To call off girl’s holiday on the day?

But by now there's hundreds of messages for her to read-more than the number of ones she'd have to read from her mate!
Not sure if OP has read or responded since starting work, but if you do engage with them OP, it'll take longer than responding to her.
Maybe, if you ever go away with her again, go in a big group, so some friends can go early with her. There are people who love waiting in the lounges/getting drinks and feel it's part of the holiday.

You've done all that from finishing work at 11.50 am. To driving home, showering and being through into departures by 12.45 pm. Have you got wings - who needs a plane. Can't wait for the updates.

Probably someone who doesn’t drop the office persona once they get home.

You were supposed to finish at 12, have a 15 minute journey home, have a shower then do a 30 minute journey to the airport.

If you are genuinely at check in now, the times above don't represent what happened. So you did leave earlier/have a quicker journey/have an incredibly quick shower and change compared to what your friend expected. There is no 'ha!' moment for you here.

You sound just as dramatic as your friend. But also patronising and uncaring. Have a word with yourself.

Also - please don’t use the word “hysterical” as it’s a very misogynistic term.

My dad is like your friend (maybe not the 100 messages but the anxiety and the desire to be incredibly early). He also had anxiety but doesn’t acknowledge it and thinks he’s objectively correct. It is exhausting but it’s difficult for people with anxiety.

At least your friend has owned that it’s anxiety so you had a heads up.

With friends like you, who needs enemies.
Feel sorry for your friend.

She's not ruining her holiday - she's ruining a few hours of it.

And the OP is seriously considering trashing the whole holiday, which will have huge implications for the friend, because she just can't be doing with it.

I think a lot of the cruelty is coming through her tone - she just doesn't see the other person as worthy of ... anything, really. There's a narcissism there - the relationship is purely transactional for her. I will go on holiday with you so that I have company but if it costs me anything at all I will dump you in the most heartless way because Me First, Come What May.

Bloody hell OP, she sounds high maintenance. Is she ok now? My advice would be to take her to the bar, buy her a large G&T and give her a hug and say sincerely ‘Calm down now, let’s have a lovely holiday and if you want me to organise us, just let me know and I’ll take the lead, but you can’t panic like you have this morning, it’ll send me bonkers, you have to chill out.

And over the course of the holiday, I’d chat to her and see what the issue is. You always have friends who have a difference of opinion on what time to get to the airport, but 100 messages is so far from normal.

My mum is like this when she flies and it is really really hard. When I got my first grown up job I took her on holiday because she deserves it and she had always wanted to go to Rome. My dad warned me she was a really bad traveler and that she’s probably only gotten worse with age. Last time she was on a plane before this was 2009. I kind of thought he was being dramatic and maybe a bit jel I didn’t take him on a holiday.. this was not the case.

With people like this you just need to grit your teeth and get them through the airport and on the plane. You have to do the thinking for them if you get what I mean. The first day and the last day of your holiday probably won’t be amazing as they will be very stressed, at least that’s how it is with my mum. Sometimes being firm is the best option though.

OP will probably have arrived in Cape Verde within the next 10 minutes given the timings so far! 😄

Friend is in need of relax. Send her to the yoga classes.

The Op still hasn't told us which company is doing all inclusive in July to Cape Verde for £800...

It wasn’t a 4.45 flight….. it was 3.45, because oops OP got it wrong!

But OP got the time of the flight wrong. It was an hour earlier than she thought. If she has form for that sort of thing I can understand even more why her already anxious friend was even more anxious

Not if you’re using a teleporter! Come on think outside the box!!

You went to work between 9.30am to 11.30am?

Was there no option to work from home?

The walk from the car park to the entrance is at least 10 minutes at Birmingham airport...

It’s irrelevant anyway, OP owns a Time Machine!

To be fair to the OP, drive times are fluid. I would say that from here it's 30 minutes to Glasgow airport departueres. But depending on traffic, time od day, how kind traffic lights are, whether i've booked dump and run valet parking or have to drive round the multistorey looking for a space, it could be anything between 20 minutes and an hour. Or more.

Last time I flew I was in and out of the bag drop in literally 30 seconds because I had arrived at a very quiet point, other times it can take 30 minutes.

If I had a 4.45 flight I'd be happy to leave straight from work at noon with a 45 minute journey, and I am one of those people who gets to the airport what others would consider stupidly early. I don't think she's being hysterical or is scared of the airport though - she's scared of missing the plane!

I never said OP's friend was being reasonable. But you can't always expect someone who suffers with severe anxiety to act reasonably. At the same time her friend seems to be genuinely suffering from rather severe anxiety and so a little grace and understanding rather than OP's contempt might be warranted.

Wow. I never comment on these but from the OP I thought definitely YABU. Then I read your constant stream of nasty, arrogant comments (whilst you were meant to be snowed under at work) and the way you speak about your friend. I don't think I've ever seen someone be so vile and unkind about their friend. Someone who you are clearly close enough to go on this trip with in the first place. I dread to imagine what you're like to be around as a friend or partner.

I hope she sees the light after this holiday and she doesn't waste her time and money going away with someone who speaks about her in this way behind her back.

Biggest YABU I've ever given.

Its amazing what Proper Adults can achive

Given that you didn't even get the flight time right I can see exactly why your "friend" was anxious about it.