To ask if you have had a boob job?

I had bigger boobs before breastfeeding, not massive but just a pain in the arse in terms of buying clothes.
I think clothes hand so much better on a smaller chest.

So , personally no, I cannot fathom how anyone can think their life would be better wearing a bigger bra... however I absolutely understand body insecurities and can understand that we all fixate to some degree on what we perceive to be our imperfections.
Freedom from this way of thinking came as I got older and certainly couldn't give a shiny shit about the male gaze.

If you really think that it would enhance your life to have major surgery then go for it, don't skimp on the cost in these fly by night clinics.

But be honest.... would you stop after the surgery or would you insecurity move towards another perceived imperfection?

Sometimes the answer is surgery, sometimes the answer is boosting our confidence in other ways.

Honestly, it’s not that great.

i don’t have massive boobs, about a 34DD. However even at that size I’d much prefer them to be smaller- I struggle with running and impact exercise. I also hate the tight sports bras I need to wear to stop the bounce.

i dislike the bras I need to wear. Tight and uncomfortable. Yes they are the correct size before anyone asks. I really hate underwire, so wear sports bras most of the time.

i’d love to be able to wear the lighter bra/crop top style, but they are just too heavy. So I’m in my shock absorbers and t-shirts in the gym while others wear lululemon strappy tops that look much more comfortable.

No judgement if you decide to get one. My understanding though is they need potentially redoing every 10 years or so. So it’s not a one off expense/procedure.

If you can afford it and it really means a lot to you to feel much better then go for it.

Definitely research long and hard for a really reputable surgeon and don't go too big.

At this point in time I'm fine with my boobs but wouldn't mind them to be be a bit perkier. I don't have the money to consider it but if I did It might be on the agenda in future.

The only thing I think I'd worry about is getting addicted to cosmetic surgery. And losing sight of your natural healthy self.

How would it benefit you to do this?
You'd just be doing it for how others react to your appearance. I think as you get older you'd stop giving a shit about this.

You mention an eating disorder. Have you honestly explored your thoughts about whether this is related?

And there aren't any gradations to being a woman - I suspect you know this. You're female, you're no more or less a woman than any other female person.
You're possibly conflating being female with societal and cultural notions of femininity. The more people who resist those, the better, in my view! Modelling adherence to feminine standards isn't the most accepting way of bringing up a daughter.

I'm not meaning to have a go at you - at all. I just suspect there is a lot to unpack here.

I’ve had one in March this year - an enlargement and uplift. I only went up 1 cup size, and this more so to fill out the cups once lifted (from an empty 32D to - full cup 32DD

I knew I was done having children, I’ve also lost weight.
I chose not to go too big so they look in proportion with the rest of my body.
I went to a local private hospital after researching the consultants, speaking to some of the school mums I’m close too (2 of them had seen the surgeon I was considering) and I had 2 consultations with him prior to the op

I've had no negative side effects and recovery was excellent. Most of the scarring is already barely visible 3 months later

Ive had three, each one worse than the last. Currently 5 months post op dealing with open wounds still. It is genuinely horrific and I cannot tell you how much I wish id never done anything to my perfectly normal little boobs. Loads of people have no issues but you need to be prepared for complications and if you have body issues this will not solve it. Sorry to be so negative but its important to know both sides.