 18:35

Probably still made her vomit! Water doesn’t go straight to kidneys… but if you’re a renal physician maybe you know better than me.

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I'm not a renal physician but I do apparently know more than you - when you're actively passing a kidney stone, the advice is to drink 2 to 3 litres of water a day.

ThatLassFromLeeds · 08/07/2026 19:11

Oh, another time I was ill (vomiting) and he left me water and a bar of chocolate… as if I’m going to start eating chocolate when I’m sick! I had to explain that the best option might have been something I could nibble on, like a slice of bread, and he was genuinely confused as to why I wouldn’t want chocolate!

ThatLassFromLeeds · 08/07/2026 19:09

Oh, OP, I feel for you! My husband did similar when I had a really bad flu one time - I couldn’t walk, but he left me a tiny glass of water and no food, and went out for the day! It was awful. I was so thirsty, but couldn’t even get to the bathroom to drink from the tap.

I hope you feel much better soon!

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Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 19:08

Blueberries0761 · 08/07/2026 19:04

@Footballscominghomehey I hope you're feeling much better today

@JulietteHasAGun , I hope you're feeling better too, I noticed you posted on page 1 that you were also very ill yesterday

Thank you, just v tired but much better than I was

@JulietteHasAGun So sorry you were ill/are ill too, how are you feeling?

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Blueberries0761 · 08/07/2026 19:04

@Footballscominghomehey I hope you're feeling much better today

@JulietteHasAGun , I hope you're feeling better too, I noticed you posted on page 1 that you were also very ill yesterday

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Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 19:01

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He’d gone to work…and left me!! Hence this post

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Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 18:56

Gall10 · 08/07/2026 18:33

She said she ‘dran 3 bottles of water last night’ ? 250ml bottle. ?500ml bottles. ?1500ml bottles If she lives somewhere that tap water is undrinkable then they were probably 5litre bottles… that’s what made her vomit! If it’s true!

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Ffs

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Footballscominghomehey · 08/07/2026 18:55

Anarchy99 · 08/07/2026 18:29

But it makes no difference. She had sufficient cognitive function to post and discuss on MN. So how did she not have enough to speak to her husband?

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I posted AFTER vomiting and general pain and passing out had calmed down, ok??

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JulietteHasAGun · 08/07/2026 18:43

Gall10 · 08/07/2026 18:35

Probably still made her vomit! Water doesn’t go straight to kidneys… but if you’re a renal physician maybe you know better than me.

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It’ll be the pain from the stone which is making her vomit, not a stomach bug. 🤷‍♀️

Anarchy99 · 08/07/2026 18:43

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mochimoons · 08/07/2026 18:35

Anarchy99 · 08/07/2026 18:29

But it makes no difference. She had sufficient cognitive function to post and discuss on MN. So how did she not have enough to speak to her husband?

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This is so tedious. She was asleep when her husband came to check on her and then she was awake when she posted on Mumsnet 😂 hope this helps clear up the confusion.

Gall10 · 08/07/2026 18:35

SpaceRaccoon · 07/07/2026 10:58

She has kidney stones.

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Probably still made her vomit! Water doesn’t go straight to kidneys… but if you’re a renal physician maybe you know better than me.