How to get over limerance

You're speaking as if you don't have agency, and haven't repeatedly made the same decision.

It an affair, and you could have stopped it any time you wanted.

God how seedy - two married people snogging. Grow up or do your Husband a favour and leave him. All this shit about not wanting to stop going to the same place is just rubbish.

If you really want to end this affair before you end up sleeping with him, you will have to stop going to this place. If you continue to go it will be on your own head.

This man is a cheat and a liar. You can both be arseholes together if you want, it’s entirely up to you. If you have a problem with your own marriage maybe try to sort that out first.

Stop going to the same bar. Its that simple!

Really hoping 'the place' is a miniature model railway enthusiasts meet up and you just can't stop yourself swooning over a man in a train driver's hat as he chuffs around with his knees out balancing on a tiny train.

Lots of people with no idea that “limerance” is actually “limerence”(just for the Google search purposes).

Lots of people with no idea what limerance is. OP could very well be experiencing limerance. Her kissing the guy /having an affair doesn't stop it being limerance. Maybe a Google search would be good for some of you.

If it's limerance, you might want to consider therapy, OP.

Leave your husband (he probably won't leave his wife, you may not be the only bit on the side he is cultivating) or stop deliberately going to a place where you know you will cheat on him and have some self respect.
If you can't keep your mind out of your knickers, try having some respect for your husband.

You are a cheat and so is this man, that is all this is, it's nothing special or different.
You turn up to cheat on your husband, he turns up to cheat on his wife.

Very typical language for someone having an affair. I I I, me me me. And what do you mean you would not want to be party to his wife’s heartache? You already are! You are shitting on your own husband too and all your friends know? Nice. Pack it in, you are a grown up, choose better.

Block him, avoid him completely, whatever it takes. Get some counselling. Move on. If your marriage is rubbish, end it, but not because of him.

Yeah that’s not limerance love. You’re having an affair!

You can’t always have what you want.

if you want to stop the affair, you’ll stop going to this place. Since apparently when you go you can’t stop yourself cheating.

You’re going to get your arse handed to you here but I presume that’s what you came for.

Well yanbu to want to stop. It's not limerance though. Sorry to be pedantic. You're in full on affair territory. The way to stop it is not see him.

Limerance is a crush where you can't tell them because you or they or both are unavailable. It then feeds itself and you hope for it to be consummated but fear the rejection if you ever raised it and the hope and the fear keep you in a horrible loop of obsession.

In your case you are just in full on ability to approach and have sex with him. Don't do it. He will disappoint and it will wreck your marriage. Plus it's a straight up shitty thing to do and you know it.

Eventually your obsession will abate. Think about what is missing in your marriage. I doubt you can put the excitement back in. People Always act so scornful about what must be missing from a marriage to make you stray but the reality is most marriages lack sexual intrigue and excitement BUT if you have an affair and it goes the distance that will also end up in the same place or worse because its not the life you've built with your DH and you'll have trashed your family for what?

You'd be denying yourself so much future happiness for superficial things. How do you know new man would be any good at the things which make a good life partner? Chances are he's a shit if he's kissing you. So his willingness to kiss you disqualifies him from being worth kissing!!!