Being told that as a size 18 I can’t wear certain clothes

One of the nasty comments about the model from the other thread

I think it looks awful on her, the dress doesn’t suit her. She is too large of arse and belly for that style of dress to look its best imo. She’d look better in other things, less tank like. Opinions may vary. Wear what you like of course but you asked for opinions.

For everyone getting confused. The original thread is in style and beauty. This is the beautiful young model that people decided to comment on….before even knowing the op’s dress size. No one has any right to be rude about another woman’s looks.

www.asos.com/asos-curve/asos-design-curve-chiffon-high-neck-maxi-dress-in-multi-abstract-print/prd/210378452?acquisitionsource=pasteboard&clickid=_snbrqor63skazxuq0qkctspbrf221olhrph0l3u900&im_rewards=&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&affid=29009&pubref=10078&utm_source=impact&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Skimbit+Ltd.&utm_term=Online+Tracking+Link&utm_content=ONLINE_TRACKING_LINK

OP ive just read this thread now it’s awful. Ask for it to be deleted. And don’t take the comments to heart.

to the mean comments I’m also an 18. I know I’m bigger than average. I know people look or think stuff. But it’s not polite to say nasty things.

Do you not think I know I’m bigger than I sent to be. In my case I’m disabled there’s zero chance of losing the weight around my tummy as I can’t walk it off of me as much as I wished I could as well as enjoying s lovely walk or hike.

I’ve tried losing weight many times. Last time I lost a stone then got stuck on that weight and lost no more for six months. I’ve put that back on since as I’ve been poorly.

Are you talking about the model in the asos dress?

I read the comment last night OP. It was hurtful. I’m also an 18. Try not 5o take it to heart.

Remember they were also stating that the model didn’t look good…..she’s a model I’m sure she looks great.

Fuck that shit.

Wear what you want 😍🥰🥰

You were asking about suitability. The brown dress is dressier than the yellow one. The first thing I noticed about the yellow dress is that it doesn’t fit and lie well even on the model. The ASOS one is horrible and doesn’t fit the model properly. If you have that boob thing going on like the AI picture you need a properly fitted strapless bra, and since you seem to like halter neck and strappy styles this would be a good investment as the right underwear makes a massive difference to how clothes look.

You're still doing it, OP, concentrating on a few negative posts out of many which are not.
Your own responses and those of a couple of posters who were supporting you vociferously are the rudest on the entire thread.

I have reported the thread as I don’t think it’s helpful. It seems like you came on here to get everyone to agree with you and when they didn’t, you’ve got angry and called some people cunts and bitches. Hopefully mumsnet will delete it because who is benefitting from it?

I'm slim. My experience on here and in RL is that people are very positive about it. Very complimentary and often express a desire to also be slim. This is bourne out by the amount of time and headspace people give to weight, diet and excercise and to clothing choices that, as PP stated 'flatter', ie, make them look thinner.
Alongside that there is an emerging movement to help women see that the size of their bodies is unimportant other than for health reasons, and that being slim isn't required to be attractive. Which I think is really positive.
I don't think there is any danger that slim and overweight are going to suddenly reverse themselves in terms of which people would prefer to be, or indeed what they have been socialised to believe to be the most desirable.
Encountering the odd person who calls you skinny or dismisses your diet and activity as 'luck' doesn't mean that all of a sudden slim is the underdog of the weight world.

You’ve won the thread 😂

😂👏

No matter what weight you are, you will always have your charming and winning personality to carry you through!

I have read the thread.

Thank you, @InterIgnis for answering my question politely.

Two things can be true though OP I suppose is posters point. Losing 10 stone is a huge achievement, absolutely well done. It can still be true as others say that certain things would look better at a lower weight.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t wear something you like though!

This is the model who people are saying is overweight. People are getting confused. Thr dress is from the curve range and seems to be in sizes 18-30. The model is a size 18.

www.asos.com/asos-curve/asos-design-curve-chiffon-high-neck-maxi-dress-in-multi-abstract-print/prd/210378452?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

The model is not overweight.

OP knows she’s overweight, she owns a mirror and probably scales
people really should go a bit more gently, overweight people can also have eating disorders and commenting how large someone is might be a tipping point back into one
you wouldn’t go telling someone with anorexia to just put a few stone on

It wasn't asos but something else. Didn't see no Asos model.

This is a really good summation.

If you've lost 10 stone that's amazing. WLI I would guess? If so, we all know rapid loss can leave you with lots of loose skin, especially on arms & back. I understand you're excited about wearing a smaller size, but why not try some dresses with short/ elbow length/ floaty sleeves before you decide? There's lots in the sales. In fact, my son's gf got a gorgeous spotty one from Nobody's Child with puffed sleeves.

That model is overweight but shapely, albeit much less overweight than the picture OP has posted of herself but ,nonetheless overweight.

She is also young, with a beautiful face, fantastic hair, toned arms and lovely shoulders. So, the dress looks good on her. If it didn't look good on her, they wouldn't use her to sell the dress.

Despite announcing she is size 14 in some styles, the OP is not going to look anything like that model if she wears that dress and nor are most of us, myself included.

Still, it's a fact that slimmer women, even if they have a face like a bad tempered and snappy bulldog, will look better in most dresses- than those who are very overweight.

Body positivity is great-wear whatever makes you feel good and enjoy wearing it- but it does have have to be tempered with realism, not to mention health concerns.

By the way OP, stop calling posters nasty bitches, rude cows etc. If you don't want opinions then don't ask for them.