Being told that as a size 18 I can’t wear certain clothes

See through cheap white holiday trousers worn with a black thong? That sort of thing? Grim!

It’s honestly news to me that a size 12 is considered plus size. I thought 12 was an average size and 14 slightly bigger. I assumed plus size was in the 16 and over category.

Asos plus size clothing apparently starts at 16 but seems to be from 18 to 30 in most things I’ve just clicked on, The dress starts at size 18. At a size 18, you’re carrying a lot of extra fat, unless you are very athletic and muscular, which isn’t most women.

Hey, enough about the crocs.

WEAR MORE CROCS

It’s quite possible to be a plus size model and a healthy weight, given “plus size” typically starts at size 12.

Also, depending on height and general build it’s not impossibly that someone could be a healthy weight at even larger dress sizes

The original comment the poster made was that the dress didn’t suit the models body shape but may look better on someone with a different figure. It was that persons opinion, I agree that it didn’t look good on the model. OP then said she was an 18 and took offence but why? The dress doesn’t look good on the model in my opinion either and others agree. OP has taken exception to that. It wasn’t a good dress for someone with that build, that doesn’t mean someone of that build isn’t valued as a person and wouldn’t look great in something else. OP thought she looked great which is fine but others didn’t and she got pissy about it.

I mean some people go around in very thin, “skimpy” and badly made clothes that just make them look awful. It’s almost the modern day equivalent of dressing in rags.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with showing some of your flesh like shoulders, legs etc - although obviously there’s different types of appropriate dress for different places and occasions, eg not wearing a strapless top in the workplace - and that doesn’t really depend on size.

What I think does look awful is people wearing clothes that are so thin of fabric they are see- through, and are obviously so badly made they are falling apart.

The model is wearing the dress, and people are going to comment on what it looks like on her, if it’s flattering
on her, and why it is or isn’t flattering. Whether you’re explicitly asking for
comments on the model or not, the comments you’ll get will invariably involve the model.

Again, if you can’t cope with that, don’t ask for opinions.

Life is too short to give a fuck. My body now is unrecognisable compared to 12
mntha ago. Through treatments and steroids my face and body have changed shape and size, my long thick lustrous hair is short, pube curly and grey and I really struggle to look at myself but at the same time I’m proud of my body, the scars and everything else because it tells the story of my life. Child birth, c sections, cancer, surgeries, chemo, radiotherapy, more surgeries, picc lines etc etc. this body so unattractive to some has survived and travelled through life with me so I shall wear what I want where I want and do so with pride . Anyone that judges does not know us so their opinions are not worth a damn and should be shrugged off like dandruff. Nobody is perfect even if they appear to have the perfect body. I would rather be a fat, pleasant and self confident person than a slim judgemental mean spirited spiteful person intent only on bringing others down. Live your life and enjoy finding your own style. X

The term Plus size is for clothes is for for a size 14 upwards. When I was a size 14 I was certainly not overweight.

I have no idea what people think of you, but that model is clearly overweight.

You and the OP seem to be the only two people who can't see it, or won't admit it's true.

Yanbu, the brown dress looks lovely on you. You can really see your waist. They’re just arms, it’s not offensive for anyone eyes to see arms that aren’t super skinny and toned. For context I’m a size 8 (but short at 5’3”!) and often think larger people look amazing in what they’re wearing - whether skimpy or not!

That same poster originally said

Dress 2 is awful. The whole fit of it is just wrong although maybe that is the model as she looks very overweight and it just doesn’t suit her figure at all.
Dress 1 and the brown dress are ok, but I’d keep looking if I was you.

Which was fine.

OP then took offence and announced she was a size 18, like the model. In that context, what was said was fine. She thinks is the dress doesn’t suit a woman of that size, she’d look better in other things but said OP should wear whatever she likes.

Nothing wrong with that.

OP I’ve tried to help. You and the model are a lot younger than me. I’m in my 50s. Anyone about my age should have learnt by now from life experiences not to comment on someone’s size. I’m going to retreat now as it’s not helped.

enjoy your lovely evening out at the wedding x

She’s a plus size model not an overweight model

Are they not exactly the same thing? ‘Plus size’ is just a euphemism.

I’m not sure anyone was asking for comments about the model though. The OP just wanted some help finding a nice dress to wear to an upcoming wedding. These things are stressful enough without comments like that.

And btw from a personal perspective I lost over a stone a while ago and got myself into a lower healthier category by my weight. I was still an 18. On the scale of weights I didn’t even think my weight was that high at that point but I didn’t drop a dress size.

She is visibly overweight.

I would agree with that comment tbh.

It’s a bad idea for someone to solicit opinions if they’re particularly sensitive to negative ones. People do have the right to comment, and will comment.

She’s a plus size model not an overweight model . And I don’t even like to call her plus size as I don’t like that term either. I’m plus size as well but I hope that’s not what people think of me as I’m walking towards them.

I'm not sure there would've been many comments on the model had the OP not tried to gaslight people by saying she's not overweight.

I think that's what turned that thread and this one into all about the model's weight.

She's an overweight model - that's just a fact.

But not one that prevents her from looking gorgeous.

Yeah well that’s not the problem the problem are the comments. Very nasty.

So not comments I’d expect to see in the style and beauty section. And I hope the poor model never reads them. It’s usually a very supportive board.

I think the consensus was that this dress is not nice. The size of the model doesn’t help but I don’t think it would be nice even on someone slim.

And this was another comment about the op’s dress size

Now I’ve seen you’re a size 18, dress 1 would also be unsuitable. Too much flesh on show.