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Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 09:46

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

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BashfulClam · 07/07/2026 10:50

Hopefully you can get a delivery soon. A sick bucket can be quite common, I had norovirus and my mum set me up with an old mop bucket as we had 1 bathroom between 6 adults a toddler (a beautiful toddler who gave me kisses of death).

diddl · 07/07/2026 10:49

Even if he doesn't know that all the water has gone he knows that all of whatever else you drink had gone.

So he can pick up water whilst he's picking up other drinks.

Sounds as if water needs picking up every time someone shops to keep a decent supply in.

BashfulClam · 07/07/2026 10:49

cinquanta · 07/07/2026 10:17

Don’t you have taps?

Go back and read the OP!

Mt563 · 07/07/2026 10:48

Not to blame op, but this is what happens when women carry all the mental load. Partner probably thinks there's a magic water fairy who arranges deliveries. Or at least an automated system. Or more backup.

We need to make men step up and share the load. It's ridiculous that they get away with this kind of thing. It's not just about looking after Op, which would be reason enough, it's about being part of running a household.

Magicpaintbrush · 07/07/2026 10:47

I guess in normal circumstances you should both be equally responsible to making sure well ahead of time that you have enough drinking water in the house, and probably ought to have a stockpile in such hot weather - however, as you are so poorly then he ought to have stepped up and noticed it had run out, and got more in. So you're right, he shouldn't have left you without anything to drink (although it would have been sensible to have a stockpile of water in the middle of summer). I hope you feel better soon OP, it sounds horrible for you x

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 10:45

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/07/2026 10:38

That is shocking! Is he normally so lacking in empathy? Or is he absolutely run off his feet?

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He is busy at work, if he doesn’t check at lunchtime i’ll be really sad

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 10:43

Checkcheckcheck · 07/07/2026 10:32

Just be aware that kidney stones and increased thirst can both be symptoms of a condition called hyperparathyroidism. Worth looking into by asking to have your calcium and vitamin d tested from the same blood draw.

Thank you, they’ve checked this already-normal calcium but low Vit D that I supplement

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pinkdelight · 07/07/2026 10:42

I drank three large water bottles last night

Sorry you're ill but seems you've left yourself with no water. If tap water is undrinkable, you need much bigger stocks in the house. He woke up early and went to work. If you didn't ask then, he wasn't going to go nosing around your sick bucket at empty bottles.

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 10:41

Thank you, sat downstairs now so will make the next move to brush teeth, get dressed and quickly go to the petrol station. I need a shower etc but can’t so I hope I don’t run into anyone 😩

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AMurderofMurderingCrows · 07/07/2026 10:40

Gall10 · 07/07/2026 10:29

Drinking copious volumes of water won’t have done you any good….it’s probably what’s made you vomit!

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Ah yes, the internet urology specialist. Thank you for your wisdom.

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 10:39

Gall10 · 07/07/2026 10:29

Drinking copious volumes of water won’t have done you any good….it’s probably what’s made you vomit!

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Yes it did make me vomit more, but when you’re in pain and out of it and incredibly thirsty, it happens

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dizzydizzydizzy · 07/07/2026 10:38

Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 10:33

Not yet

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That is shocking! Is he normally so lacking in empathy? Or is he absolutely run off his feet?

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 10:38

Gall10 · 07/07/2026 10:27

Maybe not deliberately lying….just exaggerating!

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Ok. No obviously just that rubbish that I hadn’t stocked up but had 3 large 1.5 litre bottles and was due to go out yesterday morning

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Washingupdone · 07/07/2026 10:37

What country are you in?

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 07/07/2026 10:37

Whiski · 07/07/2026 10:17

You drank all the water. He didn’t take it.

I'm soooo glad you pointed that out as we would NEVER have worked that out for ourselves...

Captain fucking Obvious has entered the thread 😂

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Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 10:33

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/07/2026 10:25

No water! That’s awful. I’m shocked. Has he even phoned to find out if you’re ok?

Not yet

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Checkcheckcheck · 07/07/2026 10:32

Just be aware that kidney stones and increased thirst can both be symptoms of a condition called hyperparathyroidism. Worth looking into by asking to have your calcium and vitamin d tested from the same blood draw.

Bringemout · 07/07/2026 10:32

Yeah it is thoughtless, the least he could have done is quickly check if you had everything you needed in the morning before he was going to be out. Fairly sure DH would have made sure everything is clean and I’m comfortable before leaving.

ilovesushi · 07/07/2026 10:31

Poor you! Can you call a friend or neighbour to drop some bottled water off? Is his work a long way off? Can he pop back with some supplies. Also do you need to see a doctor!!!???? xxx

Idontjetwashthefucker · 07/07/2026 10:30

Whiski · 07/07/2026 10:17

You drank all the water. He didn’t take it.

Fucking hell, the dickheads are out in force today!

Gall10 · 07/07/2026 10:29

Footballscominghomehey · 07/07/2026 09:59

We did have three large bottles but I went through them all last night, was so thirsty

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Drinking copious volumes of water won’t have done you any good….it’s probably what’s made you vomit!

PollyBell · 07/07/2026 10:27

SummerDive · 07/07/2026 10:22

Maybe read the OP’s posts.
And then remember you’re privileged to be able to have drinking water on tap. Because it’s nowhere near the case in every part of the world…..

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The op said 'we dont drink' not you cant drink in general

Gall10 · 07/07/2026 10:27

Funchythesnowwoman · 07/07/2026 10:22

@WhatWouldMyMamaSay
Are you insinuating that the op is lying?

Maybe not deliberately lying….just exaggerating!

Vaxtable · 07/07/2026 10:27

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Shows you have never been so ill you can’t move hey!

Gall10 · 07/07/2026 10:26

TheSandgroper · 07/07/2026 09:52

Do you have any water you can drink? WHO recommends 8 level tsp of sugar and 1 tsp of salt per litre of water to make your own hydration solution.

And, yeah, my dh wouldn’t leave me quite the way yours did.

Some organization ? WHO or Save The Children recommended this to families in developing countries when their children had dehydration. Obviously they had no measuring jugs to gauge a litre so they suggested a Coka Cola bottle….coka cola wouldn’t allow them to use their product for this advice!

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